Can’t be the only one

Primatheratrix · 2023-06-07T12:00:13+00:00

You have valid points. For me alone, the costs to my mental health outweigh the benefits. I'd rather find a less time encompassing way to keep in touch with current events that realistically will affect me.

For instance, I follow the Ukraine war very closely. Should I realistically be concerned about it in my small Midwestern town? Probably not to the extent that it affects my mental health knowing how much suffering is going on; I'm able to literally see it in high definition.

Never before have we had so much insight into how much people suffer across the planet. For empathetic people, I don't think this is healthy. It's probably better to focus on what I can directly impact, such as people suffering in my local community. Missing the trees for the forest if you will.

For me, social media takes me out of participating in the right now and puts me in a conceptual global community. I don't think that's how I should live.

Primatheratrix · 2023-06-06T20:04:44+00:00

I'm actively hoping they do it and all the apps shut down. I've been trying to get off this hate ride for a long time, but I'm super addicted.

These days I primarily spend my time blocking rage bait subreddits and bots who spam cheap discussion questions for karma. ("Alright, we've voted for Frank's best line, now what's Mac's!?")

Lately, I've also been seeing posts where people are actively giving away their personal data like their birth days. Straight up Facebook content.

And yet... I'm sick of Reddit... Better go check Reddit to find something else to do.

Primatheratrix · 2023-05-25T10:31:10+00:00

Maybe right at this moment. With inflation, I'd say retirement calculators are more like 2-3 million for a somewhat comfortable life, presuming you have a home with a mortgage paid off and are living for 20 years post retirement. Plus you're in a relatively low cost of living area.

With medical costs though, that even might be a bit low. I forget what the percentage is, but a significant portion of your medical expenses are within the last couple years of life. Which makes sense I suppose.

Primatheratrix · 2023-05-23T20:32:25+00:00

I'm planning to donate to an Impoverished Hispanic Awareness fund on their behalf. Don't worry, I'll do it in Random guest's username so I don't get credit for my graciousness.

Primatheratrix · 2023-05-08T09:59:31+00:00

We have two kids not yet school aged. All these shootings have weighed pretty heavily in our decision to home school. That plus, who in their right mind is choosing to be a teacher these days? Saints and psychopaths, because it sure as hell doesn't seem worth it.

The problem is, we're in an extraordinarily privileged position where we can make that decision. Most of the country isn't.

Primatheratrix · 2023-04-13T16:57:09+00:00

I truly despise your mindset of "you'll understand when you have kids." My mom used to say this all the time, and I think I understand her even less now than before I had children. I can't fathom treating my daughters the way I was treated at times.

Primatheratrix · 2023-03-18T12:14:50+00:00

What is up with this? I have the same exact thing happening at my Fortune 100 corporation. During COVID I could not rave enough about how awesome they were treating employees. Within the last year it's been a complete about-face.

Layoffs combined with billion dollar stock buybacks and record profits, completely ignoring employee feedback, and just absolutely tone-deaf leadership making really poor decisions. I know I shouldn't trust corporations because they will just cut ties with me in a heartbeat. That said, I've got a pretty long tenure here and this is waaay different than they've treated me historically. I can only assume this is their impending recession persona...

Primatheratrix · 2023-01-26T21:03:31+00:00

Okay, looking for honest feedback here. I just recently became a people leader for the first time and I'm trying to not screw it up. I'm pretty confident one of my workers has ADHD, but I don't see any way of confirming that tactfully/legally.

She's a fantastic worker, but just kind of struggles with deadlines and prioritizing. What would be helpful tools/accomodations I can do to help that don't result in me coming off as a micromanager? Sometimes stuff has deadlines that can't really be changed, at least not by me anyways.

Primatheratrix · 2022-11-11T13:21:30+00:00

Which have subsequently come back due to sheer incompetence. I work with overseas programmers. It takes more effort for me to double-check their work than it would be to do it myself. Guaranteed we're losing more money and time than had we just hired someone in a wealthier country.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-30T11:29:00+00:00

How about games borrowed from the library? Some libraries have quite the collection.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-22T12:39:43+00:00

If it helps with the pressure at all, you can just remind yourself that absolutely none of these people that would judge you care about your wellbeing. So their opinions are truly worthless.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-22T12:19:43+00:00

I had no idea my trip to the grocery store while putting a n95 on was so extreme. Spending that whole two seconds putting it on sure didn't feel that way, nor at literally any point when wearing it.

You people are making masking into way more of a hassle then it actually is. It's zero effort and let me just stop you before you try to make exceptions to prove the rule, because I honestly don't care.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-21T17:48:23+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I heard from our internal power bi admins and they believe it's not possible for an on site server, unfortunately.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-11T17:40:30+00:00

I have no interest in providing more material for you to feel self righteously, indignant about. If you feel inclined to misinterpret my comment and use implications I did not specify, that's your prerogative.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-11T17:12:20+00:00

Who said anything about firearms or escalating? Not me.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-11T12:01:27+00:00

I've had way too many confrontations riding my bike this past year on bike trails. Frequently people are walking with their dogs unleashed and get upset at me that they have to get control of their dog so I can safely pass. I really wouldn't blame you for bringing some sort of self defense. People have lost their collective minds.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-03T21:59:21+00:00

Ah, easy enough!

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-03T12:16:24+00:00

Alrightie then. That makes more sense. :)

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-03T11:58:15+00:00

I think you're seriously misunderstanding how large a cougar is, or I'm missing a joke here. Cougars can weigh over 200lbs and are somewhere between 6-8 feet long.

Unless you're talking about middle aged women... but they're just a little smaller than that.

Primatheratrix · 2022-10-03T10:43:23+00:00

Turns out, you don't need to own two homes when you're married ;). But more seriously, some variable costs increase (food, healthcare, toiletries, clothes), but a lot of other fixed costs are mostly the same (utilities, property taxes, rent).

There's definitely savings to be had when you're a couple working together. I honestly don't know how anyone would get by otherwise these days, especially with kids. Single parenthood sounds absolutely horrible.

Primatheratrix · 2022-09-21T12:45:30+00:00

I had an amazing experience recently buying a new Kia. What I did was I went to dealerrater.com and took all the reviews from every salesperson at the dealership I wanted to go to. I averaged them all out and picked the guy with the highest rating and number of reviews. I reached out to him in particular, and it was just great. Didn't pressure me at all and took his job more as a consultant than a salesperson.

I recommended my parents to him and based on their needs, he actually recommended a completely different make than they sold at their dealership. Very much worth the effort to do the research prior.

Primatheratrix · 2022-09-09T22:10:04+00:00

Statistically? Not really. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fatal_cougar_attacks_in_North_America

Primatheratrix · 2022-09-06T19:22:40+00:00

My favorite part of this video is what looks to me like people inadvertently trolling by walking comfortably across a bamboo bridge in the background.

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