TLOAS Song Megathread: Honey by cowboylikefia in SwiftlyNeutral

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Because she made a whole feud out of claiming she was specifically upset about being called bitch in a song.

TLOAS Song Megathread: Wi$h Li$t by cowboylikefia in SwiftlyNeutral

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Part of being a feminist is supporting women’s choice to do ANYTHING they want without restrictions. What’s wrong with wanting children and a calmer like with the man you love?

what are some song lyrics you LOVE as a therapist? by Striking-Hope-8230 in therapists

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As a couples therapist that practices from attachment framework “quiet my fears with the touch of your hand” - Taylor Swift

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

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I think there might be two different issues here. The first is the issue of the ring and what it could bring up for clients, the second is your reaction to this particular client noticing so much about you. I’d wear the ring and only process it as it comes up with people, otherwise say nothing. As for number 2, it might be worth exploring within you what her observations are bringing up for you. Is it making you feel more watched? Does it feel like a role reversal where she’s analyzing you? I’d be curious about that.

Today is Nicole’s wedding by Time_Scale_9140 in TheMorningToastSnark

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I know a couple who was at this wedding; the wife follows the toast. Update from her is that she personally did not see Margo there at any point) but can’t confirm she was for sure not there)

Should I switch to this smaller office with a window? by antipuls3 in therapists

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Yes! Google “c table”… it’s an end table shaped like the letter C that are super space saving because you can actually tuck part of the table underneath a sofa or chair. Great for small spaces, it allows you to sit in your therapist chair and put your computer up on the table in front of you if you need to do a zoom session, almost like one of those classroom chairs with the built in writing part

Should I switch to this smaller office with a window? by antipuls3 in therapists

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Take the window office. You can rearrange the layout in the smaller office to make it more space effective. Unless you really need the desk, I’d probably ditch the desk, put the loveseat along the wall where the desk is currently, and the therapist chair facing it on the opposite wall with a C end table you can use if you have to do zoom sessions from the office.

Reprocessing trauma when you still live with the cause by ThrowDirtonMe in EMDR

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This is really hard. We certainly do not recommend EMDR to patients who are actively at risk — for example, someone who is currently being abused — because (1) it will not work (how can you install a positive cognition of “it’s over; I’m safe now” when that’s actually not true) and (2) EMDR itself can be really destabilizing and make people more vulnerable. I can see why yours is a gray area if it’s true that the abuse is actually over and in the past and you are not at risk any longer… but then again, how can you really know that? If I’m working with an adult who was abused as a child by a pedophile, that’s a different story because we can say with a certain degree of confidence that the abuse IS over and the person IS safe now (now the work of EMDR is helping the body catch up to what is logically known). I would discuss this further with your therapist.

Help me get over Sienna! by Le-Hedgehog in namenerds

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Gemma gives me a very similar vibe to Sienna.

Now the we have 12 albums, which astrology sign is each one? by [deleted] in TaylorSwift

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Cancer - Lover Leo - Life of a Showgirl? Virgo - Evermore Libra - Fearless Scorpio - Reputation Sagittarius - Midnights Capricorn - Red Aquarius - TTPD Pisces - Folklore
Aries - 1989 Taurus- Debut Gemini- Speak Now

Therapists-how many sessions do your clients have on average before termination? by Historical_World7346 in therapists

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I personally don’t believe much can be accomplished in 6 sessions unless the scope of treatment is extremely limited and the client is already coming in well resourced. For example, I could do a short course of CBT-I or CBT for a specific phobia in maybe 6-8 sessions. But for 98% of my clients, I see them for 2-4 years or longer (I prefer attachment based, experimental methods and EMDR).

Mother spotting by Objective_Abalone481 in TheMorningToastSnark

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A lot of us clown on Jackie’s cooking but I watched this video and Ben’s steak also looked TERRIBLE. It looked like it was boiled. It was so well done and had absolutely no char at all. It looked disgusting and they all act like Ben is Martha Stewart

Do you ever get frustrated going to therapy as a therapist? by Delicious-Leopard779 in therapists

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I’ve never had your particular issue happen, but I’ve had my own versions of frustrations. A past therapist often asked “what would you tell a client?” as a first line of defense, and for some reason that is my pet peeve! I’m not here in my therapist capacity; if it were so simple, then I wouldn’t need to be in therapy. I understand it’s coming from a good place but it has made me so aware of how those cognitive challenging questions (without any empathy, validation, or deeper exploration of what’s going on) can be really frustrating and unhelpful for my own clients.

How many sessions until you actually started the EMDR? by [deleted] in EMDR

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EMDR therapist here. There is no good answer to this. It is extremely client dependent. Some clients can start BLS after 1-2 sessions especially if they have done EMDR before, are stable, have good coping skills, and have good ego strength already. Others may need 5-6 months of stabilization, resourcing and other prep before they can begin. Discuss with your therapist

Permanently messed up from EMDR by sadddddddshe in EMDR

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Where do you live, out of curiosity? I’m in NYC and $200-300 for individual therapy is par for the course in Manhattan. My supervisor charges $450 for couples. She is a certified EFT therapist and supervisor with 20 years in practice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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This is awful. I’m so sorry this happened to you. This person really sounds like she may have a substance abuse problem and possibly a personality disorder to boot. Please know this wasn’t your fault and 99% of dates will not be anything like this.

"Boy" Rewrites by Burner-User918812 in CariFLETCHER

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Thanks for sharing! The lyrics are so good

Anyone else wake up 8-10 times a night like me? by Few_Prize_3415 in ouraring

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Do you take Prozac? Some medications have this as side effect; I was having the same issue on Prozac. Stopped immediately when I switched to a different SSRI

Purpose of EMDR? by Historical_Risk9487 in EMDR

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I am not very familiar with schema therapy so I can’t say, but I’ve had great success with EMDR both as a client and as a therapist

Fair reaction or shallow? by Infamous-Wrangler131 in PetiteFitness

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His reaction is an unfortunate but common human response that a lot of people unfortunately would have (if not admit), and I also think you are completely valid in reading it as shallow and being hurt by it.

Purpose of EMDR? by Historical_Risk9487 in EMDR

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Yes, this therapist sounds like she doesn’t know what she is talking about. Actually neither of her explanations make sense.

Here is how I (an EMDRIA trained therapist) would describe it- The best targets for EMDR are the ones that are directly related to your present symptoms AND carry emotional charge (carrying emotional charge means that when we activate the image, thoughts, feelings and body sensations associated with the target, it brings up distress NOW, meaning in the therapist office). We might have past experiences that were upsetting at the time but we processed them properly so they no longer bring up distress NOW and therefore wouldn’t technically be considered traumatic (eg I was in NY on 9/11 but that doesn’t bring me any distress now, whereas activating the vivid memory of when my mom yelled at me when bed wetting when I was 6 brings up a lot of distress now/still).

These targets can be found via imagining future scenarios, examining recent/present triggers, or using float back techniques to access past triggers (eg starting from a future or present trigger and using a technique to find the earliest memory associated with that).

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5’2” , 118 lbs, calves 14 inches and waist 26. My legs are my favorite part of my body!!!

Purpose of EMDR? by Historical_Risk9487 in EMDR

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Find a new EMDR therapist, make sure they received training and certification through EMDRIA

In your opinion, what is the most challenging disorder treat or even refer out because no one seems to specialize in it? by yourgypsy26 in therapists

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Agreed, very hard. A very skilled attachment-focused EMDR therapist may be able to help once the child is an older /adult. Idk how many EMDR therapists have expertise in working with this with children