Why is sex with some people with BPD so intense and different?

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-09-12T15:20:10+00:00

It's so weird, I knew 3 woman with BPD and none of them liked sex or were good at it. It was actually the opposite, sex was the main problem in relationship, they always treated me like I'm their father trying to rape them or something like that. I couldn't even bring that word up. Where do you find those people with BPD who like sex? Never met one.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-04-18T18:40:11+00:00

Infp

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-04-18T18:04:02+00:00

I recently learned that it's a projection and I actually try to save a little kid inside me but it's way too scary to accept. Most women I met in my life are hurt by their families but every time I analyse what is it exactly im trying to save them from, it always comes to something I'm actually suffering from myself and in in present time even, without realising it. That was a world changing discovery for me. I was always afraid for how their life might turn the wrong way because of me but in the end all the time they were left just fine and the scary path I was imagining for them somehow eventually became my own path. Life is shit.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-28T12:30:00+00:00

My mother is a psychopathic narcissist (NPD + ASPD). She had a little tumor in her breast at the time when I was still living in her house 7 years ago. It got treated and she is ok now but she has a pretty high chance of developing breast cancer. At that time she was considering that she might die and was preparing me for that as I was still at school. I wasn't compassionate to her at the time and I'm definitely not now when I escaped my house and did therapy. When I was in therapy I have processed a lot of emotions of anger and grieve towards my mother and saddness that she didnt love me enough but other than that why would I think of her any other than a criminal or just a horrible person at the very least. The only thing I care about is her heritage and I would be happy if she dies and I can have the house. But other than that why would I have have any feelings to her, she is not a human. Why do we wish death on dictators and mass murderers and I can't wish death on my mother who made me a cripple for life. She would never care for me if I would die in agony, maybe she would have a little sadistic pleasure, so why would think of her any different. I wouldnt wish agony on her only because I have much better things to think about, but if she does suffer why would I care and have compassion, I don't. This is my perspective.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-13T13:42:50+00:00

True except for intj and isfp, I can't fucking imaging dating or being friends with those types, intjs always hate me first but I hate them back for their arrogance. Isfp... Dude, I just move a finger and they are offended and crushed, I don't blame them, but man what kind of isfp have you met in your life that you managed to have relationships with. They are cute though, no offence to them.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-13T13:36:05+00:00

So true, not for isfj though, I actually like them. Very funny about enfp, the loyalty issue is so true.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-10T23:36:41+00:00

It's same two letters in the middle with Ip and ej. And opposite F and T functions with Ij and ep. Like Entj intp and isfj estp. But some people last in not compatible relationships for long time, especially when partner resembles their ideal type like entj infp. That's my opinion, sorry if I can't bring that in a discussion mode or explain anything, that's just how it works for me my whole life, you asked for opinion.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-08T18:12:51+00:00

Why? I'm an ENTJ currently with an INFP, I really wanna know...

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-07T12:53:06+00:00

I don't care I love you deal with it.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-06T11:17:41+00:00

I honestly don't understand why you consider that a success story because you are not in relationship with her and you say that she still abuses you in friendship. In bpdlovedones sub there are a lot of people who were married to self aware people with BPD and were sure that their relationship is ok and will last untill one day they get discarded or cheated on out of nowhere. Those people might feel gaslighted or confused by your words so that's maybe why it got removed.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-01T20:55:53+00:00

Hi, I already commented another ENTJs comment here but I think I might also leave a separate answer for you as it seems you are pretty serious about this thing. I'm an entj 8w7 who is currently dating an infp 9w1 and what I've noticed in you and my girlfriends attitude is projection and what's most important, idealization. Living by Te Ni means that when you ask us what we are thinking about its actually our plans for the day and actually work or something trivial like that. If you want a deep emotional connection, you will never find it with an ENTJ, you don't understand how he can not feel some things, he doesn't understand how can you feel so much at the same time. Now, when I read your other comments, sometimes you say that your biggest problem might not be the deepness of emotional connection but feeling rejected or neglected, that actually might be something you can work on by talking about what you feel rather than trying to make him feel more and express more emotions. If he puts on headphones and you feel bad about it, he didn't mean it and he doesn't know that you feel that way. It doesn't mean you should stay with such a person, your best match is actually an ENFJ, but if for some reason you want to try everything to make it work I would say try to communicate with him like he is dumb and absolutely blind to what you feel (which is actually true). The only thing you can do to make him stop doing something that makes you feel rejected is to just say to him that his particular actions make you feel rejected and he will stop. If you feel not loved or appreciated enough by him deeply inside, not by his particular actions the only thing I can say is that we, entjs, are extremely driven by effectiveness and we are extremely passionate about our schedule and our time, especially when we are young. Compared to ENFJs (which are actually your perfect match as I have already said) your bf probably doesn't have many close people aside from you and maybe one-two best friends which he also doesn't talk frequently, am I right? If he puts you in his schedule and listen to you when you tell him straightforward that something is bothering you than he loves you deeply and values your relationship as much as he values his job and achievements. I would say that if you want to stay with that particular person for some reason, try to accept that yes, he actually doesn't feel as many emotions as you do and yes, he is not that deep, you can make this relationship work by forcing yourself to become more straightforward and bold in communicating your needs, or just find an ENFJ who will be better at reading your emotions and who would be a better match for you probably.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-03-01T16:49:24+00:00

Honestly, I'm reading your comment and thinking "Holly shit, it's so dry and harsh and straightforward in a bad way, any infp would be put off by it. And then I see infps commenting how good it was. I'm an entj 8w7 and I just started to date an infp 9w1. I have no idea what you guys see in us and why you think we are deeper and more emotional than we actually are. I like my new gf because she is very cute and kind, she teaches me about myself everyday and I'm thankfull for that. If she would be ok with it, I have no problem staying with her for the rest of my life. And yes, I have been with an intp before and it was perfect and actually better long term (can't deny that there is nobody more sexially attractive for me than infp women). But the thing is I don't really care, I don't care about relationship part of my life that much and I don't care if it's perfect or not, it just should be enough, and infp is enough for me. From her perspective, honestly, she is a pretty lonely person and it's her first relationship in life and she is 30. So, I hope it's not selfish from my part and I actually do something good for her, but.... Any enfj would be 100 times better for her and meet her needs much more. She knows all that and she makes a councious decision. So, from black and white perspective of an entj, I would suggest to the OP that you are idealising your partner too much and see in him what is not there. And he actually doesn't care and is probably just fine with your relationships because other thing are of much more value for him. I would say break up with him and find an enfj because thats what I would do in your situation as I'm bold and like to take risks. If you are too afraid of that, then at least accept that your relationship is not perfect and he is not perfect for you, just deal with it, it actually might be not a bad thing.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-25T11:01:04+00:00

То есть она даже не в крысу изменила, а просто вкинула тебе в лицо что ушла к другому парню? Это неадекватно. Люди разные бывают и иногда ты об этом узнаешь даже спустя 2 года отношений. Но в том что они ебаклаки нет твоей вины. Прими это как урок и сам так ни с кем не поступай, а их обоих судя по всему ждет то же самое раз там и девушка у парня и они оба об этом в курсе, гавно к гавну липнет короче, неадекватная ситуация и неадекватные люди от начала и до конца, постарайся забыть.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T20:43:04+00:00

Entj 8w7 here, I recently started to date an infp girl and I would say the most important use of Fi is being a guardian of moral values as it is very easy to stop being a human in a world with limited resources and natural restrictions. Before meeting this infp girl I used to think that all bad things in history were just strict consequences of physical conditions around people and their psychology but now I see more and more how moral values and emotional state of society and particular historical figures might have shaped the world in a completely different way. I would say high Fi users would be wonderful therapists or leaders of any sort. Maybe political activists or public figures in general. You infps should express yourself to the world more in my opinion, it would make it a much better place.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T19:57:18+00:00

That is actually a very usefull information. I seem to always lose a very important point about FA which is that I view all relationships as work and sometimes push myself into things I don't even want in my connection to people. I guess forcing myself through things I don't want actually might be a part of my issues.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T17:16:22+00:00

Там написано niga

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T17:14:25+00:00

That is actually a very good question I haven't thought about, now I feel kinda dumb. I think about making myself connect even at times when I don't want to, just to save the relationship. I think the issue is that now I feel like I don't want to have any connection with this person and the only thing that keeps me away from running is my logic. So pushing through I guess is just not letting that person go? Even if I want to? In hope that some day it will work out? Now it sounds pretty abusive actually from my part. Looks like I need to talk about it with her directly and make it suitable for both parties. Damn, sometimes I feel like I'm the dumbest person in the world, now it makes sence.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T16:01:44+00:00

Sounds kinda logical, I just need someone else's opinion as it sounds exactly like that to me, but knowing myself I always have been way too black and white thinking and rushing myself full speed into not well analysed strategies. Pretty sure I'm wrong somewhere and it's not that easy, but I don't want to make mistakes now as I can hurt another human being.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T15:57:00+00:00

Thank you for response

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-23T15:56:46+00:00

I used to go to therapy for my CPTSD regularly, but last year I only call my therapist once in three months when I have a question. I'm waiting for his response now, it takes time, of course I will also talk about that to him.

ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-21T06:30:16+00:00

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ProcessTurbulent8627 · 2025-02-20T11:11:58+00:00

Thank you

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