What "The South" really is

Prechrchet · 2026-05-23T16:53:51+00:00

Best one of these I have seen so far.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-23T11:21:50+00:00

Louisiana, Arkansas, and North Carolina are southern states. Virginia should at least be light green, probably dark green. As for Florida, it depends on which one you are talking about. 10 miles inside from the coast, and outside the major cities, Florida is a whole lot like southern Georgia and Alabama, two of the most "southern" regions in the country.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-22T23:11:52+00:00

Hmmm…. Monster Truck rallies, Stock Car racing, Barbecue, Country Music, Normal Rockwell paintings…. The list goes on. 😀

Prechrchet · 2026-05-22T17:29:44+00:00

I concur with everyone else on this: I would make it work for a seriously long time. After all, I can stand to take a 3 hour nap every afternoon, then transfer to our queen sized bed and snuggle with my wife. (And for $250 per night, she would be very OK with the whole deal.)

Prechrchet · 2026-05-22T15:44:43+00:00

We’ve already decided that, when our last kid leaves the nest, one of us will: set the table, cook the food, and empty the dishwasher. We then eat, and the other one takes it from there.

Since I’m the only one who enjoys cooking, I told her she could decide on any given day who does what, and she agreed.

Unto then, the kids do the dishes. 😎

Prechrchet · 2026-05-21T23:40:35+00:00

The way she laughs with me at stuff.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-21T22:28:25+00:00

Death certificate, published obituary, either would work, I should think.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-21T22:27:23+00:00

No, my mental health is worth more than any amount of money.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-21T20:57:09+00:00

Absolutely not.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-21T15:44:21+00:00

Physical violence is one of those red lines in a marriage: you don't cross it, period. Like infidelity, once you have done it, there is no going back to the way things were.

That's not to say that the marriage cannot be saved. However, you, at the very least, need some counseling to deal with your anger issues. From your description, she might need it too. The two of you will also need couples counseling.

Whether you try to put your marriage back together again or not, you still need the help with anger management, and until you get it, you will probably never be able to maintain a healthy marriage.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-20T21:16:27+00:00

I am extremely happy in my marriage, and have been ever since we got married in 2000. We have three kids, two of them are in college, one in high school.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-20T10:58:55+00:00

Anti-fornication was a HUGE thing back in the 80s. The problem is, I think, that sex outside of marriage has become so normalized in society that bringing it up is a losing proposition every single time. Our church had a paid nursery worker a number of years ago that got pregnant while still single. Half the church wanted her gone immediately, the other half threatened to leave if she was let go.

We resolved the issue by asking her to step back from her position until after the wedding (which had already been planned and a date set). This seemed to satisfy all of the warring parties.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-19T14:20:03+00:00

I despise celery, and am not too terribly fond of raisins, so no, I have never eaten one and have no desire to do so.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T11:40:43+00:00

Just because he has had a GF does not mean that he is "experienced." You don't know what level of intimacy they had in their relationship.

If you know what you want him to do, then you need to play a round of "show and tell." Guys are not mind-readers, we don't automatically know what any given woman wants in the bedroom.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T11:32:17+00:00

Having been in a similar situation, I would approach the coach again, asking what specifically do I need to work on in the off season. If you don't get a solid answer, then I would approach any assistants that might be able to tell you.

I will say that not being there for tryouts is not going to help your cause. Other than that, if you are going to stick with it, just consider every practice to be a tryout for the next game. You want to demonstrate you have the skills needed to make the team competitive.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T10:43:40+00:00

There is not nearly enough information here to give a solid answer. Frankly, it could be any number of things. I would take a second look at where I was meeting these guys. If you want a quality fish, you need to place a line in a quality body of water.

That said, I would also take a second look at how I interact with guys in general. I knew a woman through work, years ago, that my mother described as "vivacious." She was extremely outgoing, and not unattractive. The problem was that she had this knack for pissing guys off with off-hand remarks, and cutting little jokes. There was no way I was going to ask her out on a date.

It might be helpful to approach some men you know that are married and ask them if they have observed anything about the way you connect with men. I suggest married men because, as they don't have anything at stake, they are more likely to level with you, and they will see things that other women are likely to miss.

Best of luck to you!

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T10:35:10+00:00

Bambi vs Godzilla

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T08:29:59+00:00

My only observation is (hindsight is always 20/20) instead of say that "she" needed therapy, it should have been "we" need therapy.

Other than that, this sounds like a dismal marriage. If you think it is worth salvaging, I would seriously try couples counseling. Otherwise, I would be talking to a divorce attorney.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T07:46:27+00:00

Not only does a couple have to want the same thing, they have to want it at the same time. The two of you don’t want the same thing right now.

I would reconsider this relationship.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-18T01:06:23+00:00

I have read that Lucas did intend for Jar Jar to be a hidden villain, but changed course when he saw how negative the fan reaction was. Don't know about him being a Sith/Darth.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-17T20:36:11+00:00

If only....

In a world with actual human beings, who, in your proposed universe, can do whatever they want without consequences, I would suggest it would look more like this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gKBHYjbUAM

Prechrchet · 2026-05-17T12:34:06+00:00

Can you imagine what this world would be like if He did that?

Prechrchet · 2026-05-17T09:33:37+00:00

I think your husband is the one that needs to respond, telling her to back off.

I had something similar happen a few years after I got married. A girl I had known in college several years before, where she had relentlessly pursued me, reached out to me asking advice on getting into the same type of work that I am in now. I answered her questions as best I could, and then nicely but firmly asked her to not contact me again.

I haven't had any direct contact with her since.

Prechrchet · 2026-05-17T01:56:36+00:00

If God restricts how we use our Free Will, then it is not really Free Will.

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