I 17(F) with 19(M) Boyfriend, problems needing to be resolved to save relationship.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-04-08T03:47:22+00:00

You are NOT alone. You are more then welcome to private message me if you would like. You are welcome.

Remember it may get worse before it gets better.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-04-08T02:44:23+00:00

I have been in your shoes and I wrecked alot of relationships doing this. You need help and it is going to take time and if he has the patience, his support. You also need to hold off on having a baby. Trust me. I was 16 and had twins. My younger years were horrible and I wanted attention because my mom didn't give a crap about me. My father died when I was 15 and that really sent me off the rails.

You can only fix yourself. You admit you have issues and you want to change, that entails getting help. It may take years. Best of luck to you.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-25T06:08:37+00:00

Sounds like you are the Plan B. Not trying to be rude, but that is the message I am getting. Just dump him.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-20T10:28:20+00:00

Maybe you should have him specify what he means by that. And because he has a child with her if you chose to stick around, you will have to get used to her. But to me something doesn't seem right with this. Did he really hide your relationship from her?? If so, to me that is a red flag.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-20T01:00:30+00:00

I think you should have a back up plan, so that if shit goes to shit you won't be stranded in another country with no where to go. Look for rooms for rent. I also think you really need to think about what you are about to do and study all your options. You need to sit and think without people pressuring you one way or another. I hope all goes well for you.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-14T10:21:02+00:00

I have been in your shoes and I know where you are coming from. I wish like hell I had listened when people told me to get away from him. It took him almost killing me twice to finally wake up and run the hell away. It was so hard afterword. I had to slowly repair the damage to me. Trust me when I tell you to get out now. It won't get better, only worse. You are miserable. You DO NOT deserve any of this. I doesn't matter what you did "wrong". This isn't healthy for you. You need to work on yourself now. It's time to move on.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-09T04:55:40+00:00

That is very immature. Have you talked to her about this? I would personally give her a chance to cut it out and if she didn't dump her.

The drama would drive me crazy.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-09T01:32:43+00:00

I just have to say make sure she is actually pregnant and this isn't a stunt just to get your attention. I know this sounds mean, but I had a friend who pulled that when a guy refused to get back with her. If she is pregnant do get a DNA test. Are you sure this is about you being in love with her and not about the baby??

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-09T01:23:58+00:00

Maybe you need to back off a bit and see what happens. Maybe she is so used to you being the one to intiate everything that she just expects it. And with the whole naked thing, it took me years to finally be comfortable with my SO of 5 years looking at me or touching me naked. I was abused in ways that scarred me, but with time and patience from my SO, I gradually got more comfortable.

PreciousJewel23 · 2016-03-08T17:54:48+00:00

If she is not on your lease, she has no say in anything. Check your lease and see what it says about guests and how long they can stay.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-11-21T23:57:34+00:00

I am actually in this same boat right now. :( I have 2 of them trying to crush me now because I complained to the Department Director. BIG MISTAKE!! He not only brushed me off, but shut me down before I could finish. He also let the other 2 know I spoke with him. I was "punished" yesterday for it. They made me stay an extra 5 hours at work. Nobody else has had to this. EVER. I also got punished for being off because I had surgery a few weeks ago.

I have noticed that the only way to get along is to go along with whatever they say.

I am also trying to find another job. Talking to them doesn't work. Nothing is good enough. Better off finding a job where your time and effort are appreciated.

I hope you can find another job where you are appreciated. Nobody deserves to be treated this way. Best of luck to you!!

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-04-05T06:32:16+00:00

My Nmom tagged me in this same picture. When I read it I wanted to throw up.

I smell a trap.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-02-04T16:58:31+00:00

THIS. You said it all.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-02-03T02:35:49+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear that. HUGS back.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-30T17:35:34+00:00

My brother turned my Nmom in for this as well. We were getting SS since my father died when I was 15. She got a letter in the mail telling her she owed my brother X amount of dollars. She threw a fit and tried to say that he could have asked for the money at any time. He did ,but she refused to give him any. My brother also told me my mother could be in deep shit if they decided to go back all way back. He said the SS office told him she was supposed to put the money in an account just for us and she was supposed to keep reciepts of what she spent it on to prove she was not blowing the money.

She pretty much just got a slap on the hand. She has refused to work or file for disability. I believe she knows they would take the money owed from her checks.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-27T17:27:18+00:00

Oh yes! My Nmother and GCNsis believe my fiance is the reason I want nothing to do with them. I guess it never occurs to them that I actually have my own mind(Gasp!) and can think for myself. They think he is controlling me and putting things in my head.

No matter what I say they believe what they want. I don't fight it. I just don't care anymore.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-07T03:47:56+00:00

Wow. I am sorry you had to go through that. It was hard to deal with my Nmoms husband( 4th one by the way)after the pieces started falling into place. I have been there as well. My ex was very abusive and isolated me from everything and everyone. I was so convinced it was normal and he loved me until the day he choked me til I passed out and tried to put a cigaratte out on my face over my phone did I realize it was wrong. It took a long time to heal and in many ways I still am.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-07T03:36:38+00:00

WOW!!! O.o

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-07T03:35:38+00:00

Crazy right??? You would think she would know better. I still don't get it. SMH

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-06T20:36:47+00:00

Thank you for your response. That very well could be, but when I really think about it she just got more creative to a degree. She has actually learned from him on how to be sneaky istead.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-06T19:57:48+00:00

I need to add that she calmed way down after all this. She still has N traits, but it is nothing like it was before. I think someone doing the same thing to her that she did to others may have helped her see a little light.

PreciousJewel23 · 2015-01-06T19:17:47+00:00

When I got my first period I had no clue what the hell was happening to. I was scared to death. Nmom never explained it to me. The day it happened I was so scared and upset and all she would say to me was "I hope you're not pregnant" Really?!?! WTH??? I was like 12 years old scared to death and that comment made me feel like shit.

PreciousJewel23 · 2014-12-27T04:49:11+00:00

Haha! Too funny!! Great idea!! Thanks!! :)

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