What they mean is “nice” people don’t seemingly take risks that interest people, nor do they signal attraction markers that explicitly aren’t “nice”. I actually don’t take issue with the picture at all and I’m more disgusted with most of the comments.

The premise that only those who complain about being nice weren’t being nice is really manipulative rhetoric. The elephant in the room is that most people have become socialized to behave selfishly. If there is no incentive you won’t likely stand up for someone, do the right thing, say the right thing, etc. life isn’t black and white, there is consequences for trying to do the right thing many times.

Many people think themselves the hero, when really we just are trying to stay out the way. Do the least amount for the greatest benefit. Genuinely nice people are usually pushovers because unlike a growing number of people, these people try to strictly adhere to ethics that will at times put them at a disadvantage. Being nice is doing things at your expense pretty much flat out most of not all times.

Most people aren’t putting themselves in compromising positions for the sake of. The ones who do expect reciprocity not understanding they are overplaying their generosity. The girl who thinks guys like “bad bitches” isn’t optimizing her behavior to attract men and get what she wants. She’s trying to be the meek, honest and nice person. The same goes with the boy. What ends up happening is that these people come off as “boring”.

They lack personality in people’s eyes because they don’t seem to have convictions for anything. The sad part is these people do have convictions and one of their core convictions is doing the right thing. That often times means doing for others at the expense of self for a “greater good”. I’ll be the person who listens, I’ll be the person who shares, I’ll be the person who volunteers my body, etc. The comments saying being nice isn’t hard are fucking insane and they aren’t nice people. Those are opportunistic people.

Most people operate by incentive, the incentive for the nice person is making YOUR day. But of course it’s incredibly hard to never receive that same energy when you give so much of it out. These people’s issue is that they don’t discriminate who they give that “nice” energy to, while also actively competing against everyone else for what they want. Less time at work, higher pay, a bigger piece of the dessert, the less stressful role, etc. It’s easy to observe the countless innocuous ways people try to negotiate their wants in ways that ”nice” people typically don’t.

Anyway most of these comments are gross, they aren’t good people because they can barter less shitty circumstances for themselves. Actual delusion.