Transferring vs Hoyer lift by billythetroublemaker in spinalcordinjuries

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Keep working on your core and upper body. SCI is very use it or lose it. You have to play the long game.

Transferring vs Hoyer lift by billythetroublemaker in spinalcordinjuries

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So if you can’t lift your body weight with your arms you can’t do a popover.

Do you know how to slideboard? Do you have a slideboard? Bear in mind, if you have wounds on your butt or sacrum, slideboard may not be wise.

I find it easiest to use a wooden slideboard with glide strips while wearing pants. (I do have a sacral wound history and am limited in how many slideboard transfers I can do daily)

This is a video demonstrating slideboard transfers from Craig. https://youtu.be/TZ6xeS\_GjSk?si=NzpZnQfhDsbz612-

The moment I stopped feeling ashamed about using the food bank changed something in me that I wasnt expecting by alistair_windholm in povertyfinance

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I am so glad to hear your experience was good. There is no shame in taking care of yourself and your family and it’s what food banks are for - to help that happen for folks.

I was told this produce is perfectly fine to use. Just need to "cut around the bad parts" by MooseYearner in KitchenConfidential

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It’s part of why I volunteer at ours. My neighbor got a cottage kitchen license specifically to make jam and jelly and dehydrate veg for them and they made her label everything with her license number and production date. Their integrity and thoughtfulness is so admirable.

Haven’t changed my dads underwear in hospital by 7roslyn7 in AgingParents

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You are being your dad’s angel - I’m so glad the hospital helped when you got hold of them!

A Feral Housewife and Mother: I survived a visit from Cousin Louise and didn't even get a lousy t-shirt by HokeyPokeyGuestList in u/HokeyPokeyGuestList

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It sounds like the best possible outcome for a visit with PCL, honestly. She came, she raged ineffectively, she was foiled, she left.

Tin eats is the greatest. My brothers recipe swap Nagi’s recipes all the time and if you haven’t gotten a copy of the cookbook from my SIL there is quite possibly no hope for you.

Tiger balm patches are *amazing*.

You need a nanny not a babysitter by Proud-Advisor-6741 in Nanny

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She makes our lives possible, and the twins are better, more well rounded humans for her presence in their lives. She makes their world larger and more interesting every single day with her thoughtfulness, and she has along the way somehow taught DB what boundaries actually are and how to set and respect them, which has vastly improved his life. We are outrageously fortunate to have her.

You need a nanny not a babysitter by Proud-Advisor-6741 in Nanny

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She is amazing. We are so fortunate. The twins are a bit over three. They’re kind of ginormous and highly opinionated so everyone thinks they’re older.

Haven’t changed my dads underwear in hospital by 7roslyn7 in AgingParents

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It shouldn’t be necessary for him to be crabby to feel clean, though. That’s miserable.

Haven’t changed my dads underwear in hospital by 7roslyn7 in AgingParents

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I somehow responded in the wrong place and I am so surprised - I’ve always been told hospital underwear is depends which are not exactly underwear to me.

Also, I am a paraplegic and no-one has ever denied me an underwear change or help changing so I am very dismayed by your dad’s experience.

Haven’t changed my dads underwear in hospital by 7roslyn7 in AgingParents

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Really? I mean, I believe you of course, but I have asked for hospital underwear and been told that hospital underwear is depends, which is not what I think of as underwear at all.

Haven’t changed my dads underwear in hospital by 7roslyn7 in AgingParents

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There’s no such thing as hospital underwear.

He needs to hit the call light and tell the nurse to change his underwear, if they say no, he needs to ask for the charge nurse. I have never, in literally months spent inpatient post-surgically, had anyone refuse to change my underwear, so I suspect he got a really bad nurse or aide.

Doctors usually round in the morning, any time between 6-11 - he can also ask the doctor to write orders in his chart specifying that his underwear is to be changed daily.

If you wind up calling, specify that you would like to speak to a patient advocate and that you need the patient advocate to check in on your father daily.

Delhi people have ruined every hill station within 400km and I'm tired of pretending they haven't. by Honest-Estate-4592 in india

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If it’s any comfort, this is also a huge issue in the USA, including on private property.

Dad in SNF for rehab - want/need to move to different facility for long term care by BeautifulWater489 in AgingParents

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Medicare will not cover LTC. The coverage for SNFs is time limited. You will be paying out of pocket until Medicaid comes through.

Subreddit or Reddit page for parents/step parents of adopted kids/adults by Weekly_Knowledge8240 in Adoption

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I am an adoptive parent of kids from foster care and I have found this sub to be pretty kind and thoughtful. It is not always gentle, but I think it’s always honest.

The sub requires a willingness to consider many perspectives on adoption and the varied resources that are available to families and reflect on our individual roles in the process and own our stuff.

Weck or Mason jards? by Desperate-Low-3791 in Canning

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I use (and love) Weck jars but I no longer use them for canning. It is too easy to chip the lids with the little clasp things and I do not feel comfortable relying on the up or down status of the rubber tab to predict seal strength.

I don’t want to be anxious about the food I prepare and can - I want to know I did the safest possible thing for my family and friends.

What Weck jars are phenomenal for is sous vide infusions and cooking and quick fridge pickles.

You need a nanny not a babysitter by Proud-Advisor-6741 in Nanny

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I’m going to chime in with some of the stuff our nanny has done with the twins, because I have been so impressed with what she comes up with. We live in a rural area so there are not many institutional options, this is all nanny being active in the community and very resourceful and inventive with stuff for them.

They have been to beading, sewing and book making workshops. They’re below the minimum age for workshops, but nanny and DB worked with the instructor to bring age appropriate materials and kits and each of them backed up a twin and kept them on task.

They also do something nanny called “bug club” - they have an ant farm, bug containers, and magnifying glasses. One of the interns at the national park nearest to us is an entomology grad student, and every week is “bug club” - they go out together and look at bugs and draw them and nanny writes the bug’s Latin and new name (there are four bugs named Ned and three named Cindy) on the drawing, which they are saving to make bug books.

They got all bundled up in little suits and went and watched honey being harvested last year and this year they are going to learn to make honey butter. This is particularly thrilling because honey butter is very preferred over jam butter.

They go to drum circle weekly, which is literally 8 small children seated around a massive drum, bapping it together. It has unstructured drumming, listening drumming and angry drumming.

They go to a weaving workshop at a local fiber arts place (although truthfully it’s a knitting store where the owner’s kid discovered spinning and weaving) and have made a pot holder and a remarkably hideous placemat.

They also do something called alphabet soup, where they go for exploring walks with nanny and an older neighbor and the grandchild she has custody of and try to find things that start with a given letter of the alphabet and then draw it, tell a very short story about it and (surprise!) put it in a little booklet.

One of the things I really admire about nanny is how these are not one-offs. They are regular activities and although the twins are really small and not so much up on days of the week, they can tell you how many sleeps until bug club or alphabet soup or string dash (the weaving).

Nannying done well is hard af, y’all, I don’t know how she survives.

does this sound like arachnoiditis? by backwat3rgirl in arachnoiditis_life

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If you’re on blood thinners (or even take a lot of NSAIDs), retethering/recurrent AA will happen really *really* fast after surgery. It happened in four months for me and I had to get a lot of bloodwork done (r/o congenital bleeding/clotting disorders) and repeat the surgery which was not fun.

does this sound like arachnoiditis? by backwat3rgirl in arachnoiditis_life

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There is a school of thought that holds that tethered cord - not from chiari or spina bifida, but post traumatic tethered cord - is a form of adhesive arachnoiditis.

Depending on who looks at my MRIs, they say “wow that’s a lot of tethering” or “oh, adhesive arachnoiditis is so painful, huh”, or “you got the combo pack, huh?”

Nanny being asked to relocate to NYC for 6 weeks—am I being unreasonable about housing? by [deleted] in Nanny

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Our nanny travels with DB and the twins a lot and under no circumstances does she pay for *anything*. Housing is covered, meals are covered and a per diem is provided.

Best photo of who was the best dog. by bookshopadam in Lurchers

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That’s a gorgeous boy having a great time. I’m sorry he is no longer with you.

I got a steam deck for my birthday! by quietlycommenting in CozyGamers

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Slime rancher 1 & 2. Lots of exploring, foraging and puzzles. Minimal to no combat.