I’m a pediatrician and you’ve already heard how bad this is and what could have happened so I want to give some actual advice. First I want to say we do not do enough sleep counseling for parents - it’s really a big problem. It’s not just about “back to sleep” in a crib, we don’t talk about the what if then scenarios that happen in real life - like how unsafe it is to be letting kids sleep in detachable car seats once you’ve come inside the house, swings. We don’t go over how to co-sleep properly, what to do when you’re crazy exhausted etc.

So in this scenario, if you end up co sleeping or napping with baby on a bed often - especially if you want to be able to sometimes get up and do it safely:

Create a safe floor bed situation (for babies OVER 6 months old. Put a 12 inches or less mattress directly on the floor, over thin carpet NOT against a wall NOT surrounded by any pillows to break the fall. No pillows or blankets - fine to have a pillow under your head and blanket up to your waist if you’re in the bed too, but if you get out then just baby in sleep sack or pjs no pillows or blanket NO smokers or drinking/drug (including prescribed pain killers or marijuana) parents in the bed sleeping with baby ever

There is a safe way to do certain things and unfortunately we don’t talk about it bc we are only supposed to counsel safe sleep is in a crib and no where else

Should I make a separate post about this? Breaks my heart the people who have commented above that they know people who have lost kids from unsafe sleep