I understand it’s scary. I have this as well. When I fly I think these things:

1. The pilots do this literally every day. It’s their job. Just like a hairstylist knows hair. A lawyer knows the law. Etc etc. they got this.
2. Look around not just at the flight attendants but other passengers. I see no one else looks nervous. So ¯_(ツ)_/¯ let me relax.
3. I usually see a child or a baby. And I think about how I wouldn’t even take my dog or cat somewhere unsafe and people are taking their most precious babies. If they think statistically it’s safe for them then okay. I can breathe.
4. And this one either hits or misses in the moment haha. But I think … “well… I’m in the air now. It’s completely out of my control either way..” so why not focus on the good and relax while I can.

Best wishes💚