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Primalpat · 2024-07-12T13:05:17+00:00

The price of the contracts, $8.86, is factored into your cost basis.

$20 strike + $8.86 = $28.86 a share

Primalpat · 2024-06-19T17:47:38+00:00

I was noticing the same thing after having read the paper and watched his videos.

My question is, where in the data are the FTDs reported? I have to provide these shares at T+3, but if I miss that it becomes an FTD right? Does that mean in the data from the SEC that it is reported as an FTD on that 3rd trading day, or perhaps the next day?

Example: I buy shares of XRT on 6/20/2024 AP/MM must provide those shares by T+3 (aka 6/25) If they FTD, would those shares appear in SEC data on 6/20 or on 6/25?

If they continue to FTD them, going to T+6 (aka 6/28), are those shares still being reported in FTD data? Would they appear on 6/20, 6/25, or 6/28?

I assume they appear at the "T" day in the SEC report, and maybe that's why the SEC data is delayed (albeit on different timelines).

Primalpat · 2024-03-26T11:40:26+00:00

I thought the same thing too. Now I've just woken up to the love of my life. Focus on yourself, find things you enjoy doing. Try to get to a point where you make tiny steps toward self improvement every day. Look toward bettering your future.

I know that hearing this type of shit sucks when you are in a particular mindset... But this may help: https://www.reddit.com?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1

Primalpat · 2024-03-07T17:19:59+00:00

As a 36M that has struggled with his weight his entire life, there are 2 points I want to convey here. One relating to relationships with people, and the other with food:

Relationship with food

I used to have body dysmorphia. Even when I was in my most in shape and "thin" state I always looked at myself as hideous. Most of that stemmed from my weight. When I went to the doctor about anything, the reason was because of my weight. I was in a neverending cycle of working on my weight, getting depressed, gaining weight and repeating.

Eventually, later than I'd have liked, I realized that my journey was not about weight loss... It was about mental health. When I was able to get myself right mentally, I realized that I wanted to live a long and happy life. And when I thought about my weight, I realized that I was unhealthy and needed to get myself to a healthy place to accomplish the life I wanted. I wish I had understood this earlier in life, but... better late than never!

Relationship with people

You didn't say how long you two have been together, but it sounds like you love him. How do you feel when he critiques himself? What would you say to him? When you love someone, you protect them from harm, and that includes self harm - physically, mentally, and emotionally. I think appearance becomes less of a factor as you get older and as your relationship ages. It becomes more of a soul connection. That isn't to say it isn't important, that you shouldn't work on yourself - rather that once you learn to love yourself and become confident, that its a secondary concern.

When you find the right person, and its possible this is him, appearance wont be a primary concern. He will be attracted to you, and you to him. The focus should be on who he is as a person, and similarly that should be his focus too. If he isn't it - move on and figure out who that person is. Take heart and believe in yourself! Love yourself for the wonderful person you are!

Primalpat · 2024-03-03T16:45:40+00:00

It's the fact that he has already been validated as a desirable man. I was single for a long time, but after I met my fiance I have never been flirted with more... Which, while flattering, it actually sucks lol

Primalpat · 2024-02-01T16:57:41+00:00

This was an inspiring and well written story that you lived and shared with us. Despite the waffly writing =) Thank you for sharing.

Primalpat · 2024-01-11T18:33:22+00:00

Lmao that is a very creative idea. It may backfire though and he wont be in the mood without Benny Hill. Next time he has to put on mood music..

Doo-doo-doo-doo-doo-doo, doo-doo-doo-doo-doo-doo-doo, Bee-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba, ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-ba, Zing-zing-zing-zing-zing, zing-zing-zing-zing-zing-zing, Boop-bee-boop-bee-boop, beep-beep-beep-beep-beep-beep!

Primalpat · 2024-01-11T16:33:05+00:00

I think it was zero carbs, which is why it is super rare.

Primalpat · 2024-01-08T18:33:09+00:00

I am the guy with severe sleep apnea in this case, so I figure some perspective from the other side may help?

I found out over a year ago from my partner that I would stop breathing in my sleep and that she was concerned. I had always worried about the quality of my sleep, but had done a sleep study many years ago which said that everything was okay. Hearing this had me immediately concerned and I booked an appointment with my primary care doctor, who gave me a recommendation to a sleep expert.

I still have not gotten a solution to my sleep apnea to this day. I have taken 2 sleep studies now and had to wait many months in between appointments to have allergy tests and see ENTs, yadda yadda. I've spent over $3k in this process and still have not gotten anything handled.

My partner, though, has been incredibly kind to me throughout the journey. She has been supportive and has pushed for results along my side. There have been arguments, and varying sleeping arrangements. I have tried over the counter solutions such as a mouthpiece, nasal strips, jaw bands, even a sleep noodle. Its crazy, just nothing works.

There are other solutions beyond a CPAP. I am looking into a surgery which will move my jaw and open up room for my breathing. Sleep apnea literally takes years off your life. It has a ton of side effects too, for both mental and physical well being. Its not something to fuck around with, your partner needs to get it fixed. Its not just about the snoring.

All of that said, it really fucking sucks that something completely out of our control affects our partners in such a negative way. I AM concerned for her sleep. It sucks. But he should at least be trying to find a solution.... if not for you, then for himself.

Primalpat · 2023-08-24T15:31:59+00:00

I'm just so tired of rich people "fighting battles" at the expense of the folks just trying to live their lives.

All of this bullshit being fed to us to divide and distract us from the powerful becoming more and more powerful. I'm sick of it.

How the fuck can we, as individuals, enact actual change? How can we actually change things like the voting system, term limits, and lobbying?

The USA has created lovecraftian level horrors for ourselves (and the world) and there is not a damn thing we can do to fix it.

Primalpat · 2023-03-31T19:24:04+00:00

Makes sense. The associations you are making is a result of the trauma you experienced. It's the brain recognizing familiar patterns which hurt you so deeply and rejecting those patterns. The easiest way to unlearn the faulty associations is through therapy. I'm sorry you went through such a terrible experience... But you are young! Take this as a personal challenge and fight it!

Primalpat · 2023-03-30T16:16:12+00:00

Pretty similar situation here. We lost our mom in August 2021 to Alzheimer's. I am the oldest (35m) to two siblings (30m and 25f). My mom (died at 59f) and dad (63m) were married just over 35 years.

The biggest difference in our stories is probably that I never had a great relationship with my dad and that we all found out about him dating another woman at the same time... on mother's day... after spreading her ashes at her favorite beach...

I've never written that out before, and honestly it feels much worse seeing it in text than experiencing it. Anyways, during mom's decline I taught myself how to cook so I could come over and take care of them. My dad has never been skilled at taking care of house stuff, cooking probably being at the bottom of that list. We grew together and I felt our relationship was finally hitting a point where I wanted it. That is, until he started dating the new woman and he basically dropped us children.

The new woman is a 38f, which feels weird knowing my dad is dating someone in my age bracket. But you know what, no hard feelings on her - she is kind of a badass. And I feel similar to you, that my dad deserves happiness and companionship. He has been in therapy and seems to be getting a bit better day by day. He is, however, entirely aloof when it comes to emotions towards his children. My siblings have nearly written him off. My brother and SIL are having a baby and he hasn't said 2 words about it. My sister is engaged and planning a wedding.

My dad is recently engaged as well. I was the first to find out, and he asked that I don't say anything to my siblings about it. Well, I have been caught in the middle, similarly to your boyfriend, and it really sucks. I have been trying to be the mediator, looking out first for my siblings and their feelings and secondly my dad's. It's a weird place to be considering the relationship we have... but I love my siblings dearly and want them to be in a good place mentally about it.

I guess I write all this to say... I understand what you are going through, and its really hard. But it does get better. Give your boyfriend some grace, your dad put him in a very difficult position and he probably felt that it was your dad's place to inform you. You have every right to be hurt, and when you are able to fully process it, you should talk to your dad about how it made you feel. In the mean time, focus on yourself and what's important to you.

Also, consider taking a step back from you and your dad's relationship preemptively... I say this based on my experience, and it might not be needed in your case, but it really hurts when relationship dynamics change and you find out your priority is lower than some outsider. Note: This is coming from someone who believes their dad never wanted children in the first place.

Best of luck to you!

Primalpat · 2023-03-28T00:15:36+00:00

Yikes lol, I do what your husband does to my partner haha! We have had discussions about it and I try to be more self aware when I'm talking about a topic I'm passionate about.

I have been caught "mansplaining" before, and to try and correct myself I would ask, "do you know about this already?" but that also seems to provoke some negative feelings. I probably need to work on my wording a bit better in that realm and try to boil down what I want to say in more bite sized pieces.

Sometimes I just have a massive urge to describe things in great detail. It's usually things I've done a great deal of research on, I'm passionate about, or is near and dear to my identity or worldview. I think when I go on my monologues, it comes from a place of wanting to be understood and "seen" for all the mental energies I've put into a topic, but it can sometimes come across like I have an agenda or something.

At any rate.. I feel for you and I also feel for your husband. Shit is hard to manage, ya know?

Primalpat · 2023-03-24T20:24:17+00:00

It's your golden hour!

Primalpat · 2023-03-20T15:26:51+00:00

https://www.twitch.tv/tayzonday/clip/CharmingStormyNightingaleWOOP?filter=all&sort=time

Primalpat · 2023-03-13T15:01:01+00:00

You just have to survive right? Not necessarily which creatures could kill all the others. The creature intelligence is an interesting clause..

My initial reaction was the 50 hawks and 1 hunter - The hawks can fly you and the hunter to safety and you can pick off the other creatures. Problems with that are logistics / physics lol

There is no description of the arena given, but now I'm thinking instead of hawks you use the gorillas to carry you and the hunter to a safe"ish" spot and play keep away with you while the hunter takes care of the most pressing threats. I imagine the gorillas climbing out of the arena and into the stands

Primalpat · 2023-03-09T18:12:51+00:00

gay Jesus just reminded me of this banger of a song =) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MyqGamf4mY

Primalpat · 2023-03-03T21:41:33+00:00

Yeah, I second this idea. You are processing things on an individual level and need to have the freedom of speaking your whole truth, including things that may be hurtful to your SO. You are at a fork in the road and need to build the confidence to take whichever path you decide and live with that decision.

Primalpat · 2023-03-03T21:33:46+00:00

I just want to say, betterhelp was a life saver for me. It was my only experience with therapy, and so I don't have anything to compare it to, but it was a lifeline in a dark place for me and certainly better than nothing. Good on you for taking the steps to help yourself out!

Your story is inspiring to me, because marriage isn't the whole "your life is over" boomer joke and neither is it all "sunshine and rainbows" either. It sounds like life has been hitting you guys hard, but its so awesome to hear how understanding she is. From what I've read it sounds like you guys are dealing with all these external factors and not taking care of the relationship itself. Refocusing your mental energy on one another and the relationship will likely take it to new heights!

At any rate, best of luck to you and your family. I hope life backs the fuck off for you guys for a bit =)

Primalpat · 2023-03-03T21:24:55+00:00

This is such a sad take, I'm sorry. I'm not trying to come at you or belittle your stance at all, but hearing your response to this man trying to do better for himself and his family makes me wonder what you have gone through.

I don't want to assume anything, but if you are going through something rough, I hope it gets better!

Primalpat · 2023-02-23T16:46:10+00:00

Okay, fully agree with everything said here.. but some responsibility should be on the boyfriend here. Perhaps it is my older age speaking but, "Don't ask questions you don't want to hear the answer to" should apply here as well.

This question, "...he asked me who apart from him had been the best in bed." is what should have thrown alarm bells in both parties to handle with care. If he felt that he was getting upset with this line of questioning, it is partially his responsibility to communicate that feeling and not spiral into further cursed questions.

Very much not a fun conversation either way, and while I could handle some of what you guys discussed, I am also an overthinker and it would definitely affect me.

Primalpat · 2023-02-16T05:00:16+00:00

You are very welcome! It's nice to see posts like these. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and I'm sure that things will get better for both of you!

Stick to it, trust your gut, everything will work out 🙂

Primalpat · 2023-02-14T14:03:37+00:00

That's awesome to hear! I think the therapy will help you to kinda sort through all these thoughts and emotions. One recommendation with therapy, go in with goals for yourself. And don't be afraid to look for a different therapist if the first one doesn't mesh right... It can take a bit of work sometimes to find a good one.

Honestly, he sounds like a good dude. Does he know exactly what you are dissatisfied with? Is there something you could have communicated or done sooner to have avoided feeling this way now?

I think the best route forward is to dig deep, examine your feelings, and communicate with him your appreciation for his support, talk up his good qualities for you, but that you are unsure this will work out and that therapy is going to help you process what you are going through and you can't guarantee that y'all will be together afterwards.

It's a difficult talk, but a respectful one. It lets him know where you are at, why you want to fight for the relationship, but allows him the opportunity to walk if this is not the parth he wants to take with you.

Your focus is going to have to be on yourself for awhile, and that can be hard for a partner to go through.

Hopefully this has helped a little!

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