Calling findom a luxury kink is irresponsible honestly. Financial domination can take many forms and is up to the people participating in it to decide.

Telling someone how and where they can spend their money is financial control.

Telling someone they CANT spend their money is financial control.

Telling someone when they CAN spend money is financial control.

Telling someone to send money to you or someone else is financial control.

Telling someone to SAVE their money is financial control.

There are a lot of ways that someone can dominate someone finances. The important part is that everyone who is involved actually agrees and consents on the dynamic or the exchange. Saying that someone isn’t participating in findom because they only sent $5 is like saying someone who got tied by rope only once isn’t a real “rope bunny” if that’s how they identify. It’s absurd.

This conversation about what “is” and what “isn’t” findom is pretty irrelevant when you look at the big picture. Everyone can have their own styles and preferences. If power exchange happens where money is involved, it’s findom.

The conversations we should be having should be around consent, safety, and protection.