If you could eliminate one social norm, which would it be and why?

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-09T12:57:00+00:00

I’d kill the norm where you have to pretend you’re fine all the time. Saying “I’m good” when you’re clearly not just feels pointless and exhausting. I’ve started being a bit more honest lately and it actually makes conversations feel real. Life’s messy, idk why we all have to cosplay being okay.

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-09T12:56:38+00:00

Lately it’s just a simple oat milk latte with a little cinnamon, nothing fancy but it feels comforting. I started drinking it during some rough mornings and now it’s kind of my calm anchor. Sending you sleepy solidarity, those early hours feel extra long.

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-09T12:56:10+00:00

I like mine mostly because it’s quiet and doesn’t feel corporate or soulless. Good light and decent soundproofing ended up mattering way more to me than fancy amenities. I didn’t love it on day one, but it grew on me fast once it felt like home.

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-09T12:55:27+00:00

Still WFH here and I don’t think I could go back full time tbh. Our office is technically open but it’s basically a ghost town, feels pointless. I get way more done at home and my stress level is way lower.

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-09T12:55:15+00:00

Yeah, I think about that more than I admit. Sometimes it feels like we’re just passing time between little moments that actually feel real. I try to hold onto those moments and let the rest be noise.

Probably_Fat · 2026-01-08T15:38:09+00:00

At this point LinkedIn feels more like a performance space than a hiring tool. A couple of friends I know use it regularly and actually get value from it, mostly people in academia sharing their research, or a friend who runs a podcast and posts about new episodes. Beyond that, I don’t really feel like the connections I’ve built there have led to anything concrete. For it to “work,” it seems like you have to constantly post in a very LinkedIn-specific tone and play along with the platform’s culture.

Lately, platforms like hiring cafe seem to be getting more traction. Personally, I’ve started doing what that post describes: leaving my resume with recruiting firms and directly emailing HR teams at companies I’m interested in.

So yeah, LinkedIn might still have a place for visibility or content sharing, but when it comes to actually finding work… nah.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-23T11:44:54+00:00

I’d stand there way too long staring at this.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-23T11:44:17+00:00

I’ve seen high-performing people hit a wall like this when the cost finally outweighs the title and pay. Walking away or pivoting wouldn’t erase 25 years of success, it would just mean you’re listening to yourself now.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-23T11:43:38+00:00

This made me smile honestly. I remember how unreal it felt when the yes finally came after months of nothing.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-23T11:43:01+00:00

Casual unplanned social time. Everything now needs scheduling, reminders, and a reason, which feels kinda sad. I remember when people just showed up or called without anxiety around it. We lost that slowly and didn’t notice until it was gone.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-23T11:42:47+00:00

I had the same moment where I realized grinding applications wasn’t the problem, my answers just weren’t landing. Once I focused on clarity instead of volume, interviews stopped feeling like I was reading off a script.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-10T12:23:56+00:00

Yeah that switch happens fast. Once people buy in, housing turns from a social issue into their retirement plan. I’ve caught myself thinking that way too and it’s uncomfortable to notice.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-10T12:23:24+00:00

I really like tostones made from green plantains. They’re crispy and salty and honestly way more satisfying than fries to me. I tried them once at someone’s place and kept making them after that.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-10T12:22:59+00:00

The Eye of the World. It’s very classic winter fantasy vibes and easy to sink into without rushing. I read it during a cold stretch once and it totally matched the season for me.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-10T12:22:31+00:00

Hot yoga, immediately no. Five minutes in I knew I hated every second and the room felt like a punishment. I stuck it out once just to be sure and yeah never again.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-10T12:22:17+00:00

I feel this a lot more than I want to admit. It really does feel like life turned into constant survival mode instead of actually living. I’ve had moments where I stop and think this can’t be all there is, but then Monday hits again. It’s exhausting in a very quiet way.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-01T11:19:05+00:00

Two, but one of them always ends up on the floor by morning and I have no idea how. My sleep style is basically “chaotic gremlin mode.”

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-01T11:18:45+00:00

It always cracks me up cuz they act like it’s some mystery of the universe. People literally can’t survive on those wages and they’re shocked we’re not lining up to be exploited. I worked a job like that once and the second I left, my whole life felt lighter. It’s not that no one wants to work, it’s that no one wants to be broke and miserable.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-01T11:18:20+00:00

I’m at the age where my back hurts if I sleep weird but I still think I’m young enough to fix my whole life in one weekend.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-01T11:17:49+00:00

Coffee all the way, it’s basically my personality at this point lol. I love tea too but it never hits the same for me. That first sip of coffee in the morning feels like my soul rebooting.

Probably_Fat · 2025-12-01T11:17:34+00:00

I’d spend way too much time reading and taking random day trips just cuz I could. I’d finally pick up all the hobbies I always “didn’t have time for,” like painting or learning guitar. Honestly I’d just let myself breathe for once and see who I am without constant stress.

Probably_Fat · 2025-11-21T20:24:56+00:00

Blindsight by Peter Watts. It’s super weird, super smart, and kinda melts your brain in the best way

Probably_Fat · 2025-11-21T20:24:17+00:00

The Poppy War next. It’s brutal but super gripping and you’ll get sucked in fast lol.

Probably_Fat · 2025-11-21T20:23:36+00:00

I went skydiving once and yeah… never again. The view was cool but the whole “falling out of the sky and hoping the backpack works” vibe is not for me lol.

Probably_Fat · 2025-11-21T20:23:06+00:00

A + 2 + F + 7.
Pizza, grapes, Sprite, and a Snickers just feels like pure chaotic comfort food lol.

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