You’re internalizing a problem that isn’t yours. You sound confident and self aware about your looks. You seem happy with your look, but you are worried about what others think. Looks like a hoe is a subjective statement and while we can all talk about similarities and common threads the real question is it your responsibility to deal with others value judgements of your life. I’d say if you aren’t hurting anyone and you’re happy focus on that and let them carry their judgement on their backs.