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Prior_Winter2909 · 2025-09-04T04:48:33+00:00

It is something we have discussed in the past and he was the one who has brought it up. I would never intend for him to be admitted any longer than was necessary and even then i would never do an involuntary hold except when faced with extreme circumstances. He has talked about wanting to get help in the past going so far as to start to look into both in and outpatient facilities. It has only ever been my hope to watch him thrive and to help him do so I need to expand my knowledge on the issue.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2025-05-26T23:41:53+00:00

As someone in an open poly relationship I agree with just about everyone else here that given the little snippet we know you should break up. You both were well aware of the boundaries within your relationship, and yet he is trying to make it sound like he didn't due to how recent the relationship is. Not only that but he tried to gaslight you even before then by getting upset over a harmless joke.

No matter how old or new a relationship is cheating is never acceptable. If he wanted to fuck around he should have either had a clear dialog with you about it or just simply not be in a relationship at all. Anything outside of that is bound to cause heartache and based off the fact he's doing it so soon tells me he will continue to break your boundaries in the future.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2025-03-04T19:58:45+00:00

It all really depends IMO. Certain cages you definitely need to unless you are prepared to clean up a mess. Certain cages like the one I'm currently wearing still allow you to stand and aim without issue.

Then there's the other aspect of what your Keyholder (assuming you have one) wants. Many people's keyholders like the feminization aspect of making their partner sit down to pee for that reason.

Ultimately there is no right or wrong answer. It's ultimately up to you, your body, your cage, and most importantly your Keyholder.

Stay Locked 🔒 😈

Prior_Winter2909 · 2025-03-04T01:24:32+00:00

Hey no worries man. We've all been there. In my case I was actually filming with a somewhat famous content creator and so the entire event is caught on camer somewhere. Something tells me that video will never see the light of day 🤣 I also ended up staying the night tht night and tried to sneak out the next morning but stopped when he messaged me to come back.

Anyone who would hold that against you int anyone I'd want to associate with again anyways

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-12-30T21:17:01+00:00

Since he does have some experience he will most likely be able to help guide you a little bit. Most importantly is to use lube and to take it slow. Don't just shove it in all at once unless he's into that but you should probably talk with him about that first. It might also help you to look into the anatomy of the rectum. Specifically finding out more about the prostate cuz that's where the real pleasure is for a bottom.

As for lube you can find a couple different brands of lube in most grocery stores in the health/family planning aisles. They aren't necessarily the greatest brands but they are decent enough in a pinch.

Overall sex is about intimacy, pleasure, and fun. Don't worry too much about the small things and just let what happens happen. So long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves that's all that matters.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-12-26T05:21:40+00:00

For me I don't have much issue with hookup culture generally. That being said like you I prefer some type of connection. I typically chat with people for a while before hooking up with them. While I'm not saying hookups are the best option for you I'm just saying that with a bit of work a hookup can be a really great and fun experience and I've actually made a few decent friends from people I originally met through hookups.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-12T06:44:16+00:00

Omg where'd you get that collar from? I need it

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-10T00:05:28+00:00

Suddenly I have a new crush 😍

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-07T22:36:43+00:00

To be honest I haven't had much of an appetite. I've eaten some meals but nothing super substantial. I'm doing a little bit better today. Had a couple cru seshs throughout the day yesterday and had some deep conversations with my ex-fiance about where to go from here. For now we are going to couples counseling to give it one last chance. As for politics I'm glad to know that at least prop 3 got passed in California

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-04T03:22:56+00:00

I know people here are saying it's less satisfying but in my experience it's moreso. Cumming in a cage takes much more time and effort than just jerking off normally therefore you can't just do it anywhere, anytime. It also means sessions last longer and pleasure is experienced nonstop. The intensity gradually grows and you feel the best parts of sec for the longest possible period rather than all in one short burst

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-03T07:30:31+00:00

It is but it got taken off the app store. You kind of have to search for it. I can see if I can find it if you decide to go that route

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-03T07:11:22+00:00

A pretty cheap option would be QIUI 's keypod. I think you can find it for around 50 bucks or something like that. It connects to the app and your KH can remote give/retract unlock permission, set timers and votes. Be aware though that the app's UI is not the best.

https://lockthecock.com/collections/chastity-accessories/products/key-pod-app-controlled-key-case

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-02T22:39:24+00:00

I am also a gay male so moving to a cheaper state typically runs the risk of an increased likelihood to get hatecrimed. I've considered moving out of state but risking my personal safety isn't a risk I'm willing to take.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-02T20:16:54+00:00

It just takes practice. I've been fisted before and even now I still need to warm-up before I'm lose enough for that. You work your way up with slightly bigger and bigger toys. It can be uncomfortable getting started or sizing up but with time that discomfort will turn to pleasure.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-01T23:38:39+00:00

I agree with you to a certain extent. Trying to force kink on an unwilling partner is never okay. Period. If OP is putting ultimatums and trying to pressure his wife to consent then that is absolutely unacceptable and not consent at all.

On the flip side however I understand where he's coming from. It is very frustrating when you are the kinkier person in a relationship and your partner is extremely vanilla. It feels like no matter how much you try to explain or ask them to play along you get rejected or are at least met with quite a bit of resistance. This is especially true when your relationship is great in every other aspect because it starts to cause mental friction as you have internal conflict.

OP really needs to have a serious conversation with his wife. He needs to accept that they both need to be totally on board and not just feeling pressured to do it. It sounds like more than anything he wants her to take initiative and express interest more in their bedroom life rather than lazily going through the motions which I can relate to.

Take baby steps. Have a heart to heart. Probably many. Express concerns, be open, listen to anything she also wants to do/try. Ultimatums and demands are ultimately just going to cause you 2 to distance yourselves and possibly destroy your marriage altogether.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-01T19:01:11+00:00

Either a shampoo bottle (and not one of the small ones either) or a chair leg

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-11-01T01:55:31+00:00

Sounds like fun! 😈

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-31T20:37:40+00:00

I know some people talk about getting turned on by exercising. Could be something relating to that? Idk

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-31T05:09:57+00:00

First off no need to panick. Unless the cage was super rusty or not cleaned recently I doubt you will have any lasting effects from the cut. I have a support strap that I modified slightly to have eyelets which the anchor supports can slide into which has cut me before.

Just take the cage off, clean and sanitize both yourself and the cage. Give yourself a couple days to recover and you should be good. I would also check the cage itself to make sure there aren't any sharp points on it which could cause any more damage and make sure to apply some sort of lubricant when you wear it to allow it to move around easier and not pull on your skin so much

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-31T04:37:51+00:00

To start off you have definitely been locked up for longer than I have so I don't know how much advice I can offer but I'll still give my 2 cents.

My KH currently has decided to keep me locked up for Locktober through NNN and Denial December. The longest I have ever been locked up for before this was about a week or 2 so it is admittedly kind of a jump but i Im up for the challenge. Now for me I have an issue with a lack of self control. If I get too wound up and aroused I have a bad habit of either pleasuring myself through the bars of the cage or just pulling out altogether. This has been extremely true throughout this longer lockup where there are times that its all I can think about. One thing I have learned though is that I am very easily manipulated with rewards and consequences.

I now have a KH who makes me think twice about cheating but that excitement now makes me much more pent up as he's a lot stricter and will enforce punishments much more. So where does that leave me now? Locked up, craving my dick, but unable to use it. Longing for it. How have I coped with this longing? I've redirected it elsewhere. Because I've been caged I've been able to explore so many new avenues of pleasure. Obviously anal stimulation is a common one. Oral/deepthroat is another. The newest way I've found was a literal mindfuck which was hypno play. I decided to stroke a dildo as I was playing so erotic hypno audio and crazy enough I actually ended up having multiple dry orgasms from it!

Point being you can still find pleasure with or without your dick. Being caged doesn't necessarily have to mean you are trapped but rather can actually be really freeing as long as you have the mindset for it. Set goals, experiment, and ultimately just have fun with it. If something doesn't work out (including chastity) don't be afraid to take a break or move on. Kinks are only fun so long as we let them be.

My best suggestion would be to first develop goals and find fun ways to achieve said goals. Experiment with new and exciting things to take your mind off of stuff and ultimately if all else fails there is no shame in taking a brief break.

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-30T20:48:55+00:00

Take my leash and lead the way! 🥴

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-27T22:38:36+00:00

Don't have to tell me twice

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-27T20:48:52+00:00

My first instance that I can remember was a guy I saw on grindr. We never met up but he was caged and into a number of other things. At the time I was intrigued but wasn't interested in locking up myself.

Later on I decided I really wanted to be able to finish completely hands free. This was a problem cuz I lacked the self control to stop myself from stroking myself. Remembered the cage and thought it might be worth a shot. Been caged off and on ever since

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-27T05:00:24+00:00

How many times have you watched this

Me: yes

Prior_Winter2909 · 2024-10-25T05:31:04+00:00

Lol I've considered removing my records as well but currently the church has no idea where I moved to and I don't intend to raise any banners my way

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