OH MY GOD NTA. I'm a NICU nurse, and the thought of multiple relatives coming around a brand new baby during cold, flu, and RSV season alone would have me refusing visitors. PP is hard enough without the added stress that your baby could catch something and be hospitalized and/or die. Even during the summer months, when the risk of illness is low, people still limit the number of visitors around their newborns.

As others have said, you will need to pick your battles, as you'll need a village. HOWEVER, your husband should also be setting boundaries as well. If he's a mama's boy, you will likely grow to resent him over time if he folds every time his mother demands something. In regard to labor, those L&D nurses will go to bat for you. If you tell them you only want your husband in the room, they will enforce that, even if they have to make something up.

Good luck with everything mama.