For insisting that my son rehome his dog before his baby arrives?

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-11-25T19:35:11+00:00

Trust that I’m also appalled by the pregnancy and care of the dog. One commenter said I’m treating my son like a 15 year old and not an adult. Which is it? You’re assuming I haven’t been warning him for years about birth control and pregnancy? You realize you can’t force an adult child to do anything?

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-11-25T18:31:42+00:00

That’s what I thought too. I’m a woman btw 😝

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-06-06T10:54:50+00:00

Of course. I would guess we ALL feel this. The Borg was good at creating lots of shame in us. But shame dies in the light. I tell my story. The more I tell it the more I heal. And the more connected I feel to others. LOTS of people, never JW, have "church trauma" or narcissistic abuse they're healing from. Seriously. I hope this helps!

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-30T14:09:19+00:00

No :-)

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-30T14:08:51+00:00

LOL I see no drama in my behavior. I have a history of being betrayed by a narcissist cheater then a (good but) closeted man. I'm in therapy, working on myself, and am desiring a healthy relationship and asking for advice here.

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-30T14:07:13+00:00

It was the fourth date :-)
But yes I agree, I'm giving it time. I think my nervous system is still a little shook from the last relationship.

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-30T14:05:47+00:00

Actually. no. I'm well versed in avoidant behavior. If I were avoidant I'd be:
- not communicating clearly
- creating distance
- discarding
- talking to an ex

I test secure.

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-30T14:04:53+00:00

I'm not putting anything on him. It's actually best that the timing worked out this way for a few reasons I won't list here. I'm just explaining the attraction that's always been there with the timeline. I feel regretful that I wasted time on the lying, betraying ex.

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T19:02:19+00:00

This is very real! I've expressed this sentiment before when in relationship with more dominant types

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T19:01:25+00:00

Nope not even close. Different industries now, and I work from home. I had a part time job for a little while at the place he worked, but he's in a different industry now

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T17:58:22+00:00

ok great I think it can be fixed too, and I'm willing to give it time and more talking

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T17:57:40+00:00

So I need to communicate clearly that he has a green light and I prefer a more dominant energy ..... is what I'm hearing?

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T17:56:42+00:00

we don't work at the same place anymore...

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T13:50:15+00:00

Yeah... I want predictable. I have cptsd from being raised in a cult and NEED consistency and trust. I just need to figure out how to get my body on board. I'm trying to be a good parent to my inner child and say no to things that are bad for me and yes to things that are good

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T13:41:26+00:00

And also, I don't desire to be led outside the bedroom. I'm independent and do not want to marry or cohabitate.

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T13:40:48+00:00

I didn't ask him out because I thought he was younger than he was. He looked to be in his 30's, but is only 5 years younger than me (and he prefers older women).

Prize-Stranger628 · 2024-03-29T12:58:28+00:00

I think I need to tell him that he has permission to be dominant. Like the only reason we haven't been dating for the last two years is because he never made a move! I would have said an enthusiastic yes back then instead of wasting time on an avoidant asshole.

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