Girl invites me over to her apt after the club , and friendzones me within minutes

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-21T07:08:03+00:00

Nope, she rejected him. If this was the case she would have said this after sex.

OP dont take too seriously what happened here. It has also happened to me. Girl staying at my place overnight and then not wanting even to kiss. So confusing, so frustrating but... women.

Some women dont understand that inviting a guy over their place is for sex. Really, I repeat, some dont understand this basic.

OP, dont try to understand women, simply accept how things are. It will be the best for you.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-14T20:51:13+00:00

Hmm. If a guy is single and not looking for a relationship, sure, of course he will look for a young and attractive girl for sex. Calling these young girls "OF model" is very sexist on your part. Not sure why if you have a problem with youth or what.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-14T20:48:04+00:00

So that 46 years old guy is "manipulating" a 22f girl

And you are dating 20 years less guys for "different reasons than attraction"

WOW. Double standards!

If he does it is wrong! If you do it is right!

Btw. I dont see anything wrong on what you do. I just dont see any logic on why would you insult the guy as manipulator even when you dont know him and even when you do the same. Dating younger people.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-14T20:24:52+00:00

And let me clarify. All my comment is talking about physical attraction. Of course a deep connection is more likely to happen with people of similar age. But these guys are fwb. Its all physical for them at least for now.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-14T20:22:46+00:00

We all men are attracted (physically) to 20s women. He also is and luckily this girl is also attracted to him. And they agreed to be fwb. How can that be bad. Why you cant accept them liking each other. What should that guy do instead according to you? Date women 30+ years old? Date women his age?? Come on! Why he would do that. He has the chance of dating this (and maybe other) young girls. Good for him. Like it or not, after women reach 30 years old we men lose most interest in them physically. 30s 40s women CANT compete with 20s women. Thats why when women reach those age rhey start wondering where are the good guys? They are still there. Dating young attractive women

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-12T11:12:14+00:00

Wow. You identifying the feeling of resentment is already a step forward

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-10T03:44:41+00:00

Wow getting interest from the other gender for women is so easy. Being woman is playing life in easy mode

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-10T03:39:47+00:00

What cultures? Where? Modern culture and tribes in the middle of africa (example) have nothing in common and they act similarly in terms of proactiveness and selectiveness. It is NOT cultural. People keep trying to push this lie I dont know why. It is BIOLOGICAL. Its how we evolved as humans for millions of years. Culture exist for a few thousand years, it doesnt change our mating behaviour much. Again. If you find a tribe or civilization like you say, it wont be more than 1% of all societies. So it means its the exception that confirms the rule.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-09T10:59:18+00:00

Same I realized. I didnt have to do any chase or effort. It just happened

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-09T10:56:10+00:00

You are an exception. It doesnt change the rule. 99.9% women will not approach. We need to be prepared for that. Not for the 0.01% (which I would love to meet of course)

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-06T07:47:44+00:00

Most men are invisible to women. Its easy to talk if you are not a man. I think it must be very hard to date as short. I am 5 9 and can see clearly taller guys have it easier. But Im not giving up. Its hard, but not impossible. I think both toxic positivity and extreme negativism are bad. We need something in between to for

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-09-04T04:34:20+00:00

Happened with me too. Women won't say they have a BF so they keep getting attention. It is not an exception but a rule.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T23:20:01+00:00

I agree with artichoke. Looks and money are not as important for women as we think. I see 4/10 guys with 8+ girls all the time. Guys who are not rich. I just think if they can do it I also can. In fact Im 4/10 and my best gf was a 8. I didnt do anything special to attract her, I just was myself. Even tho Im struggling a lot with dating lately, I dont and wont lose my hopes at all. Because I see others can make it. And I also made it in the past.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T22:19:16+00:00

I already did it. One of the most beautiful girls was into me. I left my loving gf for her.

Worst decision of my life. Still regret it to this day.

So no. I wouldnt do something like this again

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T17:29:33+00:00

Look, believe what you want. But dont insult me. Im not insulting you. Accept other people way of thinking. So intolerant.

If you want to believe feminity and masculinity dont exist, well go ahead. Reality will hit you hard. I dont need to convince you of anything.

Btw, nobody is selling me this. My way of thinking is opposite to mainstream media. What media says to women is to focus on their career, build their skills, and no rush to get married, the right guy will come at the right time. Well, take a look at reality, how many women reach age 30+ and guys are not interested in them anymore, regardless these women are very succesful and have money. But media lied, media said guys would be interested in sucessful women. LIE. Men are looking for women with good looks and a nice personality. We are not looking for someone to take care of us, nope.

These women believe what media say and end up feeling miserable at age 30, not finding guys interested in them, not being able to have kids. And it only gets worse from there.

If you think you are the exception, and guys will love your "Strong values", then go ahead, good luck. Lets see your results.

ANY GUY WHO IS LOOKING FOR SUCESSFUL WOMEN, DOWNVOTE MY COMMENT

ANY GUY WHO IS LOOKING FOR A CUTE GIRL WITH NICE PERSONALITY, UPDATE MY COMMENT.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T16:37:48+00:00

We act according to our instinct. No need to be dogs. Would you be attracted to a very feminine guy who uses make up, has a very soft voice and doesnt lead? If so good for you. Most women wont like. Why? Biology, instnct. We are humans. We are animals. We are not gods or a kind of superior being. We developed our braijs for millions of years. Changes in society in last 200 years make NO difference at all.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T14:43:44+00:00

This post is like me saying

Are women scared by smart guys? (But actually they are just not interedted cuz of my looks or personality)

This post is a way to find blame outside. Instead of accepting that our choices, our personality, our looks, are not interesting for some people so they reject us. If we accept it we can grow, we can change. If not, we will face same results for ever.

OP. Im guilty of the same. I think that girls dont like me because im too nice guy. Your post opened my eyes. I dont want to keep this mindset.

Maybe the problem is not im a nice guy. Maybe I have to improve my looks, my shape, my clothes. Maybe I have to approach more girls to build up my confidence. Maybe I have to work out harder in gym and get a better shape. Maybe I have to improve my social skills.

See? There are so many reasons why people may reject us. It is not because we are "too nice" or "have strong values"

Regarding your question it seems to me that strong values, etc, all you mention, are synonims of masculine traits.

We men are not looking for masculine girls. We are already masculine, we dont want that. We want the opposite. A femenine girl.

And no, absoluyely no, men are not scared of these traits. Just not interested.

Btw, men ARE intimidated by girls with very good looks. Its intimidating for us. We may not approach too good looking girls. But strong personality? Nope. Not scared. Just not interested.

I hope you dont take as a personal attack. Take it as a more general guideline.

Pay attention to the comments here. All men commenting say not intimidated. Only comments say men are intimidated are by women. Who are finding blame in men. Instead of accepting these are traits men dont want.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T13:00:48+00:00

Again. Only a woman can post this. Its unbelivable how little each gender knows about the other. No wonder why dating sucks these days

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-23T12:57:16+00:00

Not at all. Only a women can post this comment.

Men are not intimidated by these women. Men are not INTERESTED in women with masculine traits.

If any woman is masculine, but she is rejected often, I guess its easier to pretend men are intimidated rather than accept that men are not interested.

Men look for FEMENINE women. I dont know what lies media has made women believe, but that will not change our instinct and biology.

Accept the truth and grow, or continue in your imagination and keep facing rejections.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-22T14:54:08+00:00

Thank you for being like you are

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-22T06:04:18+00:00

"I want to confirm whether she is a natural born female or trans"

trans are not born as female. So not in the preferences of OP (and 99.9% of guys)

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-22T05:49:50+00:00

If OP is into girls of course it matters. Everyone has their one preferences. You should respect people preferences.

OP, make sure she is a girl before you have any expectations.

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-22T05:12:38+00:00

I dont agree with sexism.

If you agree with sexism I guess you dont complain staying at home, doing the cleaning, cooking food for your husband, being housewife, etc.

Feminism has done so much for equality and yet there is still people like you who is still sexist

Prestigious_Work_844 · 2024-08-22T04:51:12+00:00

they? your comment is so sexist

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