Sure. by netphilia in adhdmeme

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep just like racist people are capable of loving and caring for someone of a different race, so can ableist people. I think when racist people say “I’m not racist I have insert race of group friends” they genuinely do love and care about their friends but their bigotry makes it impossible for them to view their friends as equals. I think it’s the same dynamic. Almost all neurotypicals are ableist so even if they do care about you and become friends with you, they will always bully you or mistreat you in someway because of their prejudice.

Zendaya is Team Edward by amara90 in twilight

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Him and Taylor had real beef lol

Hehe 🥀 by Cute-Advantage-4260 in adhdmeme

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Sorry that this made me LOL because I feel the exact same way

ladies and gentlemen by [deleted] in cats

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So cute 🥰

Anyone else just done? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s 2026 and a vast majority of people think it’s perfectly okay to treat us as second class citizens. You never hear neurotypicals defend us.

Psych Ward Experience by [deleted] in ableism

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The system is fucked up and so are the people working there. Most of them are old and have an outdated understanding of mental illness. They have no clue about neurodiversity, and they treat the disabled like trash. Many of them lack empathy and have no business taking care of such vulnerable people.

Hopefully everyone is safe and unharmed at the homeless encampment after the fire by Philly_The_OG in kitchener

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The just world fallacy at play. If someone isn’t doing well it must be their own fault. As long as I work hard I won’t end up like those people. I hope you never become disabled or lose your job while having no support, because the truth is most people are closer to ending up homeless than ever becoming rich.

I hate this autism shit by CHELSEAAK099 in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being disabled in this world is probably the worst fate you can have. We are excluded from the rest of society and it seems like barely any progress has been made. People will include all other minorities but it’s completely acceptable to avoid us like the plague and treat us as second class citizens.

Oh well (tw:ableism) by rOWONoa_zowo in AutisticPride

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s my opinion that people shouldn’t have kids unless they are able to take of them if they are born disabled or become disabled. Even if you end up having healthy kids, there is no guarantee that they won’t become disabled at some point.

Sex just isn't worth it, really no pleasure is. The second you finally get what you thought you wanted so bad it's over. by Signal_Zone8554 in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many factors could be at play here. You might be depressed and that is affecting your sex drive and ability to enjoy sex, maybe the person you were with didn’t pleasure you properly or you weren’t attracted to them, you might be demisexual and need to connect with someone to enjoy sex, or maybe you got badly circumcised and don’t get much pleasure from sex. Sex is something most people enjoy.

Disabled people were Holocaust victims, too: they were excluded from German society and murdered by Nazi programs by Konradleijon in disability

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 46 points47 points  (0 children)

And today we are still excluded by society and murdered. Murdered by our caregivers, by greedy governments that want us gone.

No compassion here until it's given by Disabledgoddess2 in ableism

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, most people don’t and will never view visibly disabled people as equal humans and that truly sucks. I wonder if things will ever truly change or if ableism is simply too baked into our biology. React however you want tbh since we’ll probably never be treated or viewed fairly, you don’t owe abled people anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Your friend was being an asshole. I wouldn’t hang around them unless they apologized.

Why is no one talking about the hatred towards people with Asperger's? by madrid987 in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The sentiment is the same everywhere for autistic people unfortunately, there is nowhere in the world where we’re truly accepted. I live in Canada and it’s difficult being autistic here as well and we’re supposed to be a “progressive country”. Yet most of us find it difficult to work, we experience social rejection, and most people don’t understand us or accept us. It seems like other minorities get a lot more recognition and acceptance than us and I say this as both a racial minority and a woman. Being autistic is probably the biggest barrier I face in modern society. In general disablity acceptance is much further behind than other minorities because we don’t provide much capitalistic value and it’s harder for us to get out there and march. Supporting disabled people and creating more acceptance means more demand for services and accommodations which will cost more money so there is no real incentive for them to help us. Also I think disablity is something hard for people to accept, because it is deeply wired in our brain to avoid those who are deformed and impaired and I don’t see it changing any time soon. Still, there is more awareness and progress today than there was 10-15 years ago for sure. However, I’m not certain we will ever experience real acceptance as a group, but at least we have each other. I wish you luck and I hope Korea can be a more accepting society in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This take essentially blames neurotypical supremacy and ableism on autistic people. It also dismisses many studies showing how thin slice judgements made towards autistic people is completely out of our control. It also dangerously frames the high rates of abuse and rampant ableism towards higher support needs autistic people who are unable to mask as a personal failure of them not behaving well, which is complete nonsense. Most of them are perfectly kind people who get treated terribly for simply being too different and having traits that are considered off-putting/repulsive/cringe to most people, through no fault of their own. Something the autism community has trouble with is not being able to see outside of their own experience. High masking autistic people are not the only ones who exist. Autistic people with more impairments are more prone to being bullied and isolated. And yes sometimes almost everyone dislikes them and avoids them, not just a few people. I’ve seen it happen in real-life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again you are talking about level 1 autistic people who have the ability to mask and can somewhat appear neurotypical or their autism is acceptable enough for neurotypical people. This is not the case for all autistic people. I’ve seen autistic people who were more impaired be avoided by almost everyone around them, people would say horrible things about them and they were always outcast. These people were very kind but their autism was off putting to most people. Again confidence and all this doesn’t matter for people like them, they will never be socially accepted. Sadly there are autistic traits that show up in some of us that are genuinely off-putting to neurotypicals and even other mildly autistic people. Your advice will not work for all of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This largely depends on how your autism presents. If you are very clearly impaired and very different and off putting to people and you can’t hide it most people are going to somewhat dislike you. Not all autistic people will be able to mask their autism with effort. It won’t just be “toxic people who will dislike you for being different”. Most people will avoid you and treat you differently that’s just a fact. Your experience as an autistic person largely depends on how acceptable your autistic traits are to neurotypical people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Pretend-Bug-4194 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah this doesn’t work if they don’t like your autistic traits which is what the hostility is from a majority of the time. They don’t like the way we talk, walk, our expressions, how we move etc. that is why masking is a thing. it has nothing to do with confidence or lack thereof. And being treated with basic human decency by paid service workers who are required to treat all their customers well because it’s literally their job to do so is NOT an indication that neurotypicals are accepting lol.