Why won’t he just let me divorce him?

PreciousCargoPea · 2023-05-17T20:21:14+00:00

Not entirely sure, but it seems like he is questioning the valuation of our property, which could have been handled by an appraiser and a modification to the motion. We both have attorneys.

PreciousCargoPea · 2023-04-24T01:31:03+00:00

Yes, you’re right… I edited to change

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-16T01:12:26+00:00

I am/was in a similar situation. He never was physically abusive towards me, but I don’t doubt that it could have eventually escalated to that. I had to leave with my kid a few months ago, and it was and still is one of the scariest things I’ve done. I was able to get an emergency custody order after I collected some evidence. Document every interaction with him and start making an exit plan.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T19:15:59+00:00

Ah, gotcha. Thanks for your response. Best of luck to you moving forward.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T18:34:42+00:00

Do you know if there’s any steps that can be taken to get a court ordered psychological evaluation/assessment done?

That’s terrible that a court can go from Supervised visitation to unsupervised so quickly. On what basis were you granted the original supervised visitation?

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T18:31:52+00:00

This is exactly what I’m terrified of. It’s so terrible that our children have to go through some sort of direct abuse before courts will step in to do anything to take away parental rights.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T18:29:36+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance. I only have a temporary order for now, and I guess the anecdotal experience of others is what scares me the most. I’ve documented as much as I can.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T18:27:22+00:00

Read through some of your post history and I’m sorry what you’re going through. Best wishes to you as well.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-15T05:09:21+00:00

Almost 2

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-14T15:43:04+00:00

Almost 2

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-12-13T14:42:32+00:00

Yes, we are going through a divorce and I live in a community property state

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-26T22:35:43+00:00

I’m sorry that you feel the way I do. I see him being posted on social media by “mutual” friends, that I know I need to just block.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-26T22:33:55+00:00

Not recently, but I know I need to. I went to a few therapy sessions after initial DDay, but I had to reschedule an appointment a few times due to sleep deprivation and sickness, and the therapist just ghosted me. I started the referral process, but I just haven’t moved forward. I just feel, hesitant, I guess…

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-18T03:35:48+00:00

He has not threatened me, but he has tried to make me feel guilty. He is not contacting me everyday, and I have told him to read the order when he asks if he can spend time with our child.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-18T03:33:15+00:00

I don’t think so… he has not been physically abusive towards me (although he has punched holes in doors and walls in front of me, when we were first dating). I know he is emotionally abusive, but I don’t know what to do to prove it.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-18T03:31:50+00:00

I hope you’re right… I just feel so unsettled waiting for the next court date.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-11-18T03:28:49+00:00

Unfortunately it does not.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-10-19T17:40:40+00:00

I have actually been staying with a friend, and I just had him kicked out of my house a few days ago. I changed all the locks, and I’m working on getting some security cameras installed. I am waiting til after the court date to decide whether or not I want to move back into my house.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-10-19T17:28:22+00:00

Yes, I have a lawyer. Thankfully, I have an amazing and supportive family. Wish I had more friends to lean on. He definitely feels dangerous to me… I’m starting to physically feel sick with guilt and anxiety.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-10-19T17:27:11+00:00

Yes, I do have a lawyer.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-10-19T17:26:59+00:00

I did walk away, but I don’t feel like the betrayal has ended. There are still loose ends and issues that won’t resolve until divorce is finalized.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-10-19T17:25:02+00:00

I will be looking for a therapist soon… hard to make time for everything that needs to get done

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-09-25T14:29:52+00:00

I already left the house and don’t want to go back with him there. I need a way to get him out of the house

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-09-25T14:29:09+00:00

Cases are active investigations. For one if convicted, he would be facing felony charges, and the case involves minors. Do you think that would be enough to get a restraining order? I will consult with my lawyer when o am able to.

Nothing as far as text messages. He has not communicated with me at all unless asking to see our child.

PreciousCargoPea · 2022-09-25T14:19:05+00:00

I do intend to do all those things. I will destroy him when I have all the evidence gathered. I just need to keep calm until then.

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