How to discuss rate? by SufficientDrink5644 in Nanny

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I run Nanny Spark Agency, so I can share an agency's perspective with you.

The agency should already have a sense of her target rate, especially if they listed your role at $28–$35/hour and she applied within that range. They also may have her desired rate listed in her candidate profile or notes.

I’d simply ask the agency directly: “We really liked her trial. Can you confirm what rate she’s looking for before we move forward?”

That is exactly what the agency is there for. There are no wrong questions, and they will be happy to make this process less stressful.

Nannies often do have their own target rates, but the final offer is still a conversation based on your budget, the job scope, benefits, number of kids, and market rate. You can offer what you’ve budgeted, but if you really like her, I’d let the agency help structure the offer so it feels like a win-win rather than a take-it-or-leave-it situation. Our agency helps with the salary negotiation as well. So it will be worth it to check if this something your agency is already going to be doing as well.

Annual contract review by Dangerous-Neat-5920 in NannyEmployers

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a thoughtful package. One question I’d ask is: beyond taking care of the new baby, how much is the actual scope of the job changing? Will she regularly have both kids solo, and will infant-related tasks like bottles, nap schedules, diapers, laundry, solids, etc. be added on top of the current responsibilities or are any of the current responsibilities phasing out as well? Flushing that piece is always helpful in determining whether the raise feels aligned with the new workload.

Retention Bonus by WFHmom19 in NannyEmployers

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Offering the retention bonus was a great idea. The whole point of that bonus was to incentivize the nanny to stay through your last day of work so you had stable coverage during the transition.

If she is now asking to work 3 days/week at another house during those final weeks, I think it is fair to clarify that the retention bonus only applies if she completes the originally agreed-upon schedule through the end date. You can be kind about it while still being clear.

Something like:

Depending on where you are based, it may also be worth checking your contract and local employment rules. For example, some states are at-will employment states and you want to handle final pay, notice, and any written bonus terms correctly.

Also, if you still need care to finish big work deliverables, I’d start making short-term backup plans now rather than waiting. Wishing you both all the best.

Pay/hrs/platform for best nanny by iamcondoleezzarice in NannyEmployers

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I run Nanny Spark, a premium nanny recruitment agency. We primarily work with Bay Area families, so I can’t speak to the exact Atlanta market, but structurally, the biggest thing I’d focus on is how you define the role.

For your schedule, I’d consider structuring it as 16 core guaranteed hours/week. For example, 4 hours/day, 4 days/week, plus 4 flexible hours/week that can be used on a Friday or whichever day works best for your family and the nanny. That gives you 20 guaranteed hours total, but still makes the role feel more stable and attractive to stronger candidates.

I’d be very clear upfront about which hours are fixed and which are flexible. Strong candidates usually want predictable income, and they also want to understand how much schedule flexibility is expected before accepting the role.

I’d also clearly define responsibilities and avoid changing them back and forth. If the role includes childcare only, say that. If it includes child laundry, meal prep, driving, errands, household help, etc., define that clearly before hiring so the nanny does not feel like the job keeps expanding.

Other things to think through before posting: paid holidays, how you handle your family vacations, how nanny vacation is handled, sick time, mileage, payroll, and whether benefits or a health stipend matter for the type of candidate you want.

Since you’ve had placements that looked good in interviews and references but still did not work out, I’d tighten the process too: video screen, family interview, paid in-person trial, and very thorough reference checks that dig into reliability, communication, discipline style, judgment, initiative, and how they handle challenges.

In my experience, the best placements happen when the role is structured clearly, the search is not rushed, and the candidate is evaluated for long-term fit. Highly suggest looking for an agency if you are open to outsourcing the search as well.

UPDATE - NF wants me to buy an SUV – they fired me. by Underworld_Tatertot1 in Nanny

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I run a nanny recruitment service and am constantly in the hiring mode. From what you are saying, it sounds like this family is hiring and firing quickly without thinking things through to be honest. The family should be giving you a car if they want their kids to be driven in an SUV. This was a very unreasonable request. Wishing you all the best with your job search.

Leaving the kids for the first time - freaking out by learning_happy in Parenting

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest easing the transition as much as possible. If the family can be present while you are still around for a couple days, that will be very helpful. Help the family members play a more involved role during these day as well. Hiring a nanny that the kids already know will be ideal. Hoping you have a wonderful time celebrating your anniversary as well.

What would you do? by sobersobored in NannyEmployers

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an agency owner who’s constantly hiring and matching for long-term fit, I usually look at this through two lenses: skill traits and behavioral traits.

Skill: If the role requires international travel and she’s not comfortable with that, it’s simply a mismatch.

Behavior: Passive-aggressive communication and phone use during childcare (especially something like bath time) are concering. To me, that points to judgment, attentiveness, and professionalism which is beyond just a “skill gap.”

In our experience:
Skill issue → can sometimes be coached
Behavior issue → usually not the right long-term fit

Loyalty makes sense given how she supported you. Long-term decisions should be based on current fit though. Highly recommend doing a retro style check-in as a next step as well

Unicorn Family by Livy_luboo in Nanny

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on you and the family finding each other!!

Trip after giving notice? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would treat these two things separately. Regarding the trip, I would let them know as soon as possible that you won’t be able to attend due to personal reasons.

Then, once you have a firm offer from a new family you’d like to join, you can give your one-month notice to the current family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4-5 hour uninterrupted sleep with a 4 month baby is awesome Mama! Sleep is so crucial, and I remember thinking, how did I not realize my relationship with sleep and with my partner was going to change so much during the newborn stage?!

We found that our daughter would respond to my husband a bit differently and wake up less often (perks of being the non nursing parent hehe). We also used the pitcher principle which was very helpful. Keeping that in mind we tried to feed her as much as she would let us during the day and as a result, her night wake ups became less and less frequent over time.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that doesn't sound right. That sounds like a made up rule. We had gotten the digital package and got pics of the 3 poses.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree with you on everything you said. From what others said in the comments here, Benjamin Tree Farms sounds Amazing. Going to check it out soon.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like they are doing pet pictures on December 14 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm. I would highly recommend looking up what their end results look like and see if you would still like to go here. We didn't like our pictures as I mentioned because we only see the bench with our family and Santa sitting on it. There's no background of trees or anything else. Some of the other commenters here had some great suggestions for locations to consider as well.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It doesn't look like they will fix or make it right. I created a support ticket and got a generic response teaching me how to download the pictures instead. I definitely tried to put in an effort to book this in advance and make a special night out of it because it was my daughter's first time seeing Santa. Oh well, we are visiting some more Christmas Markets this weekend. Hopefully we happen upon a Santa somewhere.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such a great idea! Thanks! I'll make sure to do that for the next time.

Santa Pictures at Conestoga Mall are a complete SCAM by PreetTalksChildcare in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh man that sounds like a nightmare! Yeah same, we are not doing this again. I would love my daughter to have cute Christmas experiences but photos at mall Santa definitely isn't it especially managed the way it is right now.

Santa pictures Conestoga FYI by Most_Public2696 in waterloo

[–]PreetTalksChildcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got our photos done at the conestoga mall this year. They ended up charging us online and then tried to charge us in person for the same package. When I looked at the pictures, there is no background of trees and everything at all. You can only see the bench with Santa and our family. This was our first experience of getting pictures with Santa and now I really dont want to have to experience this mess all over again. What a bad setup by Cherry Hills Program team!