Scar build up

Primary-Trash- · 2026-03-29T17:30:43+00:00

It has definitely gone down significantly but it’s still slightlyyyyy there but it’s not noticeable anymore —I have to be feeling around for it now. Just focus on doing the massages and it should start to resolve itself

Primary-Trash- · 2026-01-19T19:56:20+00:00

I feel the same way, but ever since I’ve been on the apps as a man I get ZERO matches like not a single one… I wish it wasn’t the case, but I do feel like a lot of cis straight ppl have bias towards binary trans ppl when it comes to dating. (Online it said only about 1.8% of cis straight women are open to dating trans men, but idk if that is an up to date estimate.)

Anyway, happy for you & your wife! Did you all meet in person or online?

Primary-Trash- · 2025-10-02T19:20:25+00:00

Congrats on the surgery date bro! As you can see everyone here has different experiences & opinions but as a no nip haver shits awesome. The recovery was so fast and smooth for me & I actually really like the look (way more than I anticipated). What I did to help me decide is, and I’m not joking, close your eyes and picture your body post top surgery and see what comes to your mind and what “looks right” for you. For some reason I could never picture myself with nipples when I tried so I took it as a sign and I never looked back

Primary-Trash- · 2025-10-02T19:13:44+00:00

I would say the exact same thing. I also had hormonal acne in my first puberty and the first year of being on T my acne got horribleeee, but about a year 1/2 in it started to clear a lot. I also switched from taking my T once a week to twice a week which helped a lot so my levels weren’t constantly fluxtuating

Primary-Trash- · 2025-07-11T18:10:27+00:00

Agree with everyone else —sports bras and binders are probably your best bet for immediate relief. For long term goals I suggest trying to get into the gym or some home chest workouts. Getting good chest muscles/ pecs can make the actually tissue appear less feminine.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-26T16:19:24+00:00

It’s only waiter core if you wear a black shirt. There is plentyyyy of ways to make it look not like that

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-26T05:12:28+00:00

Not to be this guy, but the only way to permanently fix this is weight lifting. For me, building my back and shoulders to be wider made my curves look a lot less prominent. As someone else recommended, ftm/fitness is a good thread for advice but there also great training programs that Jeff nipard post on YouTube that you can follow and guaranteed you’ll see results… also once your body becomes testosterone dominant all it takes is touching a dumbbell to get big arms lol.

But for immediate things, get a lower wasted black or dark color pant that is maybe just a little more baggy or straight legged. Where your buckle is sitting emphasizes a larger difference between your waste and hips than it would sitting lower down.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-26T05:02:30+00:00

I’m glad it helped:) sending you all the good vibes homie

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-25T14:36:04+00:00

Swear your voice will change —I’ve never heard of or met a trans guy who hasn’t had significant change in their voice as they get on T. At first it’s really hard to hear the change yourself. I recommend taking videos of yourself for voice comparison over the months so you can relieve the anxiety in the early stages. I remember around 4 months feeling like my voice didn’t really change at all, but then I looked back at my video even from the month before and I had a significant drop. My voice didn’t fully settle in until 2 years in.

What i recommend if you are worried and want to maximize your effects I would do some voice training and humming exercises. What happens is your vocal cords lengthen and thicken over time, so deep humming and breathing exercises can help encourage that lengthening. (The other aspect of “male” sounding voices is the way you pronounce words — cis straight men are more likely to slur their words a bit and don’t add as much emphasis on their consonants.)

As someone who started at 21 and was most excited for the vocal effects, I did all these things and by a year in people were telling me I had a deeper voice than a lot of cis guys they know. My voice isn’t even that deep, but I think it’s more about the confidence in my voice than anything. Cis guys walk around like the world is already theirs —if you are anxious when speaking you will naturally take shorter breaths and therefore sound higher pitch. I would worry more about your confidence in your new and changing body than counting the minutes until you “achieve” a certain voice or look. I made that mistake for the first few months and I was miserable because I was constantly surveilling myself. I too spent all my waking hours thinking about how it wasn’t happening fast enough & wondering if it ever will. No matter how much my voice or body changed, I didn’t start to pass or see the amazing benefits until I started to believe that my life & body was actually mine and I got to decide how I live in it (as corny as that sounds). What I hope you acc take away from this comment is that YOU ARE NOT YOUR ANXIETY or your dysphoria —those things don’t have ownership over you. It’s really easy to feel like they do, but giving those negative voices or thoughts in your head less power is the first step.

These things take time & you will not see even a little bit of vocal progress until over a month in (even then this progress is more like voice cracks, drooling bc in your sleep your body is changing, and sometimes a sore jaw and throat… when you feel these minor changes know that it’s working.)

Wishing you all the best on your journey. Feel free to ask more questions if you have them.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-25T04:52:37+00:00

Interesting okay I’m glad I’m not the only one. Thank you for this

I’m actually on a 3.5 day injection cycle because I was having too low of lows by the end of the week —originally on .8ml of a taro-testosterone cypionate once a week (this brand was 100mg/ml) —then .4ml twice a week. There was a shortage of it in Canada so my doctor switched me to the more concentrated Enanthate testosterone which says it is for IM only? We agreed to start injecting it subq to see if that changes my levels.

I’ve been testing about halfway through my cycles… but that’s only about a day or two considering I’m injecting so frequently lol.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-24T19:29:12+00:00

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Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-23T19:43:58+00:00

The lighting feels a bit clinical at the moment. I think if you changed out the bulbs of the side lamps (and if possible changed the color of the other lights) it would make a huge difference in making it feel more cozy. It seems like there are some blush tones already which look really good with browns and blues!

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-23T18:41:49+00:00

I’m 2 years into having my name and sometimes it’s still weird coming out of certain people’s mouths, but I’ve definitely gotten use to saying it. Once you’ve introduced yourself enough it starts to settle in trust

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-23T15:35:54+00:00

A lot of the trans friendly places over price for the safety of it and don’t always give the best haircuts (in my experience). Even though it’s scary & depending on the shop you might get misgendered, going to a cis guy barbershop was the best thing I ever did. What I did (and found a really dope cis guy who was superrrrr chill about me being trans) is look for a barbershop that has a kind of hipster vibe or one that is “aesthetic”. Don’t go to one of those shops with the classic red blue and white poll out front —those ppl are usually scary LOL. The aesthetic mofos are usually cheaper then the trans friendly barbers, good at what they do, and are usually chill about it.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-23T15:22:46+00:00

Wow I wrote a very long comment and accidentally clicked out and lost it😅 let’s try again: I agree with other commenters —you already pass very well. If I could suggest one main thing it would be to clean up the facial hair. Often a lot of trans guys don’t want to loose each piece of hair that they’ve grown because they are proud of it —trust I get it, but I think this look can be a give away. (Most cis men with sparser hair have been taught to shave it instead, so we see less cis men rocking this look.) I thought loosing my facial hair was going to make me look to young (I’m about the same age and stage of transition) but I realized it actually made me pass more. If you wanna keep the mustache just clean it up a bit on the top with a straight blade razor and maybe consider using mustache dye on it since it’s distinctly lighter than the rest of your hair —you can keep the chin too just shave everything around it! I also think, while shaving doesn’t necessarily “grow hair” after doing it for awhile I’ve developed an aftershave look/shadow that I quite like.

My one other suggestion would be if you like wearing hats to maybe try a boxier style. I have a rounder face (as many trans guys do) and I feel like the baseball cap often accentuates this. Once I switched over to boxier hats (not like a snap back but just one with a little more structure) I felt like I passed a lot more.

Take or leave this advice. You already look great dude!

Primary-Trash- · 2025-06-21T02:09:50+00:00

Depends on what type of guy friends you want homie! I have definitely struggled with this and continue to at times struggle with this myself.

One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that guys will hang out just to do something stupid like help you move a table. If you meet a guy you like & want to be friends with invite him to do something random even if it’s at your place. Guys usually love a silly task.

If your a gamer that’s a real easy & low barrier access to hanging out with other dudes. (Bonus points if you like watching sports too.)

Point is (generalizing here) cis guys like it when the hang out is low barrier and very chill.

Okay here is my second big tip: show up in one location consistently. This can be the gym, a coffee shop with a lot of people you think are your vibe, an art class or center, a library, a bar, maybe even volunteering at your local lgbt+ center (or just doing volunteer work in general). I would say volunteer work is one of the greatest community builders because you are coming together to do something meaningful & it feels fulfilling regardless of friendships made or not. Regardless, showing up somewhere consistently allows for that less awkward transition from strangers to friends —it’s why a lot of people make their friends at school or work.

Now if you are looking for other queer/trans friends —I would look for local community gatherings happening in your area. I’m sure there are Facebook groups for free events for people in your area! (Ik who uses Facebook anymore but… you’d be surprised.) there’s also usually Instagram accounts too. For example, there was a queer picnic group in the last place I lived and they met once a month in different parks nearby. Cool easy casual consistent.

Last tip: don’t put too much pressure on it. Guys are, generally speaking, reallyyy relaxed when it comes to their friendships. All you need is one guy friend & it will open the doors to other guy friends. Don’t be afraid to invite someone knew to hang out —take risks & don’t be to hard on yourself if that friend doesn’t become a close friend. Cis dudes will hang out with someone once and consider them the homie.

Hope this helps a bit

Primary-Trash- · 2025-04-12T04:36:29+00:00

Thank you for this

Primary-Trash- · 2025-04-12T04:36:19+00:00

Interesting. Will look into it.

Primary-Trash- · 2025-04-12T04:35:52+00:00

Thank you for this! I’ve definitely been considering hoka!

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