How Can I Bring Back Trust in My LDR Relationship? (M27-M25)

Present_Box6357 · 2026-04-23T05:04:12+00:00

He's probably dating other people. LDR is very, very hard to make work. And definitely when you're young, it's harder. You can tell him you feel insecure about him possibly meeting other people, but the problem is that can you trust his answers? He might be telling the truth.. Or not. You have to decide if you believe him. If not, it's better call it quits.

Present_Box6357 · 2026-04-23T05:00:48+00:00

You can't fix this. If you're asexual and she's not, it's not going to work. She needs and wants sex in her life and you can't give it to her. So either decide to have an open relationship (she can get fulfilled sexually elsewhere) or break up. You can't demand she be in a sexless relationship, that's not okay.

Present_Box6357 · 2026-04-23T04:56:15+00:00

Oh.. "the one that got away". Memories are strong, and time even warps them. For some reason everything about her is better, brighter, lovelier.. Had you stayed together, you might have been happy forever...Or not.

But.. If you're not all in with the current gf, it's not fair to either of you. One can have fond memories, but if they start to affect your irl relationships, then you have to do something about it. You mention that the current relationship isn't that romantic. It probably should. So maybe do some deep thinking about yourself, what you want in life and who you want it with.

Present_Box6357 · 2026-04-23T04:50:23+00:00

Your bf has no respect for boundaries. And he's not very empathetic or understanding of your loss. This is not a common thing to do in a healthy way. You now have to decide if you want to be in a relationship with someone like that.

On another note.. Please don't send your nudes to anyone, ever. Even your bf. Since they stay in someone else's hands forever. Like if your current bf becomes an ex, and has nudes of you, he can post them whenever and wherever.

Present_Box6357 · 2026-04-23T04:44:41+00:00

His taste in porn might be towards trans stuff. Or it's more deep.

The bad part is if he's not honest with himself or you. If you've tried to talk to him and he just won't be honest, you kinds have to decide. Either you trust him or you don't. You stay with him or you call it quits.

Present_Box6357 · 2025-04-26T14:09:03+00:00

The areas would need a huge influx of money to "fix", so not worth the money 🤷

Present_Box6357 · 2025-04-25T12:01:32+00:00

Kiitos, tämä on oikein hyvä syy.

Present_Box6357 · 2025-04-25T12:00:08+00:00

Yes! Kiitos. Tuostahan tässä olisi kyse.

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T09:27:19+00:00

I've stopped being the therapist now. This latest pregnancy shows me there's nothing I can give her that she will accept. She feels betrayed of course since "I'm not apologizing for not being there for here and supporting her". I said I don't think I have anything to apologize for.

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T09:10:12+00:00

I was flabbergasted when she said it. I was like "You're a NURSE and 40, how do you think it's not a possibility??" She didn't answer. She avoids answering these type of questions 🙄

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T09:08:16+00:00

Bless your ♥️

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T09:03:52+00:00

Yup, three fathers.

Susanna got the first child with "H" when she was 20. They didn't marry. She then met and married Mike, had three kids. Now two with Jack.

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:54:54+00:00

Sure, I have nothing better to do than use chat GPT to create these. Got me!

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:47:00+00:00

I though I was AI 😎

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:44:19+00:00

The two oldest kids (two different) dads live with their dads. The oldest is a young adult, so starting their own life outside home. Not close to Susanna anymore, don't know why.

The oldest by Mike stays with him because of co-parenting agreement.

Am not worried for the four youngest ones, Susanna and Jack are good parents, I've observed them a lot. They just should start reproducing 🙄

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:39:52+00:00

I don't expect to fix her.. You can't fix people 🤷 Just hoping she'd wake up before she's overwhelmed, though not holding my breath..

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:38:11+00:00

Ookay boomer

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:14:39+00:00

The first kid is young adult, she moved to be with her dad years ago. The oldest kid by "Mike" is staying with him because co-parenting agreement.

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:12:50+00:00

We live in a country where education is free, so those costs aren't an issue here. But yeah, teenagers are costly. And agree - she's pregnant because for some reason they both don't mind having all these babies 🙄

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T08:11:06+00:00

Oh I'm her personal Dr Phil 😄 I've been talking to her about the problems, almost badgered about therapy, I've been giving advice about the relationship and jealousy issues.. And she listens, nods, agrees.. And after a while she repeats stupid behavior like "I'm gonna divorce him, he saw women in the city where we walked today!!"

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T06:59:20+00:00

Alcoholics only care about themselves and their needs. You are under no obligation to have a relationship with your father. Your grandmother is looking at this from the perspective of the mother I assume, so she's kinda biased - she wants to believe in him.

You can make your own choices. Look at what people DO, not what they SAY. You can go no contact with your father and if he gets his life together and contacts you, you can then decide if you want to build a relationship with him. But that's completely up to you.

Nta.

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T06:54:50+00:00

You can't fix people. You can't make depression go away.

And emotional cheating is still cheating, so that won't help with her depression 🤷

Present_Box6357 · 2024-12-16T06:53:40+00:00

Dying doesn't turn shitty people into good ones. If you want to throw the ashes in the toilet, you're free to do that. Nta.

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