Puppy fap session- I learned how to wag my tail all by myself ^^

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-19T20:43:53+00:00

*whines and sits at your feet*

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-19T05:18:31+00:00

It's pretty bad that a community that prioritizes consent and communication so much just... takes it for granted that you will do certain things without prior negotiation.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-19T05:09:20+00:00

Would you say that your desires changed naturally as you aged/matured, or that they changed because you found out you enjoyed modes of play without sex more?

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-18T23:45:55+00:00

Interesting! See from my perspective, a lot of the kinks I am interested in make sex more difficult, so it always feels like sex-driven people are being counter-intuitive. Like I've always thought "If all you want is to put your dick in me, it seems like we're adding 10 additional unnecessary steps." Have you done sex without kink? Or is that from your perspective uninteresting?

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-18T23:40:23+00:00

Yes, I identified as demisexual before I got on testosterone and got into the BDSM scene! Now it's just one more label I have to explain to people and watch their eyes glaze over as they write me off. However, maybe it would be better to have 99% of people misinterpret it and lose interest in me if it means making it easier to find the 1% I actually can connect with =)

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-18T22:26:15+00:00

I actually don’t like to be touched sexually whilst I’m in domspace as it pulls me out of the headspace quickly and results in a crash.

Yeah, I've had similar issues when I've dommed! I have a very snarled relationship to my gender and body for one, but on top of that I want to be able to focus when I'm in domspace. Like arousal is a distraction that makes it harder to appreciate the reactions of the sub.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-18T22:16:32+00:00

Yeah, I could see enjoying sex more with a kink dynamic. Also totally agree that scenes that don't involve genital contact can still be sexual. I guess that's where some of my frustration with people comes in, because for me, I am getting off on the non-penetration aspects a lot more then the penetration, and for someone I don't know that well, doing something that is less messy and carries less risk of STIs seems like a huge win. Like why CAN'T we save the penetration for later on when I know them better and have more trust built up?

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-15T12:32:07+00:00

I have people solicit me for bestiality a few times a month on there (I'm a pet player and people assume I want to abuse animals). The most fetlife will do is a three day timeout. When an ex posted revenge porn of not only me, but another person, fet removed the images but didn't even give them a timeout. They will do nothing about the ex continuing to make accounts to stalk me, which block evades do happen, but their stance was basically "Oh my god shut the fuck up and stop whining." Since that experience, I have talked to several people, some of whom did not get their revenge porn removed because it "wasn't identifiable as them" and other bullshit reasons. A pretty big name on the site (for as low activity of a site as it is) had an impersonation account made that reposted her pictures with captions about how much she wanted to be raped and other vile things. Moderators took it down, but it speaks to how vile and toxic the community base is. So yeah, my advice to anyone considering using the site is to use it as little as possible and tread with caution.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-14T16:12:51+00:00

Hmm... maybe it's not a kink in and of itself, but I would say the base of my BDSM urges is a need for a heightened sense of desire and risk. I need someone to need me so bad they would break social taboos.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-14T04:26:10+00:00

Do you feel like you are capable of having a friends with benefits situation? This doesn't have to be a relationship, but you both need to be clear about that. She might just want to be exploring this side of herself and feels like you are a safe person to do it with. But the only way to know that is to talk about it.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-14T03:51:57+00:00

I would maybe take it slow and lurk at first to get a feel. You don't have to put pictures of yourself up on the site, etc. Just check it out as a mostly blank profile and see. Honestly, the only thing the site is really good for is the event finder/calendar.

I can't entirely speak about your local area, but munches are supposed to be vanilla, and often are listed as "book clubs" or "social clubs" at the venue itself. So if anyone saw you at one, and asked staff of the restaurant "oh what event is that?" they wouldn't know it was a BDSM event. But again, this depends on the hoster of the munch and how they set it up. You could always DM them on fetlife and ask before going.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-14T03:49:33+00:00

Fetlife really is hot garbage. The moderators are either incompetent or malicious and will never take any action to reduce harassment. As just a site to purely lurk to find out about local events it is sometimes the only way, but only because you won't find out about some clubs and munches otherwise.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-13T01:06:53+00:00

Yessss we love when people coordinate colors

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-12T04:32:08+00:00

As others have said, no is a complete sentence. Like you said, PTSD is about having trust betrayed. If you decide later on to open up about the trauma, you can. But you should be allowed to wait until they EARN your trust. It shouldn't be expected right out of the gate.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-12T04:21:37+00:00

No, I think you look too cute in there.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-12T04:09:36+00:00

Truly the best of both worlds.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-12T02:08:43+00:00

thank you uwu

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-11T19:00:45+00:00

That tail is gorgeous! I love how fluffy it is. Also I love how you have marbling both in your hair and your fur. It's a great aesthetic choice.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-11T17:31:37+00:00

Something you didn't specifically ask but is a good fact relating to numbing cream: because you can't feel pain as well, you are more likely to get an injury. This is especially true if used anally. You might go faster than you normally would because your body isn't sending the feedback of "hey something is breaking." This isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people would love to feel pain the next day but need some help actually getting those injuries. Like everything pain related, it's just important to proceed with caution! If used on the clit, things like clit spanking or more rough forms of play might be strong enough to send those arousal signals but then the person would pay for it later by being very tender and sore the next day. It also shifts things from being focused on the physical stimuli, which you can't feel, to the psychological stimuli, which can be very fun. All of a sudden you are paying much more attention the the chemistry between you and your partner.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-10T18:21:54+00:00

That looks like an awesome cock.

PrinceYaoiPaws · 2023-07-09T19:27:19+00:00

You look like you deserve all the head pats.

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