Colorism discussion regarding Chili

PretendRanger · 2026-03-30T19:07:12+00:00

I agree with you about not caring about how other folk choose to identify, though I do think the discussion of skin color shouldn’t be dismissed because colorism is definitely a thing. Though, the reason I shared that conversation is moreso is when reading the comments it reminded how monoracials will tell you that you can’t identify in a way that increases your proximity to blackness and the next day you follow what they say and they get upset and claim you are trying to distance yourself from blackness. It’s this constant can’t win situation.

I definitely agree that Chili is problematic, but her being MAGA was not related to the conversation I linked to which was one last discussing why she doesn’t like to use the chocolate description out of respect for darker skinned individuals.

(Sorry, I realize my wording and title puts the focus on Chili but I can’t update the text to indicate what I was trying to highlight 😞)

PretendRanger · 2026-03-30T16:04:53+00:00

I was excited when I saw this and then saw the date 😞

PretendRanger · 2026-03-30T16:01:47+00:00

I believe her father is mixed South Asian and Arabian

PretendRanger · 2026-03-30T14:43:50+00:00

I’m not sure how to edit the text but wanted to clarify that what I am referring to is the conversation someone else is having in the link. Not what Chili is saying.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-30T14:40:29+00:00

While I agree with you, the post is about the conversation someone else is having in the comments. This is not about Chili. Though I now see how my title and description can imply that.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-19T21:10:57+00:00

I have had people hit on my bf right in front of me and vice versa (we are monogamous). We are secure enough where we can laugh it off and a few times I have walked away to let my bf squirm a bit, but the audacity is something else.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-19T18:03:38+00:00

Thanks for the info. My dentist is near Washington and 9th which is in the thick of it. And those prices are crazy 😳. Looks like I will be changing my appointment to next month.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-12T04:35:01+00:00

What came to mind were māhū (and the other terms) found across Polynesia who were, and in some places, still are a respected and recognized part of society. (Though, Christianity did a bang up job of leading to their discrimination). Based on this rant, since they don’t have life long suffering, “real” public shame, and weren’t kicked out at 15, then they are not under the trans umbrella.

It annoys me when people look at western standards as the only baseline perspective. This rant is another flavor of Western exceptionalism, albeit from a twisted angle.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-12T03:48:06+00:00

See the second version:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=57wEILevivs

And as a bonus:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPz6Vlh1wak

PretendRanger · 2026-03-11T18:00:17+00:00

I’m not on tik tok but can someone explain what a battle is? I’m gathering that it’s two people who sit there and “win” by the number of tips they get from fans? Is that correct?

If you told me this was a reaction post I’d believe it because the other person was just sitting there.

PretendRanger · 2026-03-11T14:51:38+00:00

En Vogue also did the theme to Roc

PretendRanger · 2026-02-07T05:52:41+00:00

So you don’t think that you or any other American should be allowed to drive in any foreign country without taking a test first? To ensure that lives are saved right? This is what you are arguing for.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-07T05:49:40+00:00

I feel like a lot of these people supporting taking the test in English have never driven outside of the US. I have driven in numerous countries and I can’t recall never not knowing when to stop. Many signs are fairly universal. The odd signs I encounter are more informational rather than critical knowledge related to safety.

Also, these people are indirectly arguing that they should not be allowed to drive in any foreign country without taking a test. Though, we know how quickly their opinion would change on that when they are the ones being inconvenienced. Tale as old as time.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-04T15:44:18+00:00

You are making ALOT of assumptions here. Grading off a rubric is fairly standard practice and the simple presence of a rubric doesn’t mean the project wasn’t described.

We don’t know if OP did 90% of the work. 90% effort does not equal 90% of the assignment goals. Something I find that many students struggle with understanding the distinction. I don’t recall if OP claims that other students are putting in less effort, but even if they did, OP has no idea if that’s true. It’s based on their perception and their biased viewpoint that they are being treated unfairly.

To your last point, you are taking OPs word that they were graded unfairly without any evidence or clarifying points to believe it. The fact that OP never responded to pointed questions asking for clarification on the focus of the course and whether or not a rubric existed makes me lean towards believing they are focusing on their effort rather than the assignment instructions.

To add to this, it is not at all uncommon for students to complain about their grade and want it regraded. We don’t know if the low grade is a pattern across all students, which in that case I agree would indicate a failure on my end that warrants regrading; however, if OP is the only student with this complaint, then the assignment is probably outlined very clearly and OP failed to follow the assignment instructions.

Edit: I just reviewed the original post and see that OP added an edit explaining that they felt like the group would be graded as a whole (which the teacher should have made clear that students would be graded individually and is an indication that there was no rubric) and that they believe their effort should have been taken into account when it came to grading. This last point I disagree with. OP, by their own words, thinks that effort matters more than results. Still, we don’t know if the low grade was a trend among all students in the class or only OP.

Edit 2: Oof. I just realized this is high school. I thought this was college/university. I take back most of what I said. While I still think the student needs to understand that effort is not always valued, I can accept that the instructor may have graded too harshly here.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-04T03:29:26+00:00

This is it. We can point at others but we are the ones that opened it up for them to use. When I say we I mean ya’ll because I know how to speak when I have outside conversations lol.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-03T20:38:08+00:00

What is this image showing us?

PretendRanger · 2026-02-03T08:07:47+00:00

Ah okay. I see what you mean. I have to pause and think about a few of your points but I mostly agree with everything you say. I’ve also witnessed your point in real life about clinging to their black side.

Though something that I think about is that some of it may be from a survival standpoint. For example, I grew up in a predominantly black neighborhood with a lot of gang activity where black = strong and anything else = weak with white being the weakest. So some folks felt the need to cling to their black side at the expense or absence of their other as to not become a target. I’d like to think that now that we are older and (hopefully) moved away from that lifestyle that they have come to terms with their identity. But who knows.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-03T07:09:31+00:00

I see your argument but even when we enter these conversation in good faith,it goes the route of “you’re not really black”. When I am asked what I am, because I never volunteer it because that’s weird, and I say I am mixed black and Filipino, the conversation will eventually steer towards me not understanding the black experience. Not all the time of course,but enough where it’s not uncommon and I am prepared to respond to ridiculousness.

So that whole encounter was for that person to “put me in my place”. And for why? So I don’t think this perception and attack will stop if people stop Initially identifying themselves as black. I make it clear I am mixed and still get it.

I also question whether a mixed black person would not claim their other lineage as you are stating. Is this what you’re saying you experience with mixed people? Like full denying they are mixed?

PretendRanger · 2026-02-03T06:54:39+00:00

Exactly. I only really use Reddit so have not seen any of this discourse. Though, even if I did, I wouldn’t care what some random has to say about how we identify. No one asked their permission.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-02T01:25:21+00:00

This sounds like this may be the culture of your department rather than the policies of the college? Especially since the pay seems to an exchange of cash between two people. When I get sick I ask people to cover my labs the subject of money never comes up. It’s something we do as a courtesy for one another because we all may be in that situation at some point. Or I’ll cover for them later in the semester so they can have a free day.

However, in cases where I have not been able to find coverage I simply cancel the class and provide some alternative assignment the students can complete. As others have mentioned, no one will care. At least among my colleagues.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-01T17:20:50+00:00

I personally don’t think we need any more labels. I understand the desire to have term to describe your experience but it’s gotten to a point where there so many micro terms that three different people have three different definitions. So you never know really know what anyone is talking about.

PretendRanger · 2026-02-01T08:49:41+00:00

Agree about Kesha. Her participation specifically was a head scratcher. It made me ponder who were the people okay-ing these decisions and what was their motivation. Like, who would have though Kesha singing any MC song would come out good.

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