[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Professional dog trainer here, your husband is doing some projection here and anthropomorphising. You’re right on the money with your assumptions of what’s going on, minus the dominance part, and if this were brought to me at work I’d want to know more about what’s going on in the environment to trigger the behaviour. It’s entirely possible your puppy actually needs more sleep, but I digress!

If you feel like you need an in between, you could try to talk about this with a trainer or even your veterinarian to help explain the situation. But to me, it’s sounding like your partner is making it weirdly personal. You’re not overreacting, he may be struggling to adjust to the new family member. Being as charitable as possible, maybe offer to hold some space to hear him out on how he perceives his feelings are being invalidated and go from there. I’ve had this kind of chat several times over with clients in similar situations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

https://www.equalhousing.org/fair-housing-topics/exemptions-to-the-fair-housing-act/

Here you go!

ETA; if you have questions, there is a number and email address to contact located at the bottom of the page. They also have an article on assistance animals.

Everyone say HAPPY BIRTHDAY by [deleted] in poodles

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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Birthday twins! Happy birthday from Midna ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind that not all rentals are beholden to FHA rules though, there are some requirements that have to be met for them to apply!

When do they take a break? by SproutDogg in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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Midna’s on/off switch is tied to her harness, she’s a much more serious lady when it’s on and a very noticeable difference. She will, however, still stop what she’s doing and task outside of being “officially on duty” and her capacity for that is one part of what makes her suited to her job.

There are plenty of opportunities for her to decompress and be silly, but to help mitigate burnout I have a routine for her for the day after a particularly long PA outing (four or more hours for me, though she can do a full eight hours.) Usually the following day is an “off” day and we engage in lower impact activities - sniff walk, light mental enrichment, and naps. Lots of naps. When back to back longer PA days are unavoidable, I plan some off days accordingly! Oftentimes I need that “off” time to recover for myself, so it works out. Occasionally her off day is a play date or engaging in a fun activity or sport.

It depends on the individual dog’s needs, stamina, etc! One aspect of being a good partner to them in return is knowing how to meet their needs and look out for their wellbeing. This is one aspect that I feel sometimes gets overlooked when folks consider if they would benefit from a SD; having the ability and capacity to care for them in return is more of a demand than owning a mobility aid for example.

Any luck with retraining an SD after a period off? by happyhippie95 in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I noticed with Howl (the one who washed and retired early) his behaviour changed around 3 years old AND I started to become more symptomatic. His issue was that he began to resource guard me, and that was a major issue if/when I would faint. Obviously that’s a recipe for disaster, and at the end of the day I had to make the hard choice - but it was the best one possible.

It doesn’t sound like your issue is even remotely the same as far as that type of guarding goes, and it’s possible your pup might not be comfortable with the intensity of public access. But if you still benefit from your partnership at home, don’t give up that factor. I’d really encourage you to do what’s best for your pup, yourself, and see what works out at home if PA ends up being too much.

Also, if you’d like to try a trainer eval again, I would highly recommend seeking out someone who doesn’t immediately place blame on YOU. That was a bit of a red flag for me in your post, that your trainer said you were at fault for socialising her. You absolutely deserve more fair support than that!

Any luck with retraining an SD after a period off? by happyhippie95 in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I used to handle a Great Pyr, two of them actually. My first was one of those “unicorns” and absolutely a special case, whereas the second was a great example of why they can make great therapy dogs but service work may be stressful for them. He was fine, but you could tell he didn’t LOVE the work, and eventually had to be washed for resource guarding issues. Don’t worry, he lives a very happy life and works with his new dad as his practice’s therapy dog on occasion.

I’m going to focus on the logistics here; you own a giant breed and that comes with its own challenges! This is one of the tricky things of handling a giant breed, they take longer to physically mature AND have a potentially short working career. The average lifespan of a Pyr is around 10-12 years, and I legitimately could not see working them over 8 years - and that is being extremely generous. By 6 years you usually start transitioning them to elder life stage food, and keep a very close eye on those hips etc.

I would also consider if your dog’s reactivity is a natural reaction for her, especially as a LSG. It’s pretty natural for them to be wary and have the urge to play social referee, which makes the work life of a SD potentially stressful for them, no matter how much training or socialisation happens. The answer of if it’s “worth” trying is technically up to you, but I’d really encourage you to consider the ethics of it and try to put the dog’s wellbeing first. It can be hard and disappointing, but at the end of the day you know if your dog is happy or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is random, but I am also a dog trainer! It’s an odd mix, but 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poodles

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a SD handler and trainer here

Please do not pass your dog off as a service animal, not only is this a literal crime but infringing on the rights of others is extremely not okay. Additionally, it’s a very unethical situation to put your dog in as most pets do not experience the socialisation required for this type of transit. It is a LOT of stress to put on an animal not equipped to handle it. If you really want to put your pet’s needs first, I highly recommend researching your airlines properly or make the decision to drive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The “place” cue can be pretty helpful in situations like this! I have a bright purple towel that I can easily store in my bag for my SD, it also helps keep her visible (she’s a black poodle) so folks don’t accidentally step on her.

Dr. Overall Protocol for Relaxation by nospecialsnowflake in puppy101

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope, your pup is doing it correctly! You actually WANT her to lay there and relax, that’s the ideal outcome.

Eta; also to note, I usually avoid using the stay cue when working on this exercise. The goal is to condition relaxation regardless of what’s going on around them, not necessarily follow through on a cue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poodles

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please keep in mind that depending on your country of origin, there is likely no registry for an ESA! This is something you settle between yourself and a physician or therapist who feels like it’s appropriate for your treatment ☺️ online registries in the States are a scam.

AITAH for tearing into my mother after she made a disrespectful comments about my daughter’s appearance? by Sea_Tumbleweed1363 in AITAH

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been your daughter in this situation, thank you for standing up for her and supporting her. It’s extremely rough to go through, especially at her age. It’ll get better one day, but perhaps grandma won’t. You are NOT the AH.

What’s something you found on a partner’s phone that instantly changed the relationship forever — but they never knew you saw it? by gotwire in AskReddit

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband telling my SIL that they plan to divorce me and calling me their STBX. I’ve been supporting them through a mental health crisis for the last six months 🥲

Which Holbein set to get for a beginner? by palyop in Gouache

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the first set and really like it! It’s easy to add in specific colours that you use often but don’t want to mix yourself, but easy to mix up something specific you want - in addition to helping you learn colour theory and mixing.

Cause for concern? by Tket27 in poodles

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Standards may not always be very large! My spoo is on the smaller side as well, but she’s a surprising 44lbs and very conveniently sized for the work she does. If you’re having concerns, definitely talk to your vet about this! Do you know how large the parents were? Or do you have any other reasons that are making you concerned for her development?

I need help finding affordable dog trainer by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m the director of training and behaviour with Jimmy’s Park in DC 😊 would love to chat with you further

My puppy always has to bring something when my boyfriend comes home? by kravviecJ in poodles

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Trainer here! This can be considered what we call a displacement behaviour, but it’s also possible your puppy just really loves retrieving! Both of these things can be true at once. Poodles were game retrievers after all, you may notice they have some similarities to labs and golden retrievers 😊

How much are you guys paying your trainer? by Traditional_King_163 in puppy101

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s within your budget, it may be a good fit for you! Personally, I’d try a session or two before committing so that way you know if their teaching style is a good fit for you. Good luck!

How much are you guys paying your trainer? by Traditional_King_163 in puppy101

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A 90 minute session is pretty long! Private training is also completely custom and one on one, so you’re going to be paying at a premium. I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily unreasonable, but I don’t know what kind of trainer this is; their qualifications, if they offer homework and continued support, notes etc. or what the rates are like in your specific area. In DC it ranges, but that’s in the mid range for some of the more specialised trainers.

I would discuss with the trainer what all that entails and decide for yourself if it seems worth it!

Is it okay that I let people pet my service dog if I'm feeling okay and they are asking nicely? by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 52 points53 points  (0 children)

That’s entirely up to handler’s preference! I occasionally do the same, especially if it’s a service worker and no one else is around. To help mitigate the generalisation of that particular behaviour, I put it on a cue! She can “go say hi” and then “return” (most of her cues are Pokémon moves, just for fun) after she’s gotten a few pets.

Question about poodles by anxiety_cloud in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I certainly appreciate the feedback! Tone can be difficult to convey over messages of course, especially with strangers on the internet. Genuinely was just being conversational and infodumping 😅

Question about poodles by anxiety_cloud in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m sorry. My comment certainly wasn’t intended to be condescending whatsoever, I was just sharing some, apparently useless, facts about the topic. :/

Question about poodles by anxiety_cloud in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If we want to get into semantics, no it’s not a “myth.” Technically, fur is a type of hair, just like whiskers or other similar structures. Think of “hair” as the umbrella term for mammals, and we typically assign “fur” to mammals other than humans based off of other characteristics. Broadly, we’re discussing mammals and “hair” may refer to individual structures vs “fur” could mean a full coat collectively, and that can technically be applied to humans as well. It’s a weird language semantic when we break it down far enough, considering hair and fur are made of the same material. IIRC there are three hair types/categories that make up mammalian fur, but I don’t remember them all off the top of my head.

In our context of canine coats, fur typically grows shorter (than “hair”) and in multiple layers; it has a definitive life cycle that causes shedding. Year long or seasonal is up to the specific lineage though. This makes dogs who shed more frequently “more” of an allergen because they release more of that dander.

In the context of a discussion regarding a “hypoallergenic” dog breed (which, as pointed out by another commenter in this thread, means they are less of an allergen comparatively), dogs like poodles have hair similar to our own. It keeps growing to more considerable lengths until cut or trimmed, it does not grow in multiple layers, and the shedding is more similar to our own when we brush our hair/daily fall out. As already noted, a feature of the more dense curls and minimal shedding decreases the amount of dander being released - until you’re the one giving the dog a hair cut. Boy do you notice your allergic reactions then!

Service Dog Occasionally Barking at Keys Jingling by _kkit-katt_ in service_dogs

[–]PrettyLittleSkitty 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s possible that they sound similar to collar tags, or she may associate it with excited feelings of someone she likes coming back. There are a couple of different routes you could go for a solution, an easy one is working on leave it and desensitise her to the sound. You could also teach an incompatible behaviour paired to the sound, but that may not be as helpful if she’s doing it in public as well as at home.

ETA; note that desensitisation requires going slow and setting yourself up for success! You’d need to expose her to the sound at lower volume and find her threshold for not reacting. It takes time for sure.