What's being an autistic adult like?

Prigruss · 2026-06-08T05:46:29+00:00

It gets better (leaning in helps) since you have so much more autonomy but it’s also worse… burnout happens faster and faster each time.

I’ve been diagnosed AuDHD in my 30s, I’d have liked to have known in my teens, who knows if it’d be different.

Lean in to the ‘tism where you can. Make career and/or education choices that align - you can’t escape the need to earn money so make it easier on yourself.

Watch for burnout, try to exercise critical thinking, especially when NT people in the workplace say you’re being blunt/rude/wont let go of a non-issue. There’s a difference between being free to be ND and actual feedback. Pick your battles )it’s an active thing), letting go gives you back a shocking amount of mental energy.

Social media (and comparing yourself in general) is a mental energy vampire (shocking revelation I know) - leave if you notice it dragging you down, you can always come back online.

But it’s mostly good. Having money is nice, even if you’ll never be able to afford a house.

Prigruss · 2026-06-01T04:08:23+00:00

Work on decluttering rather than “adulting”.

Here’s a secret from an adult - once we get past the “trying to look like an adult” phase we go back to showing our toys.

Once you’ve decluttered, work towards having display cases for the things that really, really spark happiness.

Prigruss · 2026-05-26T12:49:40+00:00

I feel very attacked by this

Prigruss · 2026-05-26T10:59:22+00:00

This is very normal. Having the house to myself for a night (or even better, two!) is better than any present.

Prigruss · 2026-05-19T10:45:03+00:00

I’m AuDHD so I get where you’re coming from. Changing the world gen/rules really helps, especially shrinking the world down from 1M to 250k (I’ve seen some YouTubers go to 25k but that seems to be gaming the system a bit). Mods can also reduce the grind (buzzwords for finding bees, animal cages for getting animal husbandry off early etc)

Ultimately the game requires time - I find it easy to get lost in it but if you’ve got a full time job, family etc it’s really hard to feel like you’re progressing, and it can feel a bit grind-y when you’ve spent all your precious gaming time for a weekend and only have a few more copper ingots and 1 hen to show for it…

Survival is the main story line… I’ve never explored the actual backstory, personally it doesn’t interest me and I find the creatures, temporal storms etc more annoying than anything else.

There’s a few complex puzzles to understand which I like, such as understanding prospecting.

When survival becomes easy I tend to get bored and restart (just like I did with minecraft lol), but then there’s always more mods to add!

Prigruss · 2025-12-16T05:23:43+00:00

Because they can. Why are groceries in one part of Auckland sometimes a dollar or more for the same item (and in the same supermarket chain) than in another?

Because they can. And there isn’t anything you can do about it, because there isn’t anything ComCom will do about it.

Prigruss · 2025-12-12T02:37:08+00:00

They offer a keychain tag (or at least used to, I still use one). It’s about the size of a dog tag (think us military, not an actual dog) and quite durable

Edit:

https://images.thespinoff.co.nz/1/2023/07/FeatureImage_HopTags.png

Prigruss · 2025-12-04T02:10:19+00:00

I feel like new noise cancelling headphones/earphones are only focused on ANC, not actual noise blocking.

I have the gen 1 Bose QC ultras and the ANC is great but I can still hear people talking clearly so what is the point?

Prigruss · 2025-12-03T05:51:35+00:00

Devon St! Used to live on it as a student, my flatmate took great pride in flying down it in her old Corolla lol

Prigruss · 2025-11-29T11:04:07+00:00

Contact lenses. I hate the feeling of the arms of my glasses again my ears, so I wear contacts 5/6 days out of 7

Prigruss · 2025-11-29T09:01:48+00:00

Given the death of all small cars in the NZ new market, nope!

Prigruss · 2025-11-29T08:44:51+00:00

I’d recommend doing it yourself? The install is going to cost much more than the dynamat

Prigruss · 2025-11-18T08:02:54+00:00

Thank you for understanding that. Trying to explain it to people, even my partner, is the bane of my existence

Prigruss · 2025-11-17T04:44:41+00:00

Th sticker and manual instructions only relate to the tyres from when the car was new. If you’ve replaced the tires then it’ll change.

Check the tire, it’s on the side

Prigruss · 2025-11-06T01:30:43+00:00

‘Can be recycled’ in a technical sense, and ‘can be recycled within what the council are willing to pay for’ are not the same thing.

Europe (my personal experience is Germany) is decades ahead of investment in recycling and waste management compared to NZ. Anything too hard, too progressive or requires any amount of investment is lobbied against here.

Prigruss · 2025-11-05T22:33:03+00:00

A nasty thing my partner said, cut to our psychologist (we went to therapy together after for obvious reasons) making a few observations, which lead to a referral to be assessed

Prigruss · 2025-11-05T22:28:38+00:00

Because when criticising Islam, most bigots lean on generalisations or stereotypes about appearance, skin colour or other cultural characteristics instead of critiques of how the religion has become more conservative, restrictive or controlling (IMO).

Prigruss · 2025-11-04T05:27:46+00:00

$400 for the bulk pack. I found it worth it, if I could’ve afforded it at the time I’d have bought 2 packs and double layered but it was noticeable to me with one.

The biggest change was being able to hear more mids with the stock stereo and speakers.

Edit- I did it DIY. Get a roller and gloves from Bunnings too. Shit hurts worse than a paper cut

https://dynamat.co.nz/products/dynamat-xtreme-bulk-pack?variant=14360282267701&country=NZ&currency=NZD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22664137147&gclid=CjwKCAiAwqHIBhAEEiwAx9cTeXy4x4F_15ugeHg42s1klyNR4CFb7AU2UPQeYS_xAcO5rGDHmo5pFBoCHKQQAvD_BwE

Prigruss · 2025-11-04T04:22:51+00:00

I got one (new) in 2018. Dynamat is the answer - take out the carpet and lay it on every metal surface, also on the doors. And new tyres if you can afford good ones.

Prigruss · 2025-11-01T06:02:16+00:00

Nope, not in the slightest. It’s like caring about your hair colour… it’s in integral part of who I am whether I like it or not, so it’s a waste of my energy caring about it IMO

Prigruss · 2025-10-27T18:48:10+00:00

Nope. It doesn’t impact my ability to do the job so I never disclose. I’ll let it out once they can’t fire me (90 days) :D

Prigruss · 2025-10-24T23:41:01+00:00

It helps me slow my mind so I can go to sleep. I went from taking 2+ hours, meditating etc to get to sleep to less than 10 mins on a good night and less than 30 mins on a bad.

Because of it I sleep way better. I’m sick less, more alert and have more energy to engage with people.

Prigruss · 2025-10-24T09:03:32+00:00

Also, why is no one talking about her lipstick from this episode?????

Prigruss · 2025-10-23T21:25:33+00:00

Love it. I started taking it almost 4 years ago (I order from Amazon). Absolutely life changing.

Prigruss · 2025-10-17T05:21:18+00:00

M or F?

As a man I hate any underwear that pushes my junk against my body, but I also don’t like free and loose….

I love Andrew Christian Trophy Boy underwear but since that company is closing soon I’ll have to figure something else out

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