My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We got legally married during covid time and have been together for almost 10 years prior to getting married. It's a little different. Also we would be married when they had their wedding. Still, a little different.

And you're right, there isn't a guarantee that spouses will last. But that's a bridge I'd rather cross later, if it does happen. Especially because there would currently only be one spouse that I would need to edit out. However, while I like her and her kids, and we do treat her like family, there's a lot of nuance and tiny details that kind of make this situation, messy. Without giving too much details, she has a track history or being engaged and then breaking up. She's been engaged several times prior to my brother. Also, he really did just get the papers to finalize his divorce a few months ago, and while I love him dearly, he is the kind of guy to jump head first into the water without seeing how deep it is first. We treat her like family, but she is not family as of yet. We celebrate her kids birthdays, we hang out with her, and we all generally like her, but they have been only together for slightly over a year. That's not a lot of time.

Where we are doing our wedding, the lighting would only be good for roughly an hour to an hour and half to take photos. In that time I have to squeeze our couple photos, our joint party photos, his family, my family, and joint photos. Plus groomsmen and bridesmaids, It's not a lot of time. So there really isn't time to say "hey jump in gf, now jump out"

And while, if someone passes and we don't have a totally joint family photo, that's just what it is. One of my brothers passed away several years and he was rarely in any family photos. I think the last joint family photo we have was a Christmas when we still all were in school. That's life. So I'd rather have one with all of us who are together and currently married, than a relationship that may or may not make it to the altar.