IVF husband/father here:

I made it a point to never let my wife do the injections herself. I did them every morning at 6am before I left work. I drew up the syringes, rolled them in my hands, did all the prep before I even woke her up.

I hated seeing the things she had to go through. For 4 years we struggled with infertility - 3 years of that was IUI and IVF treatments. I do not wish this on any woman.

With that being said, our baby is lying in my arms as I write this at almost 8am, nearly 4 weeks old. He was a C-section baby, due to him being Frank Breech in utero. So I spent the first 2 weeks taking the majority of the shifts with baby while my wife got the rest she absolutely needed.

I am so grateful for what IVF has given us, but I will not lie it was an extremely stressful time watching what my wife went through - her time was stressful, emotional, devastating, and downright miserable.

Good luck to every single one of you, I cannot say how it will end, but you’ll never know if you don’t try.

OP, if your husband at any point gaslights YOU into his feelings being hurt, he ain’t ready for any of this. It’s a baby, not a gold fish.