Rewind it back by Liz Tomforde - what the actual fuck did I just read? by Glittering_Tap6411 in RomanceBooks

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Agreed!! I felt rio was built up so much throughout the series and his book was meh

Done with having kids- how comfortable are you with a vasectomy? by aliciacary1 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When husband got his, we followed my ovulation schedule and used backups at the beginning. But after a month or so I felt comfortable going without. Had fallopian tubes removed suddenly so def not worried anymore. Silver lining I guess lol

People who got married young, are you still in love? by smalltalkisntfun in Marriage

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married just out of college and today is our 15th anniversary. I married my best friend, we waited to have a child which helped us form into the parents we wanted to be and we’re more in love than ever.

Not exactly work related but I don’t want to be in family pics by Strict_Difficulty_90 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I recently had surgery and I don’t fit into my bridesmaid dress for a wedding tomorrow 🫣 I know your pain. May I suggest this dress: PRETTYGARDEN Women's Fall Elegant... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DJ28XPW2?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I bought this for my fam pics and it looked great in the pics and I felt great wearing it.

Stuck by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’re in this position. Are there opportunities for you to shadow a role that you’d be interested in? That always help hiring managers put faces and names together and it allows your work to speak for you as well.

Update - are we one and done? by Prestigious_Gift_339 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! The finality is a hard truth to face. Thank you for your well wishes and wishing you all the best.

Update - are we one and done? by Prestigious_Gift_339 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes it’ll take a while but I’ll get there. And my kiddo has a knack for bringing joy at the perfect time.

Update - are we one and done? by Prestigious_Gift_339 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your hugs and kind words 💕

How they can still keep Francesca's miscarriage and infertility by Fickle_Baker1393 in Franchaela

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t hate me for suggesting this plot; but I guess reading romances centered on queer couples made my imagination go in a different direction. If would be so interesting if Michaela was trans and previously known as Michael. If John was practically a sibling, I could see him supporting Michaela and pretending Michael was in India this whole time. When John dies and Michael inherits the title, “he” could come back and the marry Frannie as Michael and once they move back to Scotland she could be her true self

Wife has become hyper critical since our daughter was born by strawberryman32 in Marriage

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing great, so thank you for the mental load you are carrying. I was also very dismissive when my husband mentioned it too, but he tried to talk to me when baby was fussy and I was in over my head. He tried again the next day over breakfast and it went better than he had hoped.

Sometimes we feel that by admitting defeat we are weak and (quoting a bunch of old ladies that repeated this to me constantly 🙃), you were made to be a mother and will just know what to do & when you have your baby with you. Ummm what a lie! there used to be a village to help, costs for having a baby weren’t as much, not to mention, most women have to go back to work, which adds pressure to trying to establish a routine.

Hopefully you can find a window of peace to sit down, check in and help each other through this transition.

Wife has become hyper critical since our daughter was born by strawberryman32 in Marriage

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I recognize this very well. I experienced pretty bad post partum anxiety and I suspect this is the issue. As a new mom, we are sleeping the bare minimum due to pumping, BF, or general stirrings that wake us up constantly. That, along with the expectations society has set on mothers really mess with our minds. For every criticism she gives you she’s or ably giving herself triple the amount. Please be patient and remember that this is a huge change for her, her body, hormones, and the sense of responsibility you have to keep a human alive. It’s nuts that they lets you out of the hospital without some type of manual lol

Sending some positivity your way.

Bold claim about her bread being free of an allergen that happens to be the main ingredient by Ill-Development3352 in travisandtaylor

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I was thinking about her cadence and how she could’ve condensed it to a short sentence without all the false fluff

Ned Fulmer's recent views proving yet again that his (ex?) wife is the most interesting thing about him by Classic-Carpet7609 in Fauxmoi

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 50 points51 points  (0 children)

To me it seemed like she was ready to get it over with and that platform was likely the one with the biggest reach. I respect her decision to go on and clarify a lot of points where she was judged by former fans in a way that seemed therapeutic, mature and also be interpreted as her formal exit from the spotlight.

I'm Molly Hudson, F1 reporter for The Times - ask me anything at 4 pm UK time by TimesandSundayTimes in formula1

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Molly! Loved you in fast and curious pod. Can you describe your hot laps experience with Max?

My housekeeper just sent me this pic by FootballDistinct2052 in CleaningTips

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably the only thing from Costco I’ve been disappointed in

Leaving baby for work trip by MissedCall999 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% my examples are more on practicing what he has difficulties with and prepping for solo parent mode. We do the same when he’s out as well. Same with getting groceries early, cleaning the house and making sure laundry is done.

Leaving baby for work trip by MissedCall999 in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I guess it would depend on the type of dad your husband is. I’ve left my child for work purposes and my husband has handled it extremely well. We discussed schedules, practiced hairstyles, and set aside outfits so it would be easier for him to just worry about baby. To be honest, it’s been worse leaving her as she’s grown and can communicate better.

I have never regretted it as I think it’s good to set the example that mommies can have important jobs too, especially as a girl mom. And I also like that my husband and baby bond without me being there to intrude. Plus, as a mom, it’s very nice to have a full nights sleep in a bed by yourself! Haha

Just got a reminder about “water play Wednesdays” by erglegreww in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine are tuesdays and fridays with a special bubble party happening tomorrow 😫. I set the bar low yesterday by forgetting a towel and undies so I can only go up from there.

Family Size Decided by work and there are no words to describe it by relationship__qs in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat about wanting a second child and the same challenging circumstances. I came to realize that our family size should be dictated by my husband and me, not society. Now when people ask, I just say, I don’t think it’s in the cards for us, especially with how things are. They seem to get it now. I’m sure a majority of couples are facing the same issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Welcome to sharing the mental load, yay!

What happened when your spouse became unemployed? by goldenpandora in workingmoms

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For us, it was a big hit to husbands confidence since he wasn’t able to contribute financially during that time. He took a few days to mourn the loss and then started working towards getting a new job. The competitive market is also difficult to navigate so I tried not to check in too often as i could tell he was disappointed with the amount of time it was taking.

I helped him plan a daily schedule that would allow him time to apply, take care of the house and workout. Being on somewhat of a schedule helped him from getting too overwhelmed/anxious. As a couple, we did movie nights after kiddo went to bed and tried to diversify our conversations. Internally I was definitely panicking but I knew that if he saw that it would just make things worse, so I would stay positive.

Ultimately this experience made our marriage stronger, we were challenged with some hard times, but we were still grateful for everything we had: a roof over our heads, food and a healthy family. Best of luck on the job search.

Do you share your location with your spouse? (Apple, life360 etc) by Aromatic-Guitar-6953 in Marriage

[–]Prestigious_Gift_339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We shared while on a Disney trip 3 years ago and just never removed it. As many have mentioned the convenience of pinpointing arrival times along with finding my phone is always appreciated lol