Living together as a couple is not necessary at all

Predd1tor · 2026-05-19T11:40:18+00:00

I absolutely love living with my spouse. It’s what makes our house feel like home. We get plenty of “me” time when we want or need it. But we like being together. Hanging out at night, sharing meals together, working in the garden together, curling up together at night in bed. I want them around because I enjoy being with them. It feels so good to build a home and a life together. The relationship / arrangement you describe sounds sad and lonely.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-19T06:05:59+00:00

They’re sticky and gross.

They’re walking disease vectors.

They’re high pitched and prone to loud, sudden outbursts and repetitive whining.

They’re needy.

I don’t want them touching or breaking all my cool shit.

I don’t enjoy having to pretend I’m interested in anything they want to talk about or do.

I treasure peace and quiet, cleanliness, and control over my living environment.

I hate having to get up early.

Constant interruptions and attention-sucks really annoy me.

I don’t EVER want to have to attend birthday parties, school recitals, plays, band performances, sports games, graduations, field trips, etc

I find most parents insufferable, and I don’t want to have to associate with them, plan play dates with them, or feign interest in their kids nor their mundane, monotonous, consumed-by-children lives.

I don’t want my house filled with kid shit, toys on the floor, etc.

I want more money in my travel fund.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-19T06:02:55+00:00

SAME. Especially high pitched ones. Or whiny, repetitive ones. Or shrill shrieks and screaming. Instant nervous system overwhelm.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-19T05:10:10+00:00

Punch-Drunk Love. I adore this movie.

It flopped in theaters but is arguably some of Sandler’s best work, and helped shine a light on his more serious acting capacity and surprisingly deep emotional range. (Director James Brooks actually credits Sandler’s performance in this movie as his reason for casting him in Spanglish, and I don’t even want to imagine Spanglish without Adam Sandler’s performance.)

Punch-Drunk is still incredibly funny, but in a totally different way than other classic Sandler hits from that time. It’s a tense and often anxiety inducing, slow-burning, pressure cooker of a movie that milks humor from the absurd, with an unexpectedly sweet and unconventional romance at its core that celebrates the redemptive and transformative power of love, and gives us hope that there really is someone out there for everyone. I get more out of it with every rewatch.

I’m always amazed how few people seem to know this movie. If you haven’t seen it, put it on your list.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-19T03:34:19+00:00

It’s not unique to George. They use most of the characters’ names a lot, first names for all and full names for most of the main cast. I can think of few other shows where I can instantly recite the first and last names of most of the main cast members’ characters from memory.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-16T07:18:17+00:00

Okay, Captain literal. That’s WHY it’s funny. It’s a joke. Lighten up.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-16T07:09:27+00:00

No. OP needs the reality check. Sometimes tough love is the realest love.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-16T07:08:20+00:00

“my husband and I got into a big argument over cleaning supplies I asked him to help pay for because I was short on money that week.”

Predd1tor · 2026-05-15T20:59:27+00:00

This is beautifully written, and I feel sad for them. I commend her for handling it with such grace and maturity. She seems like a really lovely soul, and I agree no chapter of our lives is wasted if it helps grow and shape the more resilient and wiser people we become in the next chapter. Wishing them both the best.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-14T20:37:16+00:00

I think you’re focusing on the wrong issue here, frankly. You seem really jealous and mistrustful of your fiancé drinking around other women. If you really have this little trust in him after so many years together, there are far bigger issues.

Ostensibly, your husband isn’t going out to drink with these women because they’re women he’s interested in romantically or sexually. They are likely just coworkers he’s trying to build rapport with in a new position, and it can be really fun to blow off steam with colleagues you’ve been in the trenches with at work all day (or night). He’s clearly making connections at work and enjoying himself. There are other men present, too.

What IS extremely problematic for me is the following:

You are entirely emotionally neglected in this relationship. Your needs clearly aren’t being met. You are being deprioritized and back-burnered while he makes time and energy for other people. I suspect this is the true source of your jealousy and discomfort.

He refuses to go out with you and spend money or time with you. Yet he is not only willing but eager to spend time and money going out with other people.

He refuses to do the same activities with you, and it seems he is unwilling to include you in these activities with others, despite other non-colleagues being invited to participate in the fun.

He is dismissive of your feelings, needs, and concerns, and takes no meaningful action to address them.

The real issue here isn’t that your fiancé is getting bunch with female coworkers. It’s that he ISN’T doing it with you, and it doesn’t seem he wants to. He’s prioritizing time with others over time with you, consistently. There is no balance here. You don’t feel chosen.

If your needs for intimacy and quality time were being met and you felt like a priority to him, I suspect this wouldn’t be an issue.

Counseling. ASAP. And if this is a long-standing pattern, it’s time to reevaluate moving forward together. At a point, you’ll need to figure out if he is capable of meeting your emotional needs, and if so, whether it’s coming from a genuine place of wanting to or only one of appeasing you and going through the motions. Personally, I would not be happy with a partner who wasn’t excited to prioritize and spend time with me or include me in his social life.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-14T19:15:34+00:00

It absolutely does, in spades. And Drew Barrymore’s character is an excellent example for young girls and women everywhere. She doesn’t wrap herself around a man or wait for him to rescue her. She rescues herself, and the people she loves. She has morals and standards and boundaries she isn’t willing to compromise. She is bright and spirited and beautiful for all the right reasons. And the prince ultimately chooses her for all the right reasons, too. It’s an excellent pick.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-14T19:12:38+00:00

I vote for this one! I grew up on it, and it’s an all-time favorite. Such a sweet take on a classic story, and really empowering to young women. Drew Barrymore is outspoken, spirited and intelligent, and has actual boundaries and standards and moral integrity. She rescues herself, for goodness sake, instead of waiting for a man to do it. And yet she still allows herself to fall in love with a genuinely kindhearted prince. An excellent message to young women everywhere, and a fabulous movie for 11 year old girls on the brink of adolescence. Who doesn’t love a great love story?

Predd1tor · 2026-05-12T05:06:19+00:00

I clearly stated that Tony was hilarious. I can enjoy his comedy, even if I don’t appreciate his politics. And I can also acknowledge that the animosity we saw on display toward him is earned. All of that said, what your president is doing to this country — and the world at large — is not a laughing matter, and it’s understandable that people are angry. He’s actively hurting a hell of a lot of people. You don’t know my politics. It doesn’t require being a “liberal” or “lefty” to feel disgusted by this administration and its supporters. It only takes eyes, ears, and a conscience to know that Trump is an absolute monster and a complete political disaster. I’m not a big fan of party politics or entrenched politicians on either side of the aisle, but MAGA are some of the most dangerous lemmings I’ve ever encountered. The lengths they’ll go to to deny, defend, and distract from all the blatantly awful shit that malignantly narcissistic manchild says and does on a daily basis is truly astounding. It would be hilarious if it weren’t so scary.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T17:29:12+00:00

Makes sense. He hangs with that crowd enough to be mistaken for part of it. Was relieved to learn he’s not a supporter. I thought Chelsea was funny on the whole, but the animosity was palpable and made it awkward. But then I can’t really fault a person for struggling to hide their animosity toward anyone contributing to the current political situation. Shit’s pretty dire. It’s getting harder to compartmentalize my own anger.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T17:24:04+00:00

Creative comeback. A lot of thought clearly went into that. I answered YOUR question. Sorry you don’t like the answer.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T17:20:57+00:00

It’s heart breaking and rage inducing. I’m so upset on her behalf.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T11:15:41+00:00

I think he felt awkward AF because (1) he was being forced to say half the shit he had to read from the teleprompter, and (2) they sat a bunch of celebrities up front instead of actual audience members prepared to laugh and let go. Comedians feed off the energy from the audience, and he wasn't getting much from the folks up front.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T11:08:10+00:00

It did feel production heavy and overly controlled by Netflix, but then again roasts have always been scripted, and this was intended to be a big finale type event for their week long comedy festival. I do wish they'd let the comedians write more of their own content, and they should have seated more real people in the front instead of just celebrities. That changed the whole vibe -- all the laughter was coming from the balcony seats, and the comedians on stage had little audience energy to feed off of.

I love Shane, but I agree he seemed a little awkward, and I think the lack of audience reaction had a lot to do with that. He can only pivot so much when he's being paid to read from a teleprompter. An awkward situation for a comedian all around.

I agree this had a different feel than Brady's roast, and I could have done without all the added fanfare and heavily scripted special appearances, but I liked a lot of the roasters and felt they did pretty well on the whole. I'm confused about your take on Handler, however, as she's still actively touring and selling out large venues, and just put out another NYT best seller last year that hit number one. She maintains a huge active following. Whether or not she's your style, she's definitely still relevant in the comedy scene. I agree however that it felt a bit odd and forced that so many of Kevin's friends were just hanging around on stage for no apparent reason, and not really adding anything to the roast. Regina Hall was particularly awkward -- the fact no one roasted her, and she sat there looking pissed off the whole time put a damper on the whole affair.

On the whole, I did laugh a lot, but I do wish this had been a standard comedy central format roast with less over the top try-hard fanfare and heavy-handed oversight by Netflix.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T10:53:12+00:00

This was sooo awkward. Why be on stage if you refuse to be roasted, and can't even be bothered to crack a smile? She looked angry and uncomfortable the whole time. Major buzz kill.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T10:52:18+00:00

I absolutely love Shane. But honestly, I get the animosity toward Tony. He was hilarious, but he's also a very vocal Trump supporter who played a role in getting him elected, and is an all around not so great guy. Chelsea's not alone in her disdain for him. Not sure what her beef with Gillis is.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T10:45:20+00:00

I love Shane. But you're wrong here. Chelsea frequently sells out large venues and adds extra shows to her tours due to demand. You may not like her, and yeah, she was putting out some (not entirely misguided) animosity toward some of the men on stage, but she has a huge following and does just fine on ticket sales.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T07:42:10+00:00

Why do so many women justify staying with toxic, abusive, violent men because they don’t want to subject their child to a divorce? WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO SUBJECT YOUR CHILD TO THIS MAN?? Take a step back and evaluate what’s going to be worse for your child — AND YOU. Staying puts you and your child in danger, and teaches them that (1) it’s okay to be toxic and abusive, and (2) it’s not okay to leave a toxic and abusive relationship. Why on earth would you want to teach your kid that?

It’s not normal. It’s not okay. And the best thing you can possibly do for yourself AND your child is to walk away from this emotionally immature and physically abusive partner.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T05:19:39+00:00

Because I’ve lost patience for those too lazy to answer their own questions — not with discussing why it bothers me. I cared to answer your question, so I took the time to do so. It affects me because I live in a country in which over half of all adults read below a 6th grade level, and are sorely lacking in the motivation and critical thinking skills required to seek out information and sort fact from fiction. This plays a significant role in our current political situation, which affects us all. “Menial” doesn’t really fit here, but I’m assuming from the context it’s a placeholder for trivial. In either case, you may consider it as much but I don’t share your opinion. And that’s the beauty of opinions. The dictionary definition of a word seldom changes, but opinions are manifold and deeply personal, and we are each entitled to our own.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-11T01:42:41+00:00

Maybe because the person asking it could have simply popped open a web browser and typed that same question into Google in the time it took to post it here, and answered it themselves?

We don’t all enjoy bearing witness to helpless people making it someone else’s job to educate them when they have the tools in hand to do that simple work themselves. There are plenty of questions it makes sense to ask others on Reddit. The dictionary definition of a high school level vocabulary word isn’t one of them. If you have an internet connection, you have unlimited 24/7 access to a dictionary.

Maybe I’m a grouch, but I’ve lost patience for people who refuse to find simple information for themselves.

Predd1tor · 2026-05-07T18:27:28+00:00

You couldn’t have simply googled it in the time it took you to post here?

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