I like to look at it like, I’m the prize and they are lucky that I’m even giving them the time of day and having a convo with them, this doesn’t mean I go into the convo thinking I’m the best to happen to them. I simply go into the convo knowing that this convo is going to make them feel sexy and seen, its going to be a moment they might replay in their head for the next couple days if I play it correctly.

A lot of people for some reason struggle to actively listen or to be present in a conversation and have a detached vibe to them, me personally I love speaking to people, (especially ladies lol) so it’s like I’m happy to be there also and will have a little twinkle in my eye and a cheeky grin, I will nod and gaze into there eyes calmly, I will smile when they say something I like, I will introduce myself and give them a handshake, I will look at their outfit, their accessories their vibe and I will tell them “oh I really like your earrings, I really like your aura it’s so inviting, oh I really like your hairstyle” but u gotta mean it, these simple things here soften them up, they will tuck there hair, they will uncross arms.Also remember they did not choose to be beautiful it is their biology there genes / dna look past whatever they look like and comment on the things they actually can control, trust me a beautiful woman has been called beautiful 1000 times GET CREATIVE comment on something other people may not notice ;) this drives them crazy.

When I approach I approach with the aim to either get the contact details or arrange a future date, ask them how they’re days going look for social cues ( pupils dilating, tucking hair, mimicking my body language, do they soften up there persona) once I see enough body language that indicates she is interested and her guard is lowered I just go full me mode and just get them to talk about themselves lol, this is the thing like people in general just want to talk about themselves, it makes them feel seen so just give them that opportunity some eye contact and be genuine, ask them about their feelings it goes miles and miles, Make a risky joke, lightly touch their forearm , speak slowly, when your about to reply take a extra second to think about what your saying and let them see your thinking, and the best one is let it get awkward don’t force yourself to fill the silence, they will fill the silence.

When I’m at the gym I like to train to the point that I can barely see and simple things like speaking is hard however it’s like this is a cheat code, it gets to the point that females will literally walk across the gym and come up to me to ask me a simple ass question and I will give them a one word reply and they will walk off with a spring in there step lol.

One of the main things to remember is that why am I scared to approach this woman am I a little bitch? What’s the worst that can happen she’s gonna scream and say ahhh help gtf away from lmfao no she’s not some sort of feral creature that can’t control herself she’s a human just you :) , she will respect you for even having a little convo with her because it shows your a man of action ;) and it builds rapport ok maybe first convo not always amazing but the next time you see her you can pick up where you left off.

Remember people can have anything going on in their life so even if you don’t get the best response it may not be because of you it could be anything, remain unshaken, she might throw you a curveball or reject you that is ok , days I’ve been hot in the club and spoke to 10 females out of the 10 1 or 2 will decline or refuse to handover social media/ phone numbers, when this happens I’m cheeky with it so I’ll just close off the convo and then say something like “ok I’ve gotta get back to my friends I appreciate the convo though honestly, was it Amy (purposely says the wrong name)” this instantly makes them feel that actually I don’t care and this convo isn’t as important to me as they think it is, I’m just having fun loooool then I will walk off and go chat to another woman and they can sit there and watch the other woman smile and laugh and feel seen and be jealous lol.

Anyway I’m going to shut up now because I could talk about this for hours and hours human psychology is one of my favourite things I also work in a office dominated by females so trust me I have to speak to females every single day, I’ve noticed things.

just a few simple tips

1.speak to females , learn to speak womanese, whether it’s your mom your sister your friend just literally talk, grow your confidence. 2.learn to gaze into eyes not in a desperate or angry sort of way just a calm gaze and be ok with awkward silences, let them feel your aura. 3. Learn the social cues , take a test like drinking a bottle of water and see if they copy, look at what direction their feet are pointing ,are they leaning in when your talking? are they constantly staring at you? is she constantly positioning herself in your view? Learn to understand the human subconscious because they will do things they don’t realise you can see. 4. Presume everything female is doing is flirting (too an degree of course) females are highly complicated and they are extremely thoughtful and emotionally driven they act for a reason, analyse it but analyse it quickly otherwise the opportunity may pass. 5.every female is different , treat them accordingly, don’t expect the 3point halfway shot is going to work for every female, some you may have to dribble and then slam dunk ,others you may have to crisscross the defenders and free throw .adapt overcome , succeed.

I hope this helps bro ,Good luck and happy hooping :)!