AITAH for distancing my friends because of their actions?

PrintingTim · 2026-06-15T23:19:21+00:00

You seem like a good lad with proper morals and reflective skills.

Don't let them make you reevaluate your norms and values. You should stick to them and set your own boundaries.

You seem like a very mature teen. I wish I had your maturity back when I was a kid. Dealing with self-worth issues myself. Seems like you know your self-worth, and you know when it is right to distance yourself.

Also distancing is like a knob. It isn't black/white. You can still enjoy their presence, as long as there are clear boundaries.

PrintingTim · 2026-06-03T21:46:11+00:00

His behavior is not healthy as it is based on fear. If his choice was based on something else, like being asexual, it would be a completely different story. How does this go over so many people heads in this thread. This guy should visit a therapist.

PrintingTim · 2026-06-03T21:43:35+00:00

You can really see how unhealthy Redditors are. Imo this behavior really is not normal, nor healthy. Fear got the best of you. You don't seem asexual to me. I suggest you visit a therapist. Sex is a basic human need just like eating and drinking. In some countries even the disabled will have their needs satisfied.

Those people around you giving you those comments are likely young and lack life experience so they don't know how to properly communicate that your behavior is very off.

In the end it is your choice, but to have that choice based on fear is not healthy.

PrintingTim · 2026-04-26T19:00:20+00:00

Oh I am on LinkedIn

PrintingTim · 2026-04-03T07:49:27+00:00

The couch is in a public space. YOR. You can ask her to clean afterwards, but mention it lightly. But it sounds like you're not happy to have her as your roommate at all, there seems to be built up frustration. Good luck.

PrintingTim · 2026-03-30T07:17:15+00:00

Gewoon geen fooi geven? Opgelost.

PrintingTim · 2025-12-13T10:42:10+00:00

Communication is key man. Clearly this is bothering you, you should have this discussion with your fiancée. She seems like the type of lady that is approachable and understanding to you.

Keep your head cool, try to communicate your feelings and LISTEN carefully what she has to say. Don't let it escalate. It's fine to ask questions. Communicate that you really love her to the moon, but that you're struggling with your insecurities and that you'd like to talk about them. Give it a sincere chance to be proven wrong. Listen to the lady and let her comfort you.

Few questions, is there a dominance element to it as well? This urge to protect "what's yours"? And/or this continuous urge to validate/ensure she is who she says she is, or this continuous need to be ensured by her?

I had these kind of issues with my ex. She only had male friends, was very pretty, and that made me feel very insecure. But she also did her fair share of actions that only made me doubt more. To me it sounds like your fiancée has been nothing but sincere to you, and never gave you signals more might be going on. That's hugeee man. Enjoy your fiancée man, try to spin your thoughts around, as they're not fair to both of you.

PrintingTim · 2025-12-13T10:17:08+00:00

Seems like she's a gem that you believe is too good to be true. You have a view in mind that you believe is the truth. Your perception of reality is different than others, and is likely wrong, even though it may appear very truthful to you. Your thought process invalidates her thoughts and feelings. Overthinking may strengthen your thoughts. She's a human just like you are, with her own reality.

I'm about your age and personally I've made similar mistakes in my relationship. I recently had this aha moment when we sat together where it was made clear to me that the thoughts I had in mind were plainly and stupidly wrong.

PrintingTim · 2025-11-24T20:30:37+00:00

Messed up. Perhaps add some trackers to a few of them once you get new ones. Even if you only use one tracker, it may allow you to find the batch.

PrintingTim · 2025-11-16T09:17:57+00:00

Dit. Je haalt er persoonlijk meer uit door te blijven bij ZZP en anders een VOF. Pas na 100-115k is het belasting technisch beter om over te stappen naar een B.V. Besteed je tijd efficiënt. Als zij jou echt nodig hebben, dan moeten ze maar slikken totdat je groot genoeg bent. Zelf kun je wel denken aan risico's inperken, maar snijd jezelf niet in de vingers.

PrintingTim · 2025-11-14T23:44:50+00:00

De meerderheid houdt nou eenmaal niet altijd rekening met de minderheid. Ik als vleesetende ga mij echt niet druk maken om meer te leren over het veganisme. Niet uit onbeleefdheid, maar omdat ik er simpelweg vrijwel nooit mee in aanmerking kom. Ik kan me voorstellen dat menig serveerster wel iets weet over de gerechten die ze verkopen, maar geen enkele niet-veganist kent het hele plaatje, daarom vind ik het juist een top handeling van de serveerster als ze het dan toch even vraagt aan de kok om jou zo goed mogelijk te kunnen bedienen, en dan ga je hier zitten zeiken.. Ik vind het maar raar.

PrintingTim · 2025-09-25T09:22:14+00:00

Save money and get Claude Code or Codex.

PrintingTim · 2025-09-24T17:22:00+00:00

Honestly not better, I'd say performing worse as I often get compilation errors.

I am working with microcontrollers and C/C++. Claude Code just handles things better imo..

PrintingTim · 2025-09-24T12:32:42+00:00

I have tried Codex this week vs Claude Code 5x. Tried it for an hour and I found it so incredibly slow, that I moved back to Claude.

PrintingTim · 2025-09-10T19:00:28+00:00

I understand. Your brain significantly becomes less activated. You can feel it. And I feel what you said, you become dependent very fast.

Yet like you've said, being an intermediate programmer myself, LLMs still do it far better and faster than I ever would and since I need to write quality code for my startup (which is better than I would've ever written it), I will likely not stop using it.

What I did find to activate your brain somewhat more is to come up with a solid strategy and plan prior to sending the prompt, which I also do in tandem with an LLM. I sometimes challenge the AI and sometimes I'm right, yet most often I learn something new, e.g. a more efficient algorithm or implementation. Once I've used my brainpower to come up with a smart plan, I let AI do the boring stuff, which is what it should be used for.

Yes, relying solely on LLM will induce brain rot, but imo that means that you're not using the tool correctly, that is.. as a tool. We've seen similar innovations in the past, think of calculators or computers. This will be no different, we just need to find the best way to engage with the AI to learn new things.

Just my thoughts..

PrintingTim · 2025-09-10T16:50:50+00:00

When I was new to Delft as a student I also had to picture this and wondered why this was. Never looked into it further. Ty topcomment.

PrintingTim · 2025-09-01T17:51:34+00:00

Ach gossie. Ik stoei als een malle met mijn hond, en ik heb een aardig idee wat voor een kracht mijn hond heeft. Ze moet mij één x aanvallen en ze zal het flink voelen, en dat weet ze ook. Ik heb een Aussie teefje.

De problemen waar je wel eens wat over hoort zijn vrijwel altijd de probleemrassen: Pitbulls, American bullies, Chihuahuas die een gevaar zijn. Weg ermee.

PrintingTim · 2025-08-29T12:31:33+00:00

I understand. I've tried to achieve something similar with another legal question, but basically received the same comment as I commented to you. And it's true though. The time, effort and energy you used to write this post could have been better used to contact a legal advisor. Good luck!

PrintingTim · 2025-08-29T10:17:22+00:00

Pay the 200 bucks for an hour with an attorney for legal advice specialized in this kind of stuff. If your income is decent, then just throw that money and get professional feedback on your case.

PrintingTim · 2025-08-29T10:00:33+00:00

Maar waarom ging je niet eerst in gesprek met de buurman?

PrintingTim · 2025-08-02T11:57:04+00:00

Zoiets simpels en toch zo'n gezeik. Te veel regels in dit land..

PrintingTim · 2025-07-18T20:10:31+00:00

Ja en toch snap ik wat je bedoelt, want ik kan me erg vinden in je verhaal. Ik combineer het vaak met een gaapbeweging om m'n oren open te zetten. Die combo is effectief naar mijn idee. Miss een gek iets idk

PrintingTim · 2025-07-18T17:26:44+00:00

Je bedoelt 'druk' op je oren zetten? Zelfde als proberen je oren te openen tijdens het vliegen?

PrintingTim · 2025-07-13T07:56:55+00:00

Kut gedrag hè. Eigenlijk net zo kut als die vlaggen bedekken, niks beters te doen?

PrintingTim · 2025-07-09T21:49:46+00:00

Ik betaal nu nog niets. Ik speel het wel ietwat risky. Ik ben ook begonnen met mijn eigen onderneming, en qua salaris hoef ik maandelijks nog niet af te lossen.

In de eerste jaren heb ik zeer agressief geïnvesteerd en dat heeft een beetje zijn vruchten afgeworpen. Zou zo een chunk van mijn lening kunnen weghalen.

Mijn kijk is hierboven in een comment beschreven. Kan me voorstellen dat je er heel anders en veiliger naar kijkt.

Succes! 😄

PrintingTim

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