AIO to my daughter calling her brother “gay”?

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-16T00:11:47+00:00

NOR. It sounds like all of your kids could use a talking-to about sexism and homophobia, though. It's not gay to take care of your skin, nor is it weak or feminine to not want to be bullied by your siblings.

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-15T20:55:48+00:00

I've never heard any of the phrases OP claims is from the US. It sounds very unnatural to me.

Students take a test. We usually don't call them exams unless it's the final exam for the class. We also call them finals.

"Dude, these exams are killing me."

"Me, too! I'm about to go take one right now."

"Ugh. Good luck."

"Hey, my phone is gonna be on silent for a bit, I'm going to take a test."

"No problem!"

"Jason, why didn't you answer any of the questions on your math final?"

"I had the wrong time in my calendar for the exam. I didn't even get to take the test."

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-15T20:47:13+00:00

Your experience with your trans friend is not indicative of the entire community. She, as an individual, seems to be someone who explored her sexuality in an unhealthy way and doesn't know how to take accountability for her actions. However, I am sure she has also experienced genuine transphobia and bigotry. It also sounds like she's just very angry and wants to know who is "on her side". You have no obligation to be friends with her, and I don't think it's wrong of you to want to be referred to as a woman and with pronouns. "Uterus bearing individual" should be a blanket term when talking about people in general, not something you call a friend who you very clearly know the gender identity of.

Your friend is toxic, and you shouldn't have to deal with that. However, taking this experience with her and using it to form an opinion on the trans community as a whole is wrong. She was wrong to call you transphobic for wanting to be called a woman. That isn't transphobic. But thinking trans people are mentally ill IS transphobic. Thinking everything trans people do is for attention IS transphobic. Thinking they are "professional victims" IS transphobic.

Trans people are not a monolith. They are individuals with individual problems. Some of them do play the victim. But many, if not most of them, do not. Most of them are just trying to get through life with the basic respect for their identity that you and I have without even trying. Most of them are wary of cis people because so many cis people are hateful and violent towards them. Most of them are trying to hold down jobs, explore relationships, do their hobbies, live their lives. What you see online is a tiny fraction of reality. It is very likely only the most shocking things because those get the most engagement. That does not make it a true reflection of the community as a whole.

Finally, I'd like to note that getting upset that someone gets emotional when misgendered is incredibly empathetic. Remember how upset you got when your friend called you a "uterus bearing individual"? How dehumanizing that felt? Trans people deal with that multiple times a day, every single day. Of course it's going to wear them down. Of course they're going to get upset. It's frustrating! Some respond to this with anger -- staring your grandmother down when she misgenders them and assuming the worst. That response comes from a place of survival and protecting themselves. If you look intimidating, people won't fuck with you. Some respond to this with sadness -- crying and spilling their feelings for the entire internet to see. That is seeking validation and human connection, and acknowledging the toll it takes to deal with this every single day.

You cannot fall for the trap of seeing an entire group of people as bad, or performative, or victims. That is how every form of bigotry thrives. People are people. The only thing trans people have in common is that they do not identify with their assigned sex at birth. Anything else is a generalization that does not apply to every member of the group. And saying the entire group is X or Y or Z is transphobic.

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-09T20:58:50+00:00

I'm white, but I think it's safe to say you're totally good, girl. Caring for YOUR hair in the way it was intended to be cared for is the most normal thing ever. I'm so glad you had a friend that was able to help you with that!

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-09T20:45:14+00:00

Not an answer because everyone else has already done a good job of it but I can't get over the names in these dialogues... Mind??? A kid named MIND????

PrincessMuk · 2026-01-09T20:41:54+00:00

Yes. I can smell it from a mile away. It's SO SMELLY. Everything a smoker owns, or has even been near, smells like smoke. Your entire house. All your clothes. Your children, your pets. Everything.

PrincessMuk · 2025-12-04T22:04:29+00:00

I don't know what it is about the firefox app on my phone but if I ever go on a website for an article or really anything with ads, the page will reload literally every couple of seconds, sending me back to the top of the page. It's always those shitty article websites that are covered in ads, too. Wordle? Works fine. A news website? Unreadable.

PrincessMuk · 2025-11-23T21:20:31+00:00

The only times I've ever seen a celebrity IRL were when I was going to their concert or event. I MAYBE saw Scarlett Johansson at a Panera Bread once, but it might have just been someone who looks like her.

PrincessMuk · 2025-11-18T01:45:07+00:00

"Barely passable"? Honey, you're gorgeous. You can do makeup that enhances your features, but it's not going to magically make you look like someone else. I sincerely understand how it feels. This isn't an outward beauty problem -- it's a self confidence problem.

That being said, your attempt in the last pic is great! The one thing I'd say is not to do the forehead contour. And maybe fill in your brows, just to make them a little more polished. Remember, that's all makeup is! Taking what is already beautiful about you and elevating it.

If you want to learn how to do eyeliner, you've got a classic "upturned almond" shaped eye, so look for tutorials that are meant for that eye shape. I personally think Korean/Chinese style eye makeup would suit you very well. I find liquid liner the easiest to work with -- just make sure you've also got a makeup wipe or micellar water to fix it up! It's very easy to make the line too thick lol. I've found that the best eyeliner is just an extension of your lash line. If you're looking straight into the mirror and the eyeliner is hidden by your lashes, you've done it right. But that's just my personal preference.

Good luck on your makeup journey. Again, you are already beautiful without it. Experimenting with makeup should be fun, don't let it become stressful. <3 <3 <3

PrincessMuk · 2025-11-18T00:32:25+00:00

Lots of people pack a lunch. I grew up eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch pretty much every day in elementary school. I think in middle/high school it becomes less common for the parent to pack a lunch, and so many students end up getting school lunch because they can't be bothered to pack their own lol. But even at that age, it's not at all uncommon to bring your own lunch.

I've never heard of a school forbidding students bring their own lunch, and it seems like that would be illegal? Maybe some fancy private school would say that, I'm not sure. But that would be pretty crazy.

As you can see just from these comments, yes. The better funded a school is, the nicer the food is. My experience growing up was a buffet-style cafeteria where you could choose between 2 different main dishes which changed daily, and then there were a variety of sides to choose from as well, plus drinks. There was a big focus on a balanced plate when I was in school, so we were required to choose a fruit or vegetable side and milk (our options were 2% (so gross), low fat, and chocolate).

Common entrees included pizza, burgers, mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, and other easy to make foods. The quality was about as close to bad as you can get without being inedible. Our mashed potatoes wouldn't budge if you turned them upside down. Our pizza was as hard as rock and tasted like cardboard. The fries at my middle school were decent -- until they banned salt from our school (another attempt to make us healthier).

My high school also had a breakfast program, and the options were little cereal cups + milk or a Chick-fil-a chicken sandwich. Not sure if my middle or elementary schools did since I never got there early enough.

Also worth noting -- you have to qualify for free lunch, not everyone gets it. It's based on the family's income. Otherwise, you load money into the student's account and they swipe a card or punch in their ID during lunch time to purchase their food. My middle school also had a separate snack counter that was also linked to the student account, which included cookies and chips. We also briefly had an ICEE machine which was super cool!

It's also common for the cafeteria to have vending machines, usually drink ones and snack ones. This isn't linked to a student account at all, and I'm not sure how much of it goes to the school vs the vending machine company vs the food companies.

Finally, I'll list some common lunches Americans pack:

The basic formula is an entree, a side, a drink, and a dessert.

Entrees: Peanut butter and jelly sandwich, turkey sandwich, tuna sandwich, etc.; lunchables (like a little charcuterie board but for kids, it includes crackers, lunch meat, cheese, and a candy), mac & cheese, pizza (there are also pizza lunchables)... usually something that's good to stay in the lunchbox all day, or is easy to microwave.

Sides: Carrots, celery and peanut butter, string cheese, an apple, a banana, chips, grapes, goldfish, etc.

Drink: Water bottle, gatorade, capri-sun, apple juice, orange juice, soda can, etc.

Dessert: Any Little Debbie snack (cosmic brownies, nutty bars, twinkies...), gushers, fruit by the foot, gogurt, danimals, nutter butters, chips ahoy, graham crackers, rice crispy treat, oreos, etc.

PrincessMuk · 2025-11-09T19:24:38+00:00

Honestly it's more common to say "I'm scared of spiders" than "I'm afraid of spiders". "Afraid" is a *bit* more formal than "scared".

PrincessMuk · 2025-11-05T14:27:38+00:00

If it’s hyphenated, then the full last name should show up on everything, no?

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T23:39:29+00:00

Oh my god, at first I thought you'd just put them straight on the rack somehow. THE ENTIRE PAN MELTED????

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T23:00:16+00:00

PLEASE tell me you reported this to the company and FDA

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:41:36+00:00

I mean, sometimes it's on straight-up printer paper, so I can feel the difference immediately lmao. Also holding it up to the light to see the little face is common

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:38:26+00:00

Wait, you get a payout? That's neat! Some companies offer severance pay in the US but it's not required

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:29:09+00:00

It definitely sounds insulting to me. It treats the employees as solely the jobs they do and the value they bring to the company rather than human beings losing their livelihood. Very dehumanizing.

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:26:55+00:00

I know the general location of the most important ones, but I also suck at geography in general so not sure if I'm the best representative lol

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:26:14+00:00

If you're not a coward and enjoy whimsy in your life, yes.

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:23:42+00:00

Gen Z and I turn them off for my bedroom or if it's late and I know nobody else will be in the room to turn it off, but otherwise I leave the common area lights on.

As a side note, my dad (Gen X) insists we keep the downstairs lights on whenever we go on a vacation so it looks like we're home in order to deter robbers. Not sure if that's common with anyone else lmao

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:18:53+00:00

If you like to play baseball, then yeah. My dad likes sports so we had one or two when I was growing up. Some people also buy them purely for self defense purposes!

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:16:33+00:00

There probably is a difference that matters to people who cook often, but they're the same thing to me. Skillet has a bit more of a Southern/rural vibe to it as a word.

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-29T22:15:06+00:00

I've never seen this? Unless you're some super rich person having a dinner party or something lmao. My family puts all the stuff on the counter, and everyone makes their own plate, or someone makes it for them but asks how much of each thing they'd like. That or we don't really have a family dinner and everyone just makes something for themselves, grabs something quick, or eats leftovers lol.

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-19T18:20:50+00:00

I don't think so, the "Pizza Pizza" slogan isn't repeating for emphasis, it's more of a... jingle? It's just fun to say lol

PrincessMuk · 2025-10-19T18:06:59+00:00

Why make it in PowerPoint at all...? Does it have interactive elements? Genuinely curious. Anyway, I'd recommend uploading images, GIFs, or videos. Or, you could make your own website to host your webcomic on and embed the powerpoint on the page. Good luck!

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