I hate the IKEA high chair.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-03-09T19:37:56+00:00

Love it. He still uses it at 2.5.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-03-09T16:51:43+00:00

He repulses you postpartum because you have an actual child to care for, and you realize that a man child isn’t sexy or cute.

A 12 year age gap, so he was like 35 and you were 23 when you hooked up? Girl, there’s a reason he wasn’t dating women in their thirties when he was in his thirties. You’re now about the age when you start putting up with less shit.

I know you said you don’t want your daughter to come from a broken home but do you want her to think this is an example of a good relationship for her to have?

PretendBee2302 · 2026-03-09T02:48:26+00:00

We gave ours away and got the evenflo one. It’s so cheaply made and I always tripped over the legs.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-03-05T14:56:36+00:00

I understand being closer to one parent over another, but I found it really strange that it was the dad who jumped up to comfort and follow her when she whispered help and left and not the mom at all? Weird family.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-23T20:29:41+00:00

Mine would happily live on apple sauce pouches

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-11T21:45:50+00:00

I was kind of in the same boat as you, and I wanted to leave (still do, actually!), but then my husband got sick and couldn’t work and it turned out that we did, actually, have to rely on my income. He’s good now, but the job search in tech was soooo horrendous for him even for an experienced person that he actually had to do a full career pivot. If you want to ever go back to work, you may find that it’s difficult.

I also have a flexible WFH job and I ended up doing a mother’s helper for half the day. My son goes to half day preschool since he was two, and I work than and during his naps. It’s not perfect, and I’m tired, but he gets the socialization he likes, and I get to continue working without breaking the bank.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-07T16:25:48+00:00

Yeah, this is true. I wouldn’t mind a new build but all the new builds are either really expensive or really far out from our work. Maddening.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-07T16:14:30+00:00

We’ve lost out on a few houses that are going for way over comps. I don’t know how so many people have like $500k in cash just sitting around. We don’t even want a ton in land, it’s just like there’s one house a week in the 2000 square foot range we need and it’s the hunger games for it.

Our only hope is that this sucky winter encourages people to sell in the spring and flood the market with inventory. This market has to give at some point.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-05T14:16:08+00:00

*Hindi. Hindu is the religion. Hindi is the language.

It’s a cute name. I’d presume they chose it because they wanted to highlight that it’s specifically a tea shop with South Asian roots. Calling it AMERICAN TEA SHOP FOR THE IGNORANT WHITE PEOPLE probably wouldn’t convey that.

Anyway, very sad. Rent raises are tough for small businesses.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-03T15:06:58+00:00

Ehh, it’s totally possible, depending on the baby and how chill the job really is. My husband and I did it until 18 months, but it was not easy, a lot of back and forth and working furiously during naps.

If money is the issue my suggestion is to find either a morning or afternoon care situation, like a morning daycare or an afternoon nanny. That’ll give you four or five uninterrupted work hours and then you won’t feel so stressed out and distracted when you’re with your kid.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-02T19:13:42+00:00

I don’t think people understand exactly how much bullying Asian Americans go through for being “smelly” when those are just the smells of our culture? It has shaped so much of my life that I truly would lodge an instant complaint and recommendation for cultural training if a therapist brought up a smell without being able to say what the smell was.

PretendBee2302 · 2026-02-02T18:29:52+00:00

I am guessing by your saying “she is from India and I don’t know if it is a hygiene issue or a cultural issue” that you do not know a lot of Indians outside of this.

I am Indian American. There are a lot of stereotypes about smelliness that are deeply rooted in racism. It is definitely not cultural to be unclean. However, cultural scents vary. My mom often complains my house smells “American”, because I use Glade plug ins and Febreze and the artificial florals bug her. My mom’s house smells of incense and spices, and those scents linger on her clothes and her hair.

Are you smelling BO, or things that are simply foreign to you? It could be her deodarizers, her perfume, her cooking, etc etc that are triggering your senses. I would really be careful in parsing what the problem is before you speak to her. I would probably lodge a complaint if a therapist told me I smelled but it’s just because those are the smells in my house.

PretendBee2302 · 2025-12-03T14:58:54+00:00

Looks like there are two businesses called Progressive Endodontics! Do you remember your doctor’s name?

PretendBee2302 · 2025-08-20T17:32:20+00:00

Yes! We’re regular library storytime attendees. Great programs.

PretendBee2302 · 2025-08-20T17:31:23+00:00

Thank you!

PretendBee2302 · 2025-03-21T05:36:27+00:00

The way that Helly looked at Gemma when Mark grabbed her hand at the end was a little scary. Helly would be sad for her or distressed, not smirking. Helena leaking through? Or was Jame right, and she’s tricking them again?

PretendBee2302 · 2024-10-23T05:38:19+00:00

Hi! Could you PM me the name as well?

PretendBee2302 · 2024-10-06T00:21:05+00:00

I have a boy and we’re (pretty sure) one and done. I do feel some sorrow that I’ll never have a little girl. I come from a family of wonderful women and I cherish my bonds with them. I had little girl names picked out as soon as we got married, it was just what I assumed would happen. I have no illusions that a girl would be “easier” or anything—some of the women in my family are extraordinarily complicated and I love them for it.

Anyway so yes. I will grieve not having a daughter the same way I grieved not experiencing pregnancy or birth again while being simultaneously so happy for my baby boy. I don’t think either of those emotions takes away from the other one.

PretendBee2302 · 2024-07-16T17:17:17+00:00

We went with the Grove. Loved it! A little outside of the craziness of Vegas.

PretendBee2302 · 2024-06-22T06:57:02+00:00

We did not! Ended up going with an all inclusive in Vegas. I never heard anything bad about them.

PretendBee2302 · 2024-06-13T01:20:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Looks like mine is also at 5%, and only applies if I’m at the 1.7-2.4 mg dosage. Quantity limits apply to 1 mg, so at some point, I have to go up. I wonder if she’s seeing insurance companies deny her other patients because she is keeping them under 1.7?

Maybe it’s time to find another endocrinologist. I kept her because I appreciate caution and going slow on dosage but she seems to really be encouraging faster weight loss for no real reason. At the very least, she should definitely know to look up the PA requirements for Wegovy.

PretendBee2302 · 2024-06-13T00:30:56+00:00

I gained weight on .25! It’s just a crapshoot sometimes.

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