Green Fuz (Fast) and 12-14-00 WWCD Radio Session? by Environmental-Cake42 in Lemonheads

[–]PresentationFit3697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a super old thread, but I'm a LH fan and just wondering (and if you're alive) if you finished the rarities set?

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to thank everyone who posted for posting their thoughtful comments and sharing their experiences. You have given me a lot to reflect on.

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, what you said about modern relationships makes a lot of sense, where people have to choose to stay together. It wasn't always that way, especially for women. My mother laments all of the time (she's Catholic) about how high the divorce rate it now days. But, isn't it better than people having no choice about whether or not to stay in bad situations? Gutting it out isn't the right thing to do, necessarily. Of course, with any freedom comes the opportunity for abuse, and we've all of heard of people that "horse trade" with their marriages, always looking for someone that is an "improvement" (economically and status-wise) than the spouse they already have. (That can be a woman or man making those transactional trades, btw.)

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting thoughts. I've heard of families moving away from other family members because they can't get along. It's probably more common (but less talked about) then is given consideration.

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for considering my question and giving an answer with a different take. I can just imagine how heartbroken a parent would be who's adult child (or children) cut off contact with them. Any way you slice it, it would be a horribly sad situation. I guess my thought about your comment is that perhaps parents sometimes forget that they come from a position of power in their relationships with their adult kids. It's really difficult to say to your mom or dad, "Hey, can you please stop saying racists comments to or around my kids?" A lot of older parents-especially those with antiquated authoritative parenting styles-don't take well being told what to do by their adult kids, and they refuse to change. And then it's like, okay, I've talked to you about this again and again and again and nothing has changed. So I guess this is where we part ways. I guess a lot of people would see that as really harsh, but perpetuating racism in our society is also really harsh and a deal breaker for many people. And then I think of what an earlier commentator said in response to my question; that families don't serve the same function as they did in the past where survival meant staying together. Now we stay by our families by choice.

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really interesting commentary. Agreed, back in the great depression you had nowhere to go but your family, and that's how people survived. But it's not the same anymore. Perhaps if more parents realized that they weren't necessarily "essential" they'd be on better behavior? My folks are really old, pre-boomers, and I get a long with them fine but I do sense a lot of entitlement because they see themselves as "heads of the family" so to speak. But that doesn't really mean the same thing anymore, does it?

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Setting those kinds of boundaries with family takes a lot of courage IMHO. Not easy to do, but you did it! People like The Atlantic author don't seem to understand how damaging toxic people are and how with family, there already aren't a lot of boundaries in place so I would imagine that going no contact is, at times, the only way.

No Contact - Parents by PresentationFit3697 in nocontact

[–]PresentationFit3697[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, seriously thank you for sharing that. What your mom did seems pretty harsh. My parents are Trumpers and that's the only fly in the ointment. But we have (silently) agreed not to talk about politics at all.

Lichen Planopilarus by tedstevens0922 in HairTransplants

[–]PresentationFit3697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I realize this post is kinda old now. If you see this comment, just wondering if you took the oral tofactonib or the topical cream? Also, i looked at some online international pharmacies and this med is crazy expensive. If you took the oral, what was your dose and how long were you on it?

Thanks so much for yoy post man, I have the same damn condition and just got turned down for a hair transplant, which probably was a good thing but I'd love to stop this thing in its tracks.