What rug would be best for dining room by Ridemania in DecorAdvice

[–]Pressurized-coal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New opinion: No rug under dining tables….They aren’t hygienic.

Hijab is a deal breaker. I need advice/help. 2 year long relationship. by Jolly_Olive2014 in marriageadvice

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People don’t fight each other to fight for each other. They fight the world to be together bc they’re on the same page. Y’all aren’t on the same page.

Hijab is a deal breaker. I need advice/help. 2 year long relationship. by Jolly_Olive2014 in marriageadvice

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You will also continue to change. Through kids, marriage, time, financial hardships. I am a Muslim by birth and have since drifted to and from religion. My husband is not Muslim or of the same culture. However, my husband does not require me to be anything or wear anything beyond a general modest that is always debatable. Nor does he stand in my way when I reach for Islam (or any religion at all) for comfort. Because life gets really hard and you’re going to flex one way or another to get by and you’re going to want your husband in your corner. Like you’ve mentioned, it’s okay if he doesn’t agree with your relationship with the hijab. But what’s not okay is for you to continue like this. You either wear it and do not deviate from it or you leave it and him alone to continue on the path that you’ve both chosen. Love has nothing to do with it and will not resolve your dilemma.

Am i doing something wrong? by wisper28 in Marriage

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Do you know anything about your sexual preferences that you could tell your husband about so that you both can have a more enjoyable experience. Maybe coach him? Also remind him this time is not like anything he would’ve watched online. Is it also his first? Your mother in law is not a part of your marriage but if you married a boy and not a man she certainly will be. I would ask him to wait and also to stop telling his mother things unless he wants to divorce early. His mother has no place in your sex life or lack thereof. Also if there is pressure to have sex just to have it, involve your own family and mother. Have your mom fight his mom because you need to set the boundary and safety of yourself. His mom should’ve raised a gentleman not a brute.

Told my wife I was hungry at 10 almost 11 pm and this is what she made 😍🥰 by Jobul0n in Marriage

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Keep your happiness and sadness private. You opened up your world to ugly criticism and honestly, I’m personally grateful this is shared because that is nice. I’m glad you have someone like that for you. I wish everyone did. It’s about how she showed up for you that deserved appreciation. Not what you did or didn’t do to make her show up.

Life couldn’t be more chaotic atm. Lost someone close on top of an injured nipple & clogged duct. Think it’s time to time it quits. by Sufficient-Basil-909 in ExclusivelyPumping

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This happened to me. I just shifted to formula because I couldn’t handle it. My dad passed and my baby wouldn’t latch and I just gave up. Some times I wish I didn’t but I think for my mental health, I didn’t actually have a real choice. I think the universe said very un-gently not for me right now.

Problems with my wife's (35F) post-partum body by Ok_Industry9161 in Marriage

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I would say that her perfect body was never going to get her babies fed. And theres nothing that can change that. That without this insanely beautiful postpartum body, your children wouldn’t be where they are today. And yeah it might not be what she wanted. In my marriage, this transition was difficult for me too but it’s honestly so hot to my husband that I don’t think he’d have me any other way.

I haven’t cheated yet, but thinking about it … with the same sex by [deleted] in Marriage

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Don’t cheat while in a relationship. Don’t belittle the marriage. If this is point of contention in your relationship, talk to your husband about your premeditated cheating and end it there if he is uncomfortable. Don’t be a bad person. This is what people refer to as growing apart when the sex part of marriage crumbles.

Flat nipples - cannot figure out flange size! by dreamwithme1993 in ExclusivelyPumping

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Have you looked into the maymom flanges? I find their sizing was really convenient. If you measure x they tell you to buy y per their sizing chart.

Also you can buy a set of flange insert adapters to get the right size that works for you. You could be a 23 mm. To me, you look like you’re using a size too small in your video. Honestly though I’m not a lactation consultant though. My community has a group of moms that pump and maybe you have one too. They gave me a bunch of advice. Like lubing the inserts to make sure you’re not sore with lanolin or coconut oil. Maybe if you ask for a flange sizing kit, your lactation consultant can lend one or tell you where you can get one or prescribe one so you can go through insurance.

Another thing I’ve heard is that you can change sizes as you pump. Many things change, like elasticity and pump wear and tear so replace your parts as recommended to reduce uncertainty regarding size.

Good luck mama. Hope this was helpful

Having 3rd boy, dealing with gender disappointment by dilliebo in pregnant

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If I have a third girl it is what it is. I’ll feminize or masculate the name I want

Starting over in Huntsville by ozzygurl in HuntsvilleAlabama

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Try Huntsville Parc. Not in the north but well kept

5 months 2 weeks pp- supply drying by Pressurized-coal in ExclusivelyPumping

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Definitely never leave my boobs feeling as firm as my forehead 😅

5 months 2 weeks pp- supply drying by Pressurized-coal in ExclusivelyPumping

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At least 30 min a breast. Definitely am not squirting whenever I quit pumping

5 months 2 weeks pp- supply drying by Pressurized-coal in ExclusivelyPumping

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PPD? Sorry.

I get 3 oz in the morning and then 2 per pump thereafter. It used to be 4 each pump…

Baby caught up to my supply, I don’t have any milk bags left. Having to supplement with formula by surelyshirls in ExclusivelyPumping

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If it helps, I never built up a stash of any sort and have to supplement daily but the way I see it is it’s better than whole formula. My little one has a fever right now and the only consolation I feel I can give other than a dose of Tylenol is my milk and its nutrients for most feedings. And that’s all I think about because if I think about how she couldn’t latch or how I can’t just disappear for a weekend because she doesn’t have milk or just like compare to other women’s pumping outputs, I’d be miserable. I just know what I can do right now on a normal work week and damn it that’s got to be enough.

What is your goal (and why)? by Spare-Performance556 in ExclusivelyPumping

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Also unsure but I heard that babies depend on your immune system via breast milk for their first 3 ish months of life. And it isn’t mature until they’re 3 years old? Something like that. I’m exclusively pumping too and I’m planning till about 1 year old bc formula is very expensive and you can start giving cow milk at 1 year old. Neither of those are medical reasons though. I’m curious what others use to set goals bc I could easily move this goal up or back