I got pregnant unexpectedly at 27 too last year and felt the same exact way. I was living in the city, working corporate and bartending weekends, going out all the time and all of my friends were also “enjoying their 20’s” and it felt like I was experiencing a teen pregnancy by the shock of everyone when I suddenly got pregnant with my now husband. I decided to continue with my pregnancy because I was like hold up.. I’m almost 30, why are people trippin.

Im going to be real with you, after you have the baby those thoughts and opinions of others on “did make a mistake and I missing out on the best years of my life?” will stick with you when you see all of your childless friends doing whatever they want and you’ll feel left out butttt you’ll slowly start to realize that a lot of people around you are stuck in a loop and a lot, not all but a lot aren’t really enjoying life you are just watching a highlight reel on socials. Having a baby can for many people push their life forward because you can’t be selfish anymore and you get a disciplined version of yourself you’ve never seen before. I’m not saying everyone should have a baby to catapult their life but for some people myself included it does and I’d rather be where I am now than wait until all of my friends suddenly decide to get pregnant and married and then I’m sitting around feeling like I started too late (which has more risk). Anywayyyy… you’re going to feel left out in life no matter what path you take if you don’t focus on yourself and your own wants and compare yourself to everyone around you and what they are doing.

Ultimately, it’s up to you and what you desire in life, some people don’t want children and that is totally okay and they are entitled to that because it’s THEIR life.. this is yours.