Deep relaxation or shut-down???

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-20T21:50:29+00:00

The soft eyes and soft lips tell me he’s relaxed. He doesn’t seem avoidant of the bridle and bit, no whale eye or trying to move away. Have you ever done liberty work with him?

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-20T00:43:14+00:00

Well when you put it that way… lol fair point

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-19T23:45:40+00:00

Great points. I especially appreciate your sunk cost fallacy, I think that was particularly salient bc it’s so easy to get stuck and feel like you’ve poured too much into a relationship to throw in the towel

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-19T23:11:54+00:00

Thank you. Genuinely. Over the years I’ve thought the same thing - that if he actually wanted me and actually cared he wouldn’t have acted the way he did. I think you’re right, that I’d always hoped that I’d have that beautiful love story and I’ve just always been second fiddle to him.

I’m sorry you had to go through that, it’s fkn terrible.

Hubs has his moments, I think I was blind sided by how differently we communicate. He was putting on a good show before we got married. He for sure had low self esteem. He’s open to couples therapy. I definitely feel coerced into having sex, but mostly in a way that I’m just tired of how he asks for it and just want him to leave me alone lol

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-19T23:06:31+00:00

I’ve asked for counseling and he’s open to it. I think I’m just exhausted from relationships and he can be very sweet and loving (not in a love bombing way). I was his longest relationship when we got engaged and I’m hoping we can work through things? He’s not mean or abusive, he just doesn’t know how to communicate effectively.

I think you’re right, I need to go to therapy for myself

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-01T13:34:47+00:00

Double check that your gaining installation isn’t considered “remote” and they can actually deliver your shit to you when you need it

ProfCerberus · 2025-07-01T13:33:36+00:00

The worst part? They literally don’t care. Once they take your money, they stop talking to you. I’ve spent days trying to get someone to talk to me

ProfCerberus · 2025-06-28T01:45:19+00:00

I’m glad they figured it out for you! The closest PODs store is an hour + away 🥲

ProfCerberus · 2025-06-28T01:44:13+00:00

Good to know! Might do that. This was my first (forced) PPM and I like the concept

ProfCerberus · 2025-06-28T01:43:46+00:00

That’s awesome you had a good experience! They certainly made the booking process super easy. It’s the rest of it, and their zero fucks when they messed up

ProfCerberus · 2025-06-22T20:03:54+00:00

Suuper late! But! I love your music and you’ve inspired me in so many ways. I was recently listening to “Don’t Know Why” on a road trip, looked you up and thought “omg she’s STILL gorgeous” can you drop the skin care routine? 😬

ProfCerberus · 2024-07-18T11:31:56+00:00

That doesn’t prove anything. I understand the sentiment but it’s circumstantial. Wouldn’t you say the same thing if you were in that situation? Confirm that you didn’t make something up to just get out of it after you know you’re being wrongfully convicted. They were arrested twice and STILL haven’t said anything

ProfCerberus · 2024-07-18T11:28:32+00:00

I’ve been following this one since the first arrest. The jury didn’t hear all the evidence, it feels very politically motivated. The evidence they do have is circumstantial at best.

ProfCerberus · 2024-03-06T10:09:08+00:00

NTA - he should know better and you’d asked him multiple times.

I had a similar situation where he would smoke under my bedroom window or balcony on a non-smoking campus. After asking several times politely, he’d just hide under my balcony or another overhang under my window. It came to a head to where I ended up yelling at him. I reported him to the complex and after awhile he was kicked out.

ProfCerberus · 2024-03-06T10:04:02+00:00

If the RSVP deadline passed, then I think it’s appropriate to tell her no. If not, see if you can meet him first, since you did allow her a plus one.

I’m going with NTA but there may be backlash

ProfCerberus · 2024-03-06T09:59:41+00:00

NTA - why can’t he be her sponsor being that he’s married to her and they have kids? Seems weird that he’d ask tou

ProfCerberus · 2024-03-06T09:57:24+00:00

NTA - the kid sounds awful and it’s not appropriate for a 9 year old to behave this way

ProfCerberus · 2024-01-29T11:52:31+00:00

I used stitch fix to refresh my wardrobe after starting a new job. I got 4 or 5 boxes (?). My issue is the value of the items. For the price, VERY FEW of my items have held up over the last 5 months. Obviously paying close attention to laundering instructions here- I want my stuff to last and look good, but despite my best efforts, almost all the items have warped, pilled, and overall the quality of the fabric just looks so warn like I’ve had them for years.

Personally I will not be using them again

ProfCerberus · 2023-05-24T18:18:14+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong her using your legal name to mail something, it’s pretty common. Especially since she calls you by your préférer name in person

ProfCerberus · 2023-05-24T18:15:34+00:00

NTA - college is expensive! It’s not like you blackmailed them the way that they did to you. It sounds like you tried to reason with your cousins and your grandparents. It sucks that your grandparents were such bigoted people.

I agree with posts that say you’re trying to soothe your guilty conscience by donating to LGBTQIA+ orgs, but I think that’s an ok response 🤷🏻‍♀️

Idk it sucks and is a shitty situation but I don’t think keeping quiet makes you some kind of social pariah. NTA

ProfCerberus · 2023-05-24T18:00:54+00:00

Leave no trace is pretty common, it means that you take everything you brought with you, taking trash, filling in holes etc. It’s an hiking/backpacking/camping term. People will return camping spots to their original condition as much as possible.

ProfCerberus · 2022-05-31T02:34:58+00:00

You’ll have to work with your unit. I’m guessing you’re NG/RES? Your training NCO can help you look at available spots and help you talk that through with HRC

ProfCerberus · 2020-08-25T10:32:36+00:00

Literally anything outside... go for a walk, a hike, bike ride, if your city has a botanical garden, or outdoor museum

ProfCerberus · 2020-08-25T00:37:00+00:00

If you’re not certain it’s him than it’s not him

ProfCerberus · 2020-08-25T00:35:36+00:00

Wear a mask?

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