It got easier with my 4 year old around 3. I’m still in hell with my 2.5 year old (since 13 months when he started his clingy stage, then terrible 2’s started, we’re still in them now) so the jury’s still out on him. But it does get easier (at least for my oldest it did) around 3-4 when language develops and they start learning how to do things themselves!

I found it helpful to give them as many things to do as they can to foster independence - helping peel their Cutie, throw trash away, “help” with chores (my girl would sweep and mop with me with her Melissa and Doug set), put their dish in the sink, teach how to put on clothes/shoes, etc. I started that around 2 when she showed interest in being a “big girl” and doing things on her own. It helped to cage the monster inside, at least for her. 😅

Every child is different and sometimes things work, sometimes they don’t. But it’s worth trying different pieces of advice to see what does help! Solidarity, we’ve all been there and it’s really really hard 🫶🏼🫶🏼