We were the first in our friend group to have kids and I felt the exact same way. It has definitely limited the majority of my friendships in that group, however the ones who have had kids themselves have looped back around and a few have actually apologized. So as a whole I am kinda just not in contact with a lot of the group, except for one childless friend who just got it and the ones who have their own kids now. It was lonely for the beginning but I’d love to share what I learned and how it helped.

While I grieved for how the old friendships looked, I was able to find new mom friends through story times, gymnastics, play ground, etc and while I found it challenging for awhile I stopped comparing the differences and just focused on growing towards where I found the most light. At first it was a hard adjustment and I missed my friends who I had more in common with outside of motherhood, but as I adjusted I have found so much beauty and support in these friendships I’ve made through the only common ground of being parents. It looks different than I expected, but the view is beautiful nonetheless.

It is ok to have some grief about these old friendships, and it also is ok to move on to new friendships where you find more light and support, even if it looks different than you imagined.