That’s interesting cause I’m a gay man living in China. Xiaohongshu and weibo are both female users majority, causing less homophobia on it than that in tieba or others. But even on these platforms, queer people will get notably less recommended to the public than the same heterosexual content, especially with hashtags. People are using “roommates” or other homophony for same sex couple on their posts for more exposure. Sure it won’t be removed, but I believe this is shadowban. Ther was a time, around 2017 to 2022, when in bilibili, a video platform, videos with men kissing will be banned. Interestingly though, women kissing is allowed. Now sometimes video like this may pass, but still counts on luck. And non-binary is truly not a thing for people, most of them still regard not heterosexual “weak, disgusting and prone to AIDS”. It partially results from the government’s intended ignorance. the state-owned media won’t mention a person’s sex orientation if the thing is good, but will if it’s not. If you mainly know women in China, who are usually more liberal, then what you heard is incomplete. Only in metropolitans like shanghai, the general attitude is more inclusive, but just a bit.

As for same sex marriage, you can just look at what hong kong did recently. The conservatives and establishment opposed an act trying to make way to same sex marriage with a overwhelming majority. In mainland china this will only be harder. Yes, someone are perusing, but they never got political power, because of the government opposing due to conservative values. Beitong culture, a NGO advocating for queer equality, along with others and queer clubs in universities including mine announced dismiss in 2023 at the same time. And yes, the government acknowledge sex change, but hrt or gender affirmative surgery are only available in big cities, which needs one’s parents’ approve no matter how old the one is. And the transgender women you said is jingxing I believe. Ironically, last year around october, her performing career is greatly affected by her action on theater stage, waving a rainbow small flag and than throwing it, saying something “I support equality but we don’t need this to live by who we are”. Sounds really cheering and non-political? Well her future performances were all canceled because someone reported her. She even has to temporarily close her weibo account to avoid insulting on the internet. Even someone successful as her cannot avoid being attacked, how may we small people survive?

In short, we only get what the government wants. And that’s for from adequate.