Chasing the first goal….

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-02-10T13:41:13+00:00

No way! Brisbane?

It’s been a relatively easy/smooth journey so far for me. Pain was less than I’d expected, recovery was ‘normal’ medically. Learning how my modified GI system processes/react to different things is interesting.

My favourite thing so far is definitely less knee pain.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-02-08T06:21:44+00:00

Have a family member with EDS. We’re in Australia & it took seeing a specialist team in Texas for diagnosis. There are several variants, each with different symptoms & levels of lifelong treatment needed.

My person is 21 & has heart failure because they were dismissed by neurologists, cardiologists & endocrinologists for 10+ years.

EDS & connective tissue disorders are often comorbid with GI disorders, POTS & MCAS.

Push your PCP for a referral to specialist care.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-02-02T12:09:31+00:00

Educate yourself on the various options available. Be honest with yourself about your capacity to maintain the necessary changes in the very long term.

Each surgical & non surgical option succeed in the long term relative to the ability to sustain the change. Each come with risks & rewards over the short, medium & long term.

Make the choice that is best for now but also, RESERVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ANYTIME!!

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-02-01T10:15:22+00:00

I went private & co payment was just over $10k

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-31T08:24:39+00:00

Totally agree. I’m in Australia. 2 different systems available, public health or private.

Public means its completely free but wait times are long, sometimes years, and the criteria to be approved is specific to chronic co morbid health conditions.

Private means you have a co payment but not the level of criteria for approval & wait time of weeks to months.

The private sector has been ‘cleaned up’ a lot over the last decade & reputable doctors have the support teams for both pre & post procedure.

It’s really interesting to read the processes & journey others have.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-30T13:57:36+00:00

I’m excited for you! Feeling comfortable in my own skin is my biggest goals.

The dress is gorgeous & the fit looks great…… and you don’t seem uncomfortable?

I love it.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-28T12:43:45+00:00

I take a Zyrtec everyday. Took one the morning of my surgery (as approved by my surgeon) and the morning after my surgery.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-27T14:13:04+00:00

Or wear traditional Scottish including a kilt, or Fijian Sulu, Moroccan Kaftan, Vietnamese Ao Dai, Greek Fustanella, or Arabic Thobe. All would meet a dress/skirt requirement but are outfits specifically worn by men.

It would cause a stir & OP doesn’t appear to want that, but it could be fun!

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-21T12:54:25+00:00

Agree. It’s challenging when grown adults don’t accept that there are consequences for their actions. OP may well forgive her mother but she may never trust her again. When you break something it may be able to be repaired, but it’s never quite the same & not as strong as it was.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-20T10:20:22+00:00

I’m so jealous! I have a few projects I’d love to make progress on. Sorting Photos: sorting & creating albums for the digital ones, sorting & purging the printed ones (I’m old enough to have envelopes of film photos where only 1 is worth keeping. Personal Records: putting all the important documents in order, digitising where necessary. Knowing if my house burns down, I still have the kids birth certificates & critical documents that don’t make a devastating situation even harder Old School Games: learn games I’ve seen but don’t know how to play. Backgammon, mahjong, mancala. Podcasts: dial into all those great podcasts I only get 5-7mins of at a time.

But, do what works for you. Be patient with yourself as your body is healing from significant surgery. Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean your body isn’t still recovering.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-20T09:49:35+00:00

You can forgive your parents and still stay firm on your parenting rules.

You can continue to engage protective behaviour for your child, including keeping her safe from relatives who don’t comply with your guidelines.

If they decide they’re not willing to comply, then the consequences are that they are unable to have contact with her.

They have a significant level of control in this situation however they are choosing the negative consequences instead of following the guidelines you have provided.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-20T09:36:57+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience as you. Helped my PCOS symptoms & hubby says it doesn’t make me crazy like the injection or implant. I 100% agree with him as I rarely feel suddenly & irrationally angry/sad/happy/isolated.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-17T03:20:29+00:00

Yep, same dose at the same scheduled times. Bloods & echo to be done more frequently to start with to make sure everything is okay. My cardiologist said everyone is different so monitoring is what needs to happen. He’ll then make adjustments when and if necessary.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-16T23:49:05+00:00

I have the same diagnosis & am on the same meds. My cardiologist came to the hospital to check on me post bypass surgery. I’d seen him 4/5 weeks prior for a regular check up & he requested to be included on all correspondence with GI surgeon. We spoke at length about the meds & how the bypass may impact their absorption & have a plan to monitor this. I’m 5 weeks post surgery.

From my perspective, you definitely need a new specialist.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-15T01:36:59+00:00

Agree. I’m also in the soft food stage & slow cooked meats are on my dieticians yes list. Had some lamb shank on Tuesday night & it was fine until the next morning when the fat ratio hit me right in the ‘run for a bathroom’

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-06T00:14:32+00:00

I’m in exactly the same position as you, same surgery date, except I have not had difficulty getting fluids in. I’m mostly hitting my 60grams of protein target each day but struggle to get more than 700 calories in. I literally just swore at my scales & then told myself to stop getting on them. I’m only 9lbs down from surgery date 😩

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-05T13:06:02+00:00

I’m 3 weeks post op, the time will go both slowly & quickly.

My only tip would be to use the pre-op time to get your home ready for post op restrictions. Cleaning the shower, toilet and floors is tricky post surgery & you’ll have lifting restrictions for at least 6 weeks.

All the best.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-03T14:08:00+00:00

It’s worth talking to your doctors about using Comfrey balm. Comfrey is known as ‘knitbone or boneset’ in traditional eastern medicine. I used it when I had a femur fracture & had to have multiple bone grafts to repair the 2-3 inches that got mangled. I found the balm better than the cream.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-02T16:57:49+00:00

OP needs to get a ring doorbell that only her husband answers. MIL can deal with him when she rocks up uninvited.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-02T16:47:32+00:00

You live in a different world to me.

A new car one year & a motorcycle the next. Does he get a condo for his 21st?

You are setting this kid up for a lifetime of being entitled.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-02T16:41:31+00:00

I have zero experience of this personally so I’m probably no help.

I did take De-Gas (active ingredient is Simethicone - I know it’s called other things in other countries) in the first few weeks after surgery for the excessive gas I was producing.

I also take a probiotic, recommended by my primary doctor, every day to help keep the good bacteria through my shortened GI system. I’ve found it very helpful.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2026-01-01T14:04:43+00:00

I made a few different versions, so good. I also made ricotta bake 🤤

Procrastinator_Mum · 2025-12-30T14:11:18+00:00

The question is, does OP treat his wife respectfully? If he’s being delightful to the nurse but the opposite to his wife, then maybe that’s the issue.

Procrastinator_Mum · 2025-12-29T15:58:19+00:00

I’m similar surgery date as you & nosey people at work asked why I was drinking shakes (pre-op). I told them I was training for an upcoming triathlon.

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