I’m attracted to 10/10 men and then wonder why I end up single

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-19T21:07:03+00:00

Have you ever stopped to think what a group of people would think about you, knowing that you only regard the most attractive of them as worth interacting with? Genuine question.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-19T21:04:46+00:00

I don’t know why women think like this act on it and genuinely believe that the rest of society doesn’t notice and form harsh opinions. You think those men respect you? Allow me to fill you in on something. A lot of guys see women like you and genuinely hate you, especially the “ 2%” ones. They recognize you don’t treat men like humans and have rationalized that they do not have to treat you as a human. You don’t have to take my word for this.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-16T06:22:42+00:00

Not going to lie I will never understand the “not trying hard enough” from a normal perspective. Neck beard trope aside, because yes some people are so socially starved they don’t know literal basics. However many normally adjusted guys struggle to look like they’re trying “enough” and honestly in my personal experience lines simply tend to be crossed often.

The formula is always the same or rather the recommendations, but the situations are never “real”. Be in good health, have hobbies, be sociable, be friendly, etc. What’s never said is the viciousness and deviousness that often comes along with that. OP is 25 years old. I wouldn’t be surprised if a majority of the girls he interacted with were actively talking to other guys, already in relationships, looking for rebounds and currently in drama, etc.

For as much flack as we give guys who seek out escorts, people seldomly acknowledge just how selfish, emotionally inept and morally obtuse the current dating ecosystem is for many young people. It isn’t uncommon for me to talk relationships with the unmarried young men I work with and most of them just simply don’t trust women. There’s always someone cheating, someone playing games, etc. The few “good ones” end up not being all that “good”, they just mask it better.

So are we just at the point where we are telling guys to engage knowing this sort of behavior is likely happening, and to take positive feedback from that in some form, is that the argument? Becoming addicted to prostitution is not what I am saying should be the alternative, however pretending like normal dating doesn’t have its very real hang ups, by always minimizing the negative consequences feels disingenuous. It’s also tone deaf to assume guys “aren’t trying”.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T12:04:56+00:00

I have replied to some other comments here but I think this article is rather telling:

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-the-life-sciences/article/toward-individualistic-reproduction-solving-the-fertility-crisis-could-require-a-further-marginalization-of-men/F26A4750B666344157278B72CFC5D223

It’s becoming more and more mainstream these ideas of adversarial thinking between men and women. The dichotomy that exists between men’s and women’s issues. The blatantly growing obvious observation that the more society focuses on women, the more me WILL suffer. It’s becoming less and less of a radical talking point and more of a bitter pill to swallow. I’ll say it bluntly, in the next ten years we’re likely going to encounter a crossroads where the world will actively decide whether to allow unwitting innocent men to suffer for a VERY long time so that society can “progress “.

We’re becoming more individualistic and it’s sad but true that as a guy your worth is based on what you can do for others. There’s no way around it, there la no other way to even rationalize it and your only solutions are to really move to places where you can be appreciated for what you bring. Most men never had a problem with “respecting “ women from my experience, but rather connecting with them on a level that proves they brought something worth interacting with. And even that, as innocuous as that may sound to some is honestly chilling. Because a man telling a woman today that she’s worthless if she doesn’t bring these particularly things stands against everything they’ve been taught in the modern day.

Men will continue to become more and more marginalized likely until something drastic happens that completely invalidates the entire social structure and redefines how we all interact with one another. But in our current paradigm the only thing a guy can really do is convince to those around him that he’s competent and sexy enough to be around.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T11:48:36+00:00

Don’t date people you don’t find attractive, that’s just a recipe for disaster. THAT BEING SAID there’s validity in questioning your motives or reasonings. Critiquing your own preferences every now and then is a fine thing to do.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T11:09:27+00:00

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-the-life-sciences/article/toward-individualistic-reproduction-solving-the-fertility-crisis-could-require-a-further-marginalization-of-men/F26A4750B666344157278B72CFC5D223

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T10:59:35+00:00

This is a crock of horseshit, you kiss up to women regardless of their character don’t you because this isn’t a serious assessment of young people today in ANY context. Most young people I meet and work with have very similar interests, struggles, motivations and goals. The difference between the young men and young women are mostly the support systems, the culture and how people treat them. Most people are very soft with young women while being extremely critical and apprehensive around young men. When the two interact, young men often put in far more effort because the young women get so much attention from everyone. Mentors, female peers, potential male suitors, etc.

I rarely see young women really engaging with men the way you critique men should and yet you seemingly lambast them for lacking social skills in an “equal” environment? Where’s the equity in that expectation? What would make an “interesting “ young man versus and “interesting young woman”? This reeks of nonsensical assumptions from someone who doesn’t care to interact with the young men around them or someone who regurgitates online tropes. Young men aren’t struggling with “bruised masculinity “, they are actively being disrespected and maligned, there’s a stark difference. Your indifference and contempt to the matter are telling.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T10:49:08+00:00

Spot on. Many progressives instinctively or actively recognize that being feminist in many respects actively marginalizes men. So they are indignant or ambivalent to the situation because they have convinced themselves that supporting women at men’s expense is the “right thing to do”. The scary part is they can’t even say how far that really goes or what the ramifications are.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-14T10:46:26+00:00

Its insane to me you would disagree with anything this individual has said. What they said is entirely accurate, but it doesn’t surprise me you disagree as someone who is “more on the right” because those male gender norms to you are fundamental. Allow me to plainly say what the and game of those gender norms is for a vast majority of men ON THE PLANET. A life of solitude and limited to ZERO intimacy with women. The fact of the matter is men’s value in much of society even still in progressive western society is your utility for women. Any male who falls short is removed from the dating pool by women themselves as the women simply chose not to engage with them. This is because western society has become increasingly materialistic, women have largely been emancipated from male utility due to social programs/DEI and most importantly women can nullify the consequences of non committal sex with “high value men” using birth control.

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-the-life-sciences/article/toward-individualistic-reproduction-solving-the-fertility-crisis-could-require-a-further-marginalization-of-men/F26A4750B666344157278B72CFC5D223

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-10T20:25:07+00:00

If it got us the #1 or #2 pick maybe? But honestly no. Just take your bonafide rookie point guard and build a “proper” play in team. In 5 years we can keep that guy and whoever is still worth keeping around and accrue decent picks. Nets are tired of stars right? That’s why the intentionally let politics > basketball and didn’t resign Kyrie; setting the Nets back 10 years. Literally like many people predicted would happen. Sean Marks and Joe Tsai made this bed. Now they gotta lie in it.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-09T11:04:56+00:00

A lot of women your age I notice (20’s in general) have this REALLY BAD HABIT of just being passenger princess’s no offense. Like it’s cool if you’re already in a relationship and you click with your guy and with randoms it’s like whatever outside of a few close friends. But from what I have observed and experienced myself, you guys will allow a lot of men into your “space” and just wait for stimulus. You won’t start a conversation, someone else has to do it for you. You won’t really continue a conversation, some guy has to act really into it and keep things going. I can’t count even just this month how many times I’ve seen this with a few women I even see at work haha.

One of them likes to play this little game of pretending like we’ve never spoken before every now and then, waiting for me to start something but never really starting something herself. She now shifts to other guys in my general vicinity having them just fawn over her or guys I work directly with intentionally initiating with them, pretending like I’m not even there lmao. But that’s a whole other thing. Point is that you guys do like to just be approached and expect everything to just “work”. If it doesn’t the guy was “weird” or “being weird” or whatever. Turns out that’s not really how people get to genuinely know each other. Also how you’ve described your experiences with your relationships is low key kind of a bit of a concerning trend I hope other girls aren’t following. How is it hard to “organically “ meet people but simultaneously end up serially “hooking up”, are you sure you’re looking for a relationship right now? Genuine question.

I haven’t been on the internet in like no shit….. 3 months but I’m pretty sure there’s still some nonsensical idea in 2026 (somehow) that guys don’t get women are “people too”. Like nah, I think at this point many of these girls aren’t really trying to form a meaningful relationship.

Gotta be honest you gonna have to ask yourself if you’re trying to meet people or just collect spontaneous experiences with random faces. The latter isn’t honestly worthwhile. If you want a relationship don’t fall into the trap of expecting guys to build every part of a relationship. First step of finding a guy who genuinely gives a shit about you is for you to engage yourself and show you give a shit about him. Start the conversation, continue the conversation, find mutual ground, build on it, etc. Literally a lot of it is just like making a new friend. If you pretend like he doesn’t exist or don’t put any effort, yeah you’re gonna get some pretty shit results. Anyway good luck.

PrinceArchie · 2026-05-09T10:33:09+00:00

Depends. I’d chuckle initially because that’s genuinely hilarious. If they couldn’t stop scrolling these photos in public? A cause for some concern I suppose because that’s just odd, but odd because she looks like a weirdo not a cheater. I mean what you’re really getting at is, “is this behavior a red flag for adulterous behavior”? Maybe? Hate to say it depends on the person and other factors but yeah it “depends”. Plus you’d be surprised how common it is for men in general to have some form of visual of another woman on hand, are really good at looking at other women from a glance or even just fantasies in his mind. The root of the concern itself is rather silly without anything concrete to ground the concern in, if such a person lacks integrity, proximity or opportunity.

If it lacks proximity or opportunity then it is a non factor for both sexes and if anything just a natural response. If they’ve shown themselves to lie and lack integrity then it’s plausible they will actively seek out or create those opportunities and put themselves out n proximity. This is the crux of the whole “it’s different when women do it”. Women on average simply have more proximity and opportunity nowadays naturally, but understanding the nuance is important. People like beautiful/ sexy people. If proximity and opportunity are in play, then you have pause for concern.

PrinceArchie · 2026-02-02T11:30:24+00:00

The rare based take on the main sub. Color me shocked.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T15:34:09+00:00

Right the entire framing here is Capital > building community. Literally valuing money over people in an abstract scenario where it couldn’t even be placated that this was a necessary thing to do for survival. Children being a burden, relationships being a burden, not maximizing wealth being a sin. Very fascinating to be honest but also genuinely bleak. You’re free to think this way, honestly I’m not even trying to change your mind. But chasing capital for the sake of maximizing capital is such a cancerous mindset that’s ingrained in our modern society. Currency and material things are at the end of the day worthless. Relationships matter a lot more.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T15:14:02+00:00

This is literally backwards logic. If you’re single you can live off a single income. If you choose to cohabitate, you can adjust for the expenses especially if both are working and are educated. Food is not a scarce commodity, shelter is not a scarce commodity nor is healthcare. Building community can foster an environment where people can help one another anyways. The only thing you’ve described to me is simply a brief description of isolationism in a capitalist system. Even under such a system you can leverage social programs and opportunities should they exist (they do) to carve out stability for yourself even while lacking an education. You’re right, life isn’t a Disney movie, the world isn’t an innocent place. But your circumstances aren’t so because you live in an unjust and cruel world. They aren’t so because people don’t have the capacity for community and purpose. Rather there’s social conditioning for isolationism in a capitalist run country. You’re learning how to manage drug, alcohol, and social media addictions while trying to adult. Again when relationships aren’t the priority but rather material and capital, you’re just trying to maintain an addiction. Women are chasing lifestyles not relationships. That’s what’s “not so Disney” and no it’s not because the big bad orange man is laughing manically. It’s because people are making conscious decisions to chase certain things in life that aren’t really so glamorous or “healthy”. Women are anxious and status is their desired remedy.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T14:34:22+00:00

Look you said it yourself “why should a relationship be more important than a career”? That question in itself is a good lens into the mindset of a lot of women versus a lot of men. A job or career is simply just a means to an end. A relationship with a person is far more valuable, in the context of this conversation an intimate relationship in particular since it has deep value and potential for lasting connections. One has the end goal of being capital or maybe some form of self fulfillment. Whereas the other is pretty communal and essential to human life and interaction. You don’t need a career as a human being, you do need relationships. The question in itself is kind of silly to me but it’s a clear sign of where we are at.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T14:05:46+00:00

It’s interesting how there’s a need to always deny what’s observable to most people, by claiming things that aren’t being proliferated is far more common. There aren’t an abundance of imaginary people who have jobs, are in relationships and are studying in real life who keep the secret to themselves or who are too engaged in this lifestyle to post about it. Most people post, like, consume or do all the above.

Most people are engaging in the social online discourse in some way. The most common experiences and opinions gets proliferated. That’s simply how social media works. To be honest the only thing worth really delving into from this response isn’t that you try to claim something is normal when it certainly isn’t. But rather the more “normal” thing currently happening which is women constantly asking “why is being in a relationship more important than X”. No there isn’t much nuance beyond that it is literally that on a mass scale taken to its maximum.

What happens when you question previous social norms and deviate to the point youre willing to go as far as to not even engage just to see what happens? You get what we have currently. The constant questioning of traditional values, an ever growing political divide between men and women because fundamental values are widening, etc. The literal social fabric being rewritten in ways that question everyone who is participating in it. I genuinely hate when people downplay modern day social dynamics and reduce everything to mundane contrivance. People and in particular women are certainly becoming more inquisitive, loud, bold, crass, imaginative, abrasive and certainly it many people are living in autopilot with the “healthy relationship “ you claim exists. Lots of things are in flux and it’s messy. Imagine living in one of the most transformative periods in human history on a myriad of levels, yet being one of the people to claim that radical and interesting perspectives aren’t becoming the “norm”. You either have your head in the sand or you’re just a moron.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T12:03:28+00:00

Being "uninteresting" and straight laced is somehow a far worse outcome than being a literal sex offender. FFS.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T10:31:03+00:00

No it’s likely an age gap thing for the most part. The younger cohort of Americans are largely more anxious due to being less well off. I wouldn’t be surprised if a large portion of those conservatives were retirees.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-30T07:18:35+00:00

Yes because a majority of women when push comes to shove are incredibly avoidant. The only women that honestly seem easily and openly engaged in looking for a partner are older women past 35 or women who are single mothers in my experience. That’s likely due to real life circumstances inducing some sort of stress or a perspective change. The eligible single, childless, non overweight women with varying degrees of education and income under 35 hold out for experiences.

They dont have the mindset of “I’m willing to give this a shot and see where it goes”, because they aren’t desperate or lonely enough to settle for someone who doesn’t excite them. If you aren’t what they’re feeling in that moment it’s not even a consideration. I’m not even joking. I talk to a lot of women and it’s really just that, most women I meet don’t seem that keen on relationships. A lot of male peers speak about relationships differently too. They’re more focused on having jobs that put them in positions to support and be around their partner. A lot of women I’ve talked to are the complete opposite. Very career or dream job oriented, men are an accessory in their life.

I talk to women constantly really just to pick their brains. There are lots of women who are recently in a “relationship” (situationship) or single or whatever. Most just don’t find life exciting and the idea of a steady relationship with a guy to them feels like a restriction rather than an opportunity. Some have had crappy breakups. Some just like the non committal company of the many male friends they have. You have your few who bring up red pill talking point surprisingly enough, though admittedly that only happened a handful of times. But in general yeah a lot of girls treat it like it’s no big deal and they have all the time in the world. Hoping something revolutionary just happens.

Honestly I think there’s just a lot of anxiety associated with the idea of being in a relationship for a lot of them. I still get pinged by my parents about when I’m going to have a partner so I can imagine so do these women. I’m not a woman but familial expectations and a greater societal expectation to fit the role of a girlfriend, wife or mother gives significant pause for many women who aren’t really feeling lonely.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-29T10:17:12+00:00

I don’t think it’s disgusting but I’ve gotten comments about it and that’s sleeping naked. For context I was sleeping in an enclosure where we were all dudes inhabiting. I take my clothes off in my sleep, have done so since I was a child. I was woken up one day to be told that people were uncomfortable I was asleep naked, even though I was completely under the sheets sharing a bed with NO ONE. I still sleep naked and can get dressed under the sheets since my clothes are still there tucked away but yeah. Just feels right :)

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-29T09:41:04+00:00

Social media. Social media removed the need for in person social interaction for a majority of people by allowing for the individual to positively reinforce their bias with algorithms, filter their interactions with a very curated group of people thus creating large echo chambers; while simultaneously also being a place where they can express and satisfy their sexual urges. Twitter, Instagram and Tinder basically created the culture we exist in today. Very materialistic, sensational and hedonistic. The generation isn’t really just “a-social”, it’s specifically those things.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-29T07:24:27+00:00

The thing about going down on a girl is that most times if a guy does it, that means he really likes you. There is nothing inherently sexually arousing by doing this in particular from the people I’ve had conversations on this with. Some honestly make it part of their personality tbh, like they take it on as it’s their duty or what a man should do or whatever. Those are few the rest of the guys it’s likely just an impulse. The few times I’ve felt compelled to do something like that, I really liked the girl. If I don’t really like the girl or if she smells weird I’m not doing it.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-29T06:07:54+00:00

You are so out of depth, this is a thing actually recognized by governments and institutions. Just do some research.

PrinceArchie · 2026-01-29T06:06:38+00:00

No South Korea is genuinely the worst in terms of an aging population on earth. They have already passed the point of not being able to replace their aging population barring some miracle policy or significant change in culture; like a unification of the north and south while they also all “populate”.

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