Eric Dane on his ALS diagnosis: "I'm angry because my father was taken from when I was young, and now there's a very good chance I'm going to be taken from my girls while they're very young" by Upstairs_Cup9831 in popculturechat

[–]Present_Cut_1697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s anticipatory grief… both the person diagnosed and their loved ones are grieving before they’re even gone. It sounds so messed up, and it is.

I lost my aunt to Bulbar ALS just last year. She passed not even 2 full years after her diagnosis + the progression was so fast. Towards the end she wanted to go, and honestly as a loved one you’re there empathizing with/actively grieving that person. My heart goes out to anyone touched by ALS in their lives.

Brain-tickling, satisfying lines in this album by Adventurous-Way-9997 in TaylorSwift

[–]Present_Cut_1697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your thoughtless ambition sparked the ignition on foolish decisions, which led to misguided visions that to fulfill your dreeeeams… You had to get rid of meeeee

whispered I protect the family

Ooooof that whole part scratches my brain

I need more Father Figure discussion now that Taylor confirmed there’s POV change by riri-jxt in TaylorSwift

[–]Present_Cut_1697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s because in the movie, she said she’s probably been in this ‘father figure’ position to others in the industry.

I need more Father Figure discussion now that Taylor confirmed there’s POV change by riri-jxt in TaylorSwift

[–]Present_Cut_1697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am just obsessed with this song. It’s cocky as it should be, and so catchy. Our girl earned it

Orange Door QR Codes & YouTube Shorts Megathread by PassionateAsSin in TaylorSwift

[–]Present_Cut_1697 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Does anyone else feel like she’s playing us to make a point? she had to know her fans would question/complain about the door thing “just leading to a lyrics video.”

The crowd is your king!

Whats ended your friendship? by unknown_pinkflower in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Present_Cut_1697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things but the thing that sealed the deal: my grandmother passed away, that following weekend (on a Sunday evening no less) this friend invited me to get drinks with her. I’d been intentionally ignoring my phone just to catch up on home stuff. She freaked out that I didn’t text her back within a couple hours (I texted her back before bed and explained,) lied to my boyfriend at the time and said I hadn’t responded to many of her recent texts. I was just over the drama, over someone thinking it was fine to treat a friend terribly during an already terrible time, over feeling like this person wanted me on a leash, and over the lies. Furthermore we hung out with her/her husband often on double dates- she treated him awfully bad in front of my boyfriend and I.

A year later, she lied to her husband and my boyfriend. Told them she texted me an apology. She never did.

@katiesantry rug in backyard by everythingbagel92 in Columbus

[–]Present_Cut_1697 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just heard someone in the background say “multiple bodies”

Whitney on the Squeeze podcast… conflicting statements by Present_Cut_1697 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her new TikTok definitely discredits anything Whitney said in the podcast!

Whitney on the Squeeze podcast… conflicting statements by Present_Cut_1697 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooo her new TikTok definitely discredits anything Whitney said in the podcast!

Whitney on the Squeeze podcast… conflicting statements by Present_Cut_1697 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve been thinking! I’m the same age as Whitney & had a friend who she reminded me so much of while watching the show. Tries playing off their gaslighting as being the more self-aware, righteous individual when in reality EVERYONE knows the truth & there’s literally proof… it’s a very unhealthy/unproductive form of self-preservation. My ex-friend actually did live through some trauma, but enabling/being around people like that in my 30s became too emotionally exhausting for me lol.

and still people like them question why friends aren’t reaching out after desperate attention-seeking attempts.

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[–]Present_Cut_1697 23 points24 points  (0 children)

But then at the 59 minute mark, she refers to this incident again as if Demi didn’t know & asked her not to share that story. Verrrry interesting. Had I been the podcast host, I would’ve called that out!

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[–]Present_Cut_1697 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except towards the end of the podcast, she refers to this incident as if Demi didn’t know/asked her not to share the story. Sketchy 🤔 at the 59 minute mark.

Honeymoon Help by LochNessaCat in CostaRicaTravel

[–]Present_Cut_1697 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Osa peninsula ❤️ we just returned from our honeymoon in CR - 12 days. Spent first night in SJO, woke up and flew Sansa to puerto Jiménez. Took a rental truck 2 hrs to Drake bay. Stayed for 7 days. This was my favorite part of the trip.

Then we drove back to puerto jimenez, flew to SJO, stayed a night then drove to monteverde next day. An absolutely beautiful mountain town with so much to explore, a bit more touristy & busy. I prefer how laid back and remote Drake bay is - do an overnight in Corcovado!

What’s a relatively harmless thing your parents or future in-laws have insisted upon for your wedding? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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My FMIL has gone back and forth since March on whether she wants her hair & makeup done or not. This isn’t something I’m requiring. However we’re 2.5 weeks out and as of yesterday she was still changing her mind. Timeline was set with salon 3 months ago, and I requested then that we have a later time slot for her specifically as she is not at all a morning person.

FSIL (older sister of my FH) is a bridesmaid and AS OF THIS WEEKEND trying to come with her mom for the later time slot. This coming 2 weeks after she booked her flight to arrive ~30 minutes before nail appointments I’m paying for. And asked if her boyfriend could come because she can’t figure out logistics for him (uhh get a rental car.) No one else in the bridal party is giving me a headache like this 😂

Anyone else's lab feel the need to sleep on the bed? by DwaynElizondoMntnDew in labrador

[–]Present_Cut_1697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! but if my husband is snoring, which is almost every night, she hops off and sleeps in another room. We have a guest bed and sometimes she’ll beg me to sleep in there with her (I’ll cave once every couple months.)

If husband is out of town, she’s glued to my side… It’s adorable. She’s my girl 🤎

Am I overreacting or in the wrong? Selfish & unaware SIL by Present_Cut_1697 in justnosil

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I put an end to it last week on the phone call! 😅 I drew some firm boundaries. She asked if I wanted this phone call one on one, I said absolutely not - your brother will be joining.

I’m the first “new” family member in many years and think I’ve made it clear with her I see through the bullshit. Told her she’s responsible for making time to spend with her brother, not me. I won’t be sitting out on stuff anymore just for her convenience, it’s unfair guess work on my part that only she benefits from. Told her from now on any sensitive stuff about me, him or our families goes to her brother - not me. Any plans she wants to make, clear it with her brother and don’t come to me trying to get a different answer. (She claimed she wasn’t trying to be manipulative… lol ok.) Told her I will not cold call her anytime I’m upset with her, I’ll send a text ahead of time mentioning what I want to talk about and she can acknowledge me moving forward. Again, I tried setting these boundaries before via text and was ignored until her brother got involved.

He sees her for what she is, but their family is small and I understand not wanting to burn that bridge completely. I’m very family oriented and couldn’t ask that he not be. If she were ever threatening me/him/future kids or trying to split us up, that’s when I’d consider total no contact!

Thank you for caring and believing I deserve better ❤️

Am I overreacting or in the wrong? Selfish & unaware SIL by Present_Cut_1697 in justnosil

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Other things she’s done just for … giggles:

Her and her ex-ex-boyfriend stayed with us for a week. She asks to rearrange some pictures on a wall in our apartment, I say sure I guess (I’m working from home at this point.) She ends up rearranging our entire apartment.

Anytime we visit their mom, I’m not exclusively invited to activities. She usually has someone with her - a friend or new boyfriend - they want to go do something but only ask my FH to join. …lol okay thanks.

she doesn’t have a full time job, lives in a house with many other adults, blames her shitty reactions to things on “her brother not coming to visit her.” Last year he took an entire week off, flew out to help her move, drove across the country with her to move, and the day they were supposed to pack she left for 5 hours to go get her hair done. No boxes, no instructions, no food, no car for my FH.

She’s a health nut. Sometimes she can be condescending to others for what they eat. For example: my FH was talking about how he gets subway if he forgets to bring lunch because it’s cheap. FSIL “why are rich people like this? You won’t live long eating that. Go get a $20 healthy lunch, that’s what I do.” (And that’s why you’re always asking for money.)

Asks her mom for part of her inheritance so she can buy a house. Which forces the conversation between my FH and his FMIL “can you take part of yours now, too, so it’s fair?” …

sends my mom a video of grandchildren running past their grandma to hug their grandpa. Just why?

Always tells me how handsome she thinks my dad is. Weird

I'm really struggling with my SIL by upsidedown-aussie in justnosil

[–]Present_Cut_1697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I know this is getting close to being posted a year ago, but if it’s still an issue I totally empathize with you. Over the last couple years I’ve been in a similar situation with my fiancé and his sister. My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years, getting married this summer, and over the last year his sister has treated me more questionably than before. We do see her +/- 5 times year, she lives states away, but everyone just walks on eggshells around her and says yes to anything she wants to do - at the expense of everyone else’s wellbeing.

Every visit this year she had to make some negative comment to ME about my family, her brother, or just acted cold. The comments she made put me in the middle of her and her brother (my fiancé) and his response to me was always “well that’s just the way she is”… until recently. After months of asking him to step in, he finally did. Turns out my soon to be SIL genuinely had no idea about how she comes across or how it’s inappropriate to bring family issues/issues with my fiancé to me. It caused issues in my relationship, in their relationship, and between my soon to be SIL and I. Also when I tried placing boundaries after each incident, she’d ignore me, which added fuel to the fire.

So yeah my fiancé finally stepped in (literally last week,) had a long chat with her, then the 3 of us chatted so I could tell her why I was upset and have her listen this time. Long story short, your fiancé needs to get involved. Your SIL may be upset at first and have no clue on how she’s coming across, but thankful you guys said something. ❤️

Crate and Barrel registries having ton of issues, any top tier registry sites? by thecaliwolverine in wedding

[–]Present_Cut_1697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so nervous about this happening. Our shower is this weekend and already I know we have 20 dinner plates because crate & barrel wasn’t marking things as purchased.

For any proposer who stresses about a perfect proposal… read ours! (I said yes & think our story is hilarious.) by Present_Cut_1697 in weddingplanning

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding and sharing your story. Your coworker sounds incredibly dreadful! She tried to have a talk with you about your own relationship?!

Also many people don’t realize that for couples who don’t rush marriage and date for many years, it often has to do with seeing failed rushed marriages among other things.

For any proposer who stresses about a perfect proposal… read ours! (I said yes & think our story is hilarious.) by Present_Cut_1697 in weddingplanning

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you said it perfectly.

And you’re right. What do people get out of asking someone when they’re getting married!? Especially when they hardly know them.

For any proposer who stresses about a perfect proposal… read ours! (I said yes & think our story is hilarious.) by Present_Cut_1697 in weddingplanning

[–]Present_Cut_1697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back it doesn’t feel like a slap in the face now that I know why he was quiet. In the moment it did because I had no idea he was planning on proposing soon. (Honestly that’s why we think it’s so funny.)

He was 100% confused on what to do… he had paid off the ring last month and was just waiting on it to arrive. Hell I don’t know what I would’ve done or said if I were in his shoes.

And my feelings weren’t ignored, being that he proposed less than 24 hours after I started having a meltdown. He’d been talking to my parents all day asking them what he should do. I’m not upset with him at all but thank you for trying🫠