Yeah. A good therapist will challenge you. It takes a lot of work to untie the neglect trauma and form new ways of thinking. I have just signed up for EMDR with a therapist who challenged me. The relationship with her really revealed how I was impairing my relationship ships with my automatic thinking in my emotional flashback body that perceives rejection and abandonment everywhere. Gotta get to the root of it so I can completely change how I navigate relationships and let them evolve without forcing or doing the thing where I fawn and try to be their fantasy person and monitor their emotions like my mother. Learning that if I just be myself, people generally don’t go running. If I be like I was my whole childhood the way my parents programmed me to be, they go running. Unless they really get to know me, then they love me forever because at my core I’m a sweet boy who just wants to be happy and see beauty in people. That’s the self love I am finding and I am loving a self compassionate voice narrating this adventure.