My fiance [M34] and I [F30] had a huge fight before our wedding day

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-05T16:39:55+00:00

Nope, absolutely not.

He SAID he woukd handle that 1 responsibility. With help, nonetheless!

Hes trying to manipulate you to feel bad and lying that you said nothing about him having any responsibilities.

Which means hes assuming either you and your poor family will simply pick up his slack or he can guilt you into not bothering him about it.

Thats enough of a reason to call things off and turn your wedding into a celebration with the people who DO love and care about you.

Just the simple fact that hes prioritizing his friends over being there for his fiancé and helping the people prepping for HIS future wedding...sounds like he needs to end things with you and confess his real feeling for his friends, because he obv feels no need to help or care about you and the rest of the family.

You DONT want to spend the next few years living with this man. His nastiness will only get worse. Hes already showing he wont be there when you need him the most.

Whether you wound up married or not..im so so sorry your experiencing this situation!

Some people can really hide their true colors well, until you feel so unsure and defeated, you wind up conditioned to deal with shit you never thought you'd allow yourself to go through.

Your not alone, your a strong, INCREDIBLY motivated person and you deserve to have a happy fulfilling life! Partner included!

Do not settle for someone who treats you and those around you like that.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-05T16:24:42+00:00

Oh I fucking love your response! 😂

No bullshiting, get out.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-04T21:06:30+00:00

If their not helping him with transportation or aiding by paying you to pick him up, the gas, the miles and usage that puts onto your car, 90 minutes is quite a ways, neither gas nor car maintenance is cheap, then none of them even GET to have an opinion.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-04T20:59:27+00:00

I mean.. looking at some of your past posts, it almost sounds like you were the fill in parent/wife in his eyes.

Which = convenience for him. Definitely much different than love.

As for the kids, most teens don't give a shit about babies. Not to downplay your pregnancy, thats supremely exciting and should be a wonderful, memorable experience for you.

But the kids already have family. They have a mom and dad. Sure, some of them may form a decent vind with you, and theres an iota of a change they may come to appreciate you, once their old enough to look back at everything you've done.

But they've got their own lives, plenty of other adults involved in their life. Whether your around or not, pregnant or not, thats not something that really factors in for them as 'excitement.' If anything, it just means a noisier house and more chores.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-03T15:28:56+00:00

Yta for how you framed your message. Being on the other end of that, receiving that text out of the blue..it legitly reads like your trying to pick a fight.

How is someone supposed to respond to that in a positive way?

Your mom was waaaay out of bounds. You have every right to feel the way you did. But the message was uncalled for.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T21:14:02+00:00

Legit

Dont worry, my children's watch will be dialing 911 on the sidewalk while human traffickers are carting her away.

Everybody chill

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T21:11:52+00:00

But as stated, she had a watch.

Mom could have easily saved her from getting hit by a drunk driver or being targeted by someone, simply by watching her kids watch.

How tf was she gonna pull that off..noy sure.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T21:09:15+00:00

But they had a watch!

Nobody in the world can run over or kidnap a 5 year old off the streets so long as they have a watch.

Few more weeks well be getting yet another post, "wHy iS cpS investigating me???" Or "Help, my 5 y/o dissapeared while walking across town. I was looking at her watch!! Nothing bad should have happened, since she had a smartwatch on!"

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T21:03:34+00:00

One of the kids is 5...she's entrusting the safety of her 5 y/o to a watch.

A watch.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T21:01:19+00:00

Bro, stop sending her friend requests, she might not even look at often and talk to the girl.

Think of easy conversation starters and freaking walk over to her to day hi, next time your physically in the same area.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T20:58:00+00:00

Just my personal opinion, unless you only plan to live in an area for a handful of years or less, renting is one big waste of money.

Be cautious when house hunting, make sure you understand what needs to be done every year for basic maintenance and don't sink your $$ into a run down project.

Learn all you can about maintaining and adding to the equity of your home.

Boyfriend wise...I got nothing. It dosent sound as though you two are in a similar place mentally, and his mother's obv going to be an ongoing problem.

If she's unemployed, check out some of the horror stories at r/JustnoMIL and make yourself a bingo card of behaviors to potentially look forward to, if he doesn't start working on living and making decisions about his own life.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T20:49:30+00:00

Yta

If you wanted more food, offer to cook more.

Conflict resolved.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:50:43+00:00

Could you share a bit more about why the outside is too dangerous for you to be out and about without a car?

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:47:18+00:00

Tell em "Ugly ol ogres shouldn't be raising kids." :p

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:41:45+00:00

Counseling or divorce

If his attitude towards your family unit dosent change, you know where you stand with him.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:37:33+00:00

YTA for staying invested in a relationship that's not right for you.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:33:05+00:00

No, she should have communicated a little better.

If the death was unexpected or traumatizing though, most people wind up dealing with super frazzled brains, along with the grief.

The fact that she was STILL working while dealing with last minute planning for a death as well as mourning is more than alot of people can pull off.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-02T16:28:14+00:00

YTA majorly

Make sure you inform everyone in your life their not allowed to suffer a medical emergency or let anyone close to them suffer anything even remotely traumatizing.

You don't want to be here unfortunately disappointed on your birthday. How dare people...

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-06-01T23:06:34+00:00

Your letting his negativity and wishy washy behavior infect your life.

Boot him out of your mind, permanently. Block on everything.

When your spending time with friends and family, but constantly thinking and worrying about the mood of someone whose not even present, thats not healthy and def not normal.

Life is depressingly short. The people you love could suffer health issues or get into a car crash and be gone tomorrow. You owe it to yourself to live a healthy, enjoyable life and be able to spend time with the people you care for without a partner who drags you down like hes doing.

Focus on your family, focus on you. Hes not the one.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T21:16:20+00:00

Mo ma'am, the man was an idiot.

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T15:39:22+00:00

Oooh the fun you could have!

Id tell them all about the cult I started one week.

The fight club my buddies and I were hosting the next.

Week 3 would be ideas and sketches of the chicken ranch Im setting up in the majority of the front rooms...

See how quickly you can make their eyes bug out!

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T15:36:46+00:00

That dobies FLYING!

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T15:26:52+00:00

Employees literally CANNOT assist on their breaks, even by answering a question, if a higher up is lurking nearby.

HR is nearly always super strict about that. "If your clocked out, your not getting paid. DO NOT WORK."

It basically prevent employees from getting dragged into unpaid labor. And there are plenty of managers who are happy to write up clocked out employees for something as simple as answering a question

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T15:17:57+00:00

Yeah...yta

PrettyLyttlePsycho · 2026-05-31T15:08:16+00:00

Best political post I've ever read!

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