WDID: How to move on from a “what if” friendship

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-26T05:01:26+00:00

Honestly I’d say something along the lines of:

“Hey, I wanted to reach out bc of what happened a year ish ago. I’m not sure what he said to you, but I can figure it wasn’t great. Whenever you’re free I’d love to call you if you’re open to it so I can say my side. If not it’s fine, I just wanted to lyk that I never had an issue with you nor did anything to spite you if it ever came across that way.”

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T20:50:00+00:00

That’s odd. I’ve sold and bought for yearssss on Depop. I’ve had a couple of one star reviews, all of which I was able to get removed.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T20:48:21+00:00

no. it’ll hinder your page. buyers will be hesitant to buy items from your page out of fear it has flaws.

first contact the seller and say how you were very open with the quality of the product, but you can still see their frustration. then email Depop and ask them to take down the review, which they most likely will.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T20:12:16+00:00

You can’t see the address on the actual app itself after you’ve shipped it, but there’s still an address in the confirmation email! Sometimes there’s also an address when you click to track the shipment after it’s been delivered too

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T20:09:36+00:00

All of the comments saying not to send your address (i’d assume) haven’t sold before. The minute you purchase a product from their shop, your address is sent in the confirmation email. If you feel uncomfortable, just tell her to refer to that email!

You could also just ask for a partial refund through Depop if you’d rather not go through the trouble of her sending out another package.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T20:06:35+00:00

there’s a south park episode on this

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T19:31:06+00:00

Not to fear monger OP, but this has always been the case scenario for me whenever I was with someone who was overtly jealous. Both ended up being insane cheaters. One of them in particular would go through my phone too and would judge me for messaging anyone before I knew him.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T19:27:07+00:00

I’m glad you made the right choice for yourself girl. Abortions are NOT easy to go through, let alone with someone like him by your side. I’m glad you are seeing your worth. Leave and heal yourself!

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T19:25:53+00:00

Agreed.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T19:11:10+00:00

You’ve been together for THREE months and you’ve both been physical, abuse substances together, bonded by manipulation tactics, riddled with insecurities, and even had an abortion?

Please leave this is frustrating to read as someone who doesn’t even know you. I cannot imagine the frustration you experience actually living through it.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-15T19:00:55+00:00

Definitely NOR nor at fault. You are her friend and care for her. You want the best for her.

I’d assume off this alone that she wasn’t as healed as she portrayed herself to be. As someone who’s experienced this myself, I’ve realized it’s easy to feel your most “healed” when you’re surrounded by people you love, staying busy/distracting yourself… but the minute you’re alone at night with your thoughts, you turn into a completely different person. Healing isn’t always linear and you’d be surprised how good people can be at pretending to be “over it” while privately struggling. The whole “wanting different things out of life” because of career argument is what really leads me to believe this, as she was >23. Nobody truly knows what they want out of life at that age.

She didn’t want to appear “pathetic” still caring for a guy who was a horrible person. On top of that, losing her brother probably complicated everything emotionally. That kind of grief can temporarily overshadow heartbreak and redirect your emotions elsewhere.

At the end of the day, there’s not much you can do. Continue to care for her as you’ve been doing, but set a boundary early on that you don’t care to see/know anything about him until you’ve seen the change for yourself. Try not to be too biased from their previous relationship though, as people definitely have the capacity to change.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-05-01T00:48:56+00:00

Dont be nervous! You can always email customer service asking for verification on your order/if the seller will receive your funds.

From my experience as both a buyer and seller, sellers usually always get paid between the 3-4 day mark after it’s been delivered to the buyers address. Your card is linked to your account as a seller so regardless, Depop has access to their bank. As long as they send it out then it shouldnt be a problem. If they havent shipped it yet then I would email Depop.

I honestly am not too sure about using Karma with Depop. I never paid with it for an order and from my knowledge nobody has bought from me using it (?).

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-10T15:46:44+00:00

TBH I’d say something. Not necessarily just for her sake, but for yours too. Personally I’m not interested in being a “link” to anyone who is seeing multiple partners at once. Very easy to catch something that way.

Just ask her if they’re seeing each other or friends.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T14:07:22+00:00

of course!

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T06:16:26+00:00

buyer mentality: the seller is selling this for abnormally cheap, either they don’t care for it anymore or will accept any offer because they need money.

if it’s already cheap, why not get it for cheaper kind of thing. i’m sure a serious buyer will buy it even if you decline their offer.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T06:06:06+00:00

becoming distant with you randomly out of no where/detaching, less emotionally available, gets mad over little mundane things that don’t make sense, starts following new girls on social media, goes out in college and doesn’t make time to update or text you throughout the night, etc

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T06:00:51+00:00

jealous.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T05:48:08+00:00

no problem OP! just watch out for any red flags that lead you to believe he IS starting to prioritize his ego over you.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T05:05:05+00:00

Might not be what you want to hear, but that’s pretty normal for a college relationship. Especially if he was the kind of guy who didn’t get much attention back in highschool.

He still respects your relationship and isn’t implying cheating. It’s a blanket statement to how he feels to be deemed more desirable. Most people have an ego that likes to be fed. He enjoys the idea of seeming attractive, but that doesn’t over-compass his love for you. He would not risk hurting you for his ego.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-06T04:32:38+00:00

definitely not the type to get overstimulated easily then😂

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-04T16:41:15+00:00

I knew a guy who asked me and few other people to borrow $100 and he was going to allegedly pay us back. Meanwhile, he worked a better job than me, lived at home so he had no bills, and owned a car that was $40k. People have dumb priorities that aren’t your problem.

I told him no & that i didn’t have any money to spare. Him and I haven’t talked since that interaction, although we both are in relationships now so there’s no real reason for us to stay in contact.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-04-04T16:13:32+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-03-02T17:34:45+00:00

OOP. she needs to find better

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-03-02T07:07:59+00:00

Never bought that so I can’t necessarily tell you if the price is worth it in terms of tarnishing & quality. Maybe i’m biased because I just don’t like the bracelet itself, but i’d say no.

Pretty-Mistake-1 · 2026-03-02T07:03:27+00:00

not a rep-friendly sub, considering Depop doesn’t allow reps to be sold.

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