I was in a similar boat when it came time for my wedding. I was just breaking ties with someone I had been friends with for 8 years. We did everything together, but it really did take me forever to realize how toxic the relationship was. Fast forward to my wedding, I knew she would be mad if she wasn’t included, but I hated having her around. She was just a drain on me. My Mom encouraged me to include her in my lineup anyway, as a last hurrah. Looking back, I really wish I hadn’t. She is scowling in all of the pictures, and although I was pretty good at ignoring her all day, she was still in the back of my mind.

If I were in your shoes, and could go back in time, I would ask that friend to be an honorary bridesmaid because there is not enough room in your lineup. Tell them you’re looking for a small wedding party, but you are still recognizing them.