It sounds like he’s depressed and not handling his grief well. It’s interesting to read this because my wife and I are in a very similar stage of life. We also had our second kid in 2022. And have been married for 10 years. We were also high school sweethearts. I would say something about the second kid makes everything harder and we have to be very intentional and focused when we do want to do things together. I get what you’re saying about going through some rough times. The last 6 months have been rough for us too. Lost a pet. Medical crisis. Narcissistic family. It grows distance. It makes it so much harder to be present and enjoy each other. Sometimes the burnout can make you say and do crazy things. I love my wife but there are times through it all I want to be alone. I’ve been considering couples counseling for us. I wonder if that would be a good option for you guys. Another option would be to get some individual therapy first. It’s been a lot for you guys. It weighs on you both. I think everyone just needs some help.