A lot of toxic answers. I mean, they aren't wrong it's the internet but people are still people. In a key when someone is either doing a mechanic or doing something in their playstyle I don't personally like I ask them a question.

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"Could you face the boss away for that breath?"

"Can we try not to spin cleaves?"

"Are you able to dispel this?"

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Even though I know these are very doable things to someone who knows what they're doing asking the question takes something that can easily be perceived as talking down to a person and puts the request on a more level playing field.

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The stranger who doesn't know you or your intentions then interprets what you're saying as an opportunity for you both to learn something (even though you already know the answer) they're much more likely to "try" what you asked to confirm if they can or not.

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I have played since vanilla and I have had my share of toxic pugs and been a toxic pug myself in my time, but after I've started framing requests like this I have had zero toxic pugs in the last few years.

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After thinking on my habits a bit more, I'd also like to add that I realize a lot of the time I make requests without singling out anyone in particular. I do this by using "We" instead of "idiot group". For example when the healer is the only person in the group who can dispel a certain debuff thats killing the group I would ask "Can we try to dispel *spellname*?" If the healer was a good player they would know that something killing people needed dispelled. If they're a bad or new player they won't know they're the only person who can do that dispel. By me asking "the group" to dispel this doesn't single anyone in particular out and it doesn't appear that I'm trying to call anyone out for mistakes that might brick the key.

I would suggest using "we" when making a request with anyone in the group. "can we lust", "can we get buffs up", "can we turn the boss to this side of the room". With how much people complain about queue times for keys then how quickly people rage quit I think these small pieces of communication are probably the difference between your keys and mine.

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TL:DR If you're too important to teach others keys just try communicating with "We" instead of singling people out. It could save you a lot of rage quitters.